My post got deleted - ‘know I’m going to kill myself’

[missgraciea]

I just wanted to message on here to say thank you for the support that I received on the post and that I am ok. Unfortunately as it has now been deleted I can’t use the messages to show the GP that I am going to today.
Unfortunately Mumsnet sent round the police to my property my using the IP address to trace me which was the last thing I needed and so I’ll be leaving Mumsnet now but wanted to take a moment to say thank you to all of the posters that did give me support on the previously thread.

Mn did the right thing.

If someone posted that they were going to kill themselves and then they did I am quite sure nobody here criticising MN would be saying well yes they knew and yes they could have alerted the police but they were right not to because it invaded the now dead persons privacy. I'm fairly sure the grieving relatives would have quite strong views on who should have done what.

OP I really, really hope you get the support you need . I have been there and have come out the other side.

I have been a teacher (of adults)for 30 years. During that time policies on disclosure have changed. Years ago we always used to say that if a student wanted to share something with us it would always be confidential if that was what they wanted. It is different now. If somebody shares something about significant harm (or potential harm) we HAVE to report it. I found it odd for a while and I know that some people I was supporting did too. They thought whatever they said to me would remain secret. Now I understand how important it is to disclos some thingd. MN were doing absolutely the right thing. Apart from the fact that reporting these things may lead to the right help being put in place it also protects those who are listening to you. It's distressing for them too.

OP I remember your thread and was quite worried went you went suddenly quiet. I think MN did the right thing. I'm glad you're getting help x

I'm shocked MN did that, but I also think it's the right thing. Hope you're better soon.

@HollowTalk

They sent the police round?! I am really glad you are okay but I think their actions are way beyond what I would expect on here.

Disagree

Not sure if you saw the post, but they have a duty of care and in my opinion absolutely did the right thing

I'm glad you are feeling better and hope GP can provide help in RL. But as a mother of a DD with MH issues and has suicidal ideation, I'm glad MN did the responsible thing. Please take care of yourself, it's a place to be. [hugs]

I hope you can get the help you need from your GP. MN did absolutely the right thing by sending someone round to check on you. If you’ve learned anything from your thread it shouldn’t be “not to reach out for support” it should be that even total strangers care enough about you to post advice, support and sympathy for your situation and that by reaching out for help you will get it.

I know when you’re depressed you can’t see the “glass is half full” perspective, but honestly it would have been irresponsible of MN to allow your thread to stand, with posters investing their emotional energy in supporting you, many of them having been in your shoes, only to leave you to your own devices.

This place is an amazing hub of support for (mainly) women in all sorts of difficult circumstances. I hope you’ll continue to post and then in future you can also support others going through it by telling them that even in your darkest days, people cared enough to listen and to act.

I think it's amazing that a website called the police to do a welfare check. Well done MN.

missgraciea

MNHQ did the right thing you know. Hopefully it will lead to you getting the help and support that you need.

In the darkest of times, there is always light. Always hope.

Take MN up on their offer to get the posts so that you can show them to your GP.

Keep kicking OP. Keep kicking. Your little girl needs you. 🌻

I think they definitely acted responsibly and I would have done the same. if I could. Go to your GP and get the help you need OP.

Moderators have a really difficult and responsible role on here. And I'm sure we don't see the half of it.

I have great empathy with the staff member reading your thread. The rest of us were not in a position to do anything, so distressing as it might be to read it, we would have had no reason to berate ourselves if you had carried out your intention, OP.
But the moderator knew that there was something s/he could do, and living with doing nothing, had you succeeded, would have been dreadful. Apart from that, MN staff rules will have obliged them to react as they did.

I'm sorry you feel/felt that way. Thank you, Mumsnet, for alerting police too, glad to know 'you're' looking out for people

We'll all have opinions on whether we think MN went OTT or not, but I am really glad you are getting support. Your post did read like a really strong call for help, to me anyway. Take care and I hope life get's better for you, a step at a time.

@Elodeastar

We'll all have opinions on whether we think MN went OTT or not, but I am really glad you are getting support. Your post did read like a really strong call for help, to me anyway. Take care and I hope life get's better for you, a step at a time.

Not sure why I wrote get's - it should be gets. Silly me.

@missgraciea

Please email MNHQ for the information you wanted to take to the GP. Unfortunately this thread has been full of well done MN, and while I totally agree they did the right thing, it's not what you need to hear right now. I hope your GP appointment goes well and you are able to access some support. Come back to MN when you are are ready, people care

There was another post not so long ago by someone asking for help from MN as another poster was private messaging them and had taken an overdose. It’s brilliant that they were able to help in this way and it’s probably for the best that they then hide the thread as they can still let the OP have a copy of it.

Wishing you all the best OP.

MN did the right thing, I was worried reading your thread.

Remember people care. I've called the Samaritans before when distressed and reached out to my GP who has been supportive. Life can be so challenging at times but support and time can really help.

Thank you so much Mumsnet for caring about us all.

Best wishes OP

MN did the right thing.

I hope you get the help you need.

How are you? @missgraciea

This happened to me too, OP. I had made a serious attempt, posted here and MN sent the police to my house. I felt it was extremely intrusive, and the police officers were very aggressive, barging into my bedroom while I was half dressed etc. It was awful and it left me feeling very anxious that my privacy had been invaded like that, not to mention my neighbours' twitching curtains 😬

HOWEVER I know deep down that they did the right thing, and had I read about the same thing happening to someone else I would have been glad that MN acted the way they did. They do have a duty of care. What else could they do, really? I absolutely understand how you're feeling and I hope your GP can help. Hopefully you'll be feeling a lot better soon 🙂