My post got deleted - ‘know I’m going to kill myself’

[missgraciea]

I just wanted to message on here to say thank you for the support that I received on the post and that I am ok. Unfortunately as it has now been deleted I can’t use the messages to show the GP that I am going to today.
Unfortunately Mumsnet sent round the police to my property my using the IP address to trace me which was the last thing I needed and so I’ll be leaving Mumsnet now but wanted to take a moment to say thank you to all of the posters that did give me support on the previously thread.

Well done MN

I think they did the right thing

I called the police once when someone on a forum I was on said they were going to attempt suicide. They saved his life and he was incredibly angry with me for many years. About ten years later he reached out to thank me - in the intervening time his life had completely transformed, he had moved countries, changed jobs and just got married.

Hope is round the corner, OP. The world is better with you in it. I'm glad MNHQ was able to help in your moment of crisis.

Please get your messages from mumsnet and use them to show the GP, we are still here to talk to OP, no one wants anything to happen to you. Stay strong, we may be strangers but we care, as do mumsnet, proven by their actions to check you were safe

I know you can’t see it now, OP but your post was a cry for help and MN did absolutely the right thing. Thank you MN.
I hope all goes well with your appointment with your GP and that things improve for you.

Good luck Op.

And well done Mumsnet.

@gonnagetgoing

Not really sure why you quoted me or your point. "@Mumdiva99 - but she's planning on leaving the site - which is her right to do so." - I never said anything about her leaving. I said I was pleased she found her original post gave her support.

@missgraciea when I was in a very bad way, told someone and all the wheels went into motion, I was mortified, so I can empathise with your reaction. It's natural for someone who is feeling as you've been feeling. In time, I suspect - I hope - you'll see that both you and MN did exactly the right thing. Well done for posting.

I hope you get the help you need and deserve. You can get through this and it does get better. Much love xx

I'm shocked they sent the police round, and feel that invades peoples privacy and makes me look at the forum differently but I guess they have a duty this is the internet. There’s no such thing as privacy.

I didn’t see the thread in question, and I am in two minds about calling the police, however if them having done so means the OP is going to get help then that was presumably a good thing.

@BooksAndGin

I'm shocked they sent the police round, and feel that invades peoples privacy and makes me look at the forum differently but I guess they have a duty.

I'm glad your okay and going to get help, all the best OP.

It depends on the circumstances doesn’t it? I’ve never known mn to do this. But there’s a difference between an op saying they’re feeling suicidal and an op saying they’re literally about to commit suicide. As it is the police have visited, the op is still alive and has an appointment with a gp, and mn are still helping her and recovering and sending the deleted messages she wants to show the doctor. Where do you think they went wrong?

Well done MN.

Op, please reconsider leaving the forums. MN posters can be very supportive and it is a sounding board for feelings you maybe can't express anywhere else.

I am really glad you are getting some help.

I'm so glad you're getting the help you need OP, don't let the fact MN were worried about you (as we all were) put you off talking to us, you can't see it now but they did the right thing for you and your baby girl, best of luck and keep in touch to let us know how you are doing..

@lightand

If they have to do it they have to do it, but it is a warning to everyone that posting on a social forum is very far from a private thing to do. You are essentially telling the world your private thoughts.

And sometimes, that’s exactly what people need - to share their private thoughts AND have someone in a better frame of mind take action when needed. A cry for help shouldn’t be ignored. Good job MN.

That said, I appreciate that must’ve been distressing for you OP and I hope you’re getting good support and doing better. You did the right thing reaching out, the result may have been really awkward but you’re still here and that’s awesome and I wish you the best.

Well done MN. They did the right thing and this is what you needed even if you didn’t want it. You will see this in the future.

This is the second time I’ve read of MN sending the police to a vulnerable person and they were correct on both occasions.

Another one who wants to thank MN.

OP I’m so sorry you found that intervention intrusive and wrong, but one day you might feel differently. I’m sure your family and loved ones would be very thankful, would they know.
I’ve been in dark places and I fully understand you can’t always understand at the time. One baby step at a time, you can get through this.

I thi k you'll look back and be very grateful that MN acted to get you help.

It's kinda forced you to address this with proper support. Not just a load of us mum's that offer advice (which may be flawed ). I hope you get the support you need X

@missgraciea

I just wanted to message on here to say thank you for the support that I received on the post and that I am ok. Unfortunately as it has now been deleted I can’t use the messages to show the GP that I am going to today. Unfortunately Mumsnet sent round the police to my property my using the IP address to trace me which was the last thing I needed and so I’ll be leaving Mumsnet now but wanted to take a moment to say thank you to all of the posters that did give me support on the previously thread.

Have you been offered support ?

@BooksAndGin

I'm shocked they sent the police round, and feel that invades peoples privacy and makes me look at the forum differently but I guess they have a duty.

I'm glad your okay and going to get help, all the best OP.

Stupidity knows no bounds, sometimes some one has to get involved. Would it really be acceptable to ignore?

MN did a sterling job asking the police to do a welfare check. We're trained to do this as part of our job.

OP - lots of luck & very best wishes getting the help you need and deserve.

When was sending the police to someone who says they are going to kill themselves the wrong thing.

You make threats to commit suicide and people that care try to stop you. That's the way it should be. We should try to help people and the first step is to prevent the suicide. The next step is signpost you to support so you can can yourself help.

I’m so glad you are ok OP and that you are going to see the GP.

A forum of this type will have a duty of care to intervene, i say mn did the right thing personally. Glad you are feeling better now op xx

While I agree that MN did the right and responsible thing, I don't think this thread is particularly helpful to the OP. She doesn't need to be chastised or contradicted for feeling how she feels about the police knocking on her door.

Op I'm pleased you are feeling better and hope you get the support you need. As you've seen, MN can be a very supportive, caring place so I hope you decide to stick around.

Good work from Mumsnet. Agree this isn’t the place for a suicide note.

Glad you're going to your gp, I hope you start to feel better soon.

Well done mumsnet HQ 👏 I'm glad you sent the police to check on her welfare. It would have been so easy to ignore, but you didn't. Thank you.