I hate my baby

[Secondchildregret]

Honestly about to refer myself to SS because I really want to hurt my baby.. I’m at my white end and I don’t know what the fuck to do.

10.30 I finally get to sleep, ds1 wakes up coughing at 11:15 wakes the house up, then ds2 wakes up at 12:00 whining crying screaming shouting wimpering - nothing settles him he’s really ruining my life. Wel it is ruined. My brain aches every single day. It’s 2 am and I have to be up for work in 4 hours and function in normal society.

literally not one family member has them overnight there’s no option for anything else. I hate the affect he has had on my life. One year in and I get ~3.5 hours a night broke sleep. I FUCKING HATE MY CHILD it’s been like this for a YEAR.

12 times I’ve been up and down trying to settle in the last 2 hours, he goes quiet and then whimpers off screams again.

it’s never ending.
people don’t understand the severity when I say I’m tired, this is torture, absolute torture

yes we’ve seen doctors and they say he’s fine. Someone needs to take this child away from me

@Covgal83 I'd suggest starting your own thread. X

I’m so sorry! I thought I was. I’m sorry OP. Shall attempt to delete!!

Has he been checked for infected or swollen adenoids or tonsils? Have his ears been properly checked for ear infections? If you give him antihistamine before bed does it make any difference?

Since you're getting so many suggestions for a medical referral, thought it might be mentioning our experience. We ended up going private and had a chest X ray, blood tests, and common allergens (hayfever, etc., not food). Also fully examined and then the same when he went back for another chest X ray a month later to compare. It wasn't hugely helpful in diagnosing a cause - for us it seems to have just been bad luck and lack of immune system due to lockdowns - but it helped mentally knowing we were doing something to solve the problem and removed the other worry that it was a proper ongoing issue.

Hi SecondChildRegret,

We're so sorry that you're feeling this way.

We can see you're already getting some good support from other Mumsnetters here, but we thought we'd also add a link to our Mental Health resources as there are many organisations listed which could give you some more support in real life. The Samaritans are there for you too, by emailing [email protected] or calling 116 123, any time.

We'd also like to point you in the direction of an organisation called PANDAS Foundation which was set up to support families through pre- and postnatal depression. Their webpage is here and they have a free helpline, available Monday – Sunday 11am-10pm - 0808 1961 776.

We also wanted to share a link with Mind's information on Managing mental health problems with a new baby. It's an online booklet for any parent living with a mental health problem, with suggestions on what you can do to help yourself and your baby. It also explains what support is available and includes information for friends and family. Please do take a look.

Last but not least, have you heard of Cry-Sis? It's specifically a place to help parents whose babies cry and cry, and they have a section for your baby's age range here.

We're going to move your thread over to our Mental Health topic shortly. We're really hoping that you've managed to rest since last night, and we appreciate you reaching out for support, it's a very brave thing to do and we only hope that the kind MNers were able to help a little.

OP please try a white noise/ sound machine and also swaddling if possible

She said in her OP ds1 woke up first coughing not the baby.