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Son attempted #trigger

77 replies

Bonkerz · 27/12/2021 18:34

So I'm sat in hospital.
Been here since 3am. Police drove me here.
Son jumped 30ft from a bridge.
He's currently in surgery
Perforated bladder
Broken hip
Broken pelvis
Broken leg
Broken wrist
3 fractures to his jaw

I can't understand it.

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Oldtiredfedup · 27/12/2021 18:37

I’m so sorry, OP.

Can you have someone there with you?

Don’t try to understand it right now - and the truth is you may never understand it. I tried the same thing several years ago - I don’t fully understand it myself and don’t recognise the person who decided to do it. But I’m here now several years later.

Offering you a hand to hold.

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Bonkerz · 27/12/2021 18:39

Thankyou. I'm lucky they are letting me stay with him (21 but autistic) but no one else can visit etc. I'm far from home in a city I don't know. My friends are rallying to care for my other children.

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LynetteScavo · 27/12/2021 18:56

I'm so sorry to read this.

Please look after yourself, make sure you eat and sleep x

CouldThisReallyBe · 27/12/2021 18:58

Sorry OP - he's in good hands for now. Are you okay?

procrastinationstations · 27/12/2021 18:58

Oh OP. What a horrendous shock - have they called the crisis team to offer help for you?

Santahatesbraisedcabbage · 27/12/2021 18:59

SO sorry you are going through this op.. It's nearly 5 years since my ds crashed his car.. Took him about 3 years to admit it wasn't an accident.. Stopped him jumping off a bridge 2 years ago. Whenever he doesn't text back quickly I get that panic feeling. He accessed the local mh team who came out daily. Even when he refused to talk. He refused meds but did talk to them in time. He still has down days but is getting there... Take all the help offered op. Even if your dc won't open up right now.

BerthaBlythe · 27/12/2021 19:01

Here with another hand to hold. I live with this fear.

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Bonkerz · 27/12/2021 19:04

Thankyou. No mention of crisis team but he's going to be in hospital for a fair few weeks so I will push for some help.
Before he went down to surgery he said he didn't jump and wouldn't but that was prob the drugs.
I'm so confused by it all.

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Oldtiredfedup · 27/12/2021 19:06

For now just concentrate on looking after yourself and getting him through recovery including pushing for crisis team intervention.

Later, possibly to help you understand, have a read in the NAS www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/mental-health/suicide

NiceTwin · 27/12/2021 19:26

Oh bless you, what a shock for you.
My friend's brother did this with a very similar list of injuries. He is some years on now but it was a long haul to be walking again.
Mentally he is in a much better place and still has access to the mh team when he needs it.

Notgettingbetter · 27/12/2021 19:39

Oh you poor things ❤️ I really hope he recovers well and I hope you are well supported.

wizzler · 27/12/2021 20:07

No advice Op but thinking of you.

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Bonkerz · 28/12/2021 18:38

So after listening to ramblings of my son and then a call from the police it's looking less like a suicide attempt.
The surgeon who fixed his face has declared that he did not jump and his injuries fit with falling over the railings.
The people who "found him are not known to him but are know to police and we are now getting cctv checked thanks to phone gps

Possible homophobic attack maybe.

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Unreasonabubble · 28/12/2021 18:41

Oh no! I am so upset for you and your DS.

Omicrone · 28/12/2021 18:41

Oh Jesus, I'm so sorry OP. I hope that you get some more answers and lots of support in the coming weeks and months. Sending hugs to you and your son Flowers

raffle · 28/12/2021 18:43

Bloody hell, that is horrendous. Hope CVTV has all the evidence you need. Thinking of you both

purpleboy · 28/12/2021 18:45

Shit op that is horrendous. I hope you ds is ok. Sending you massive love and support.

imip · 28/12/2021 18:46

Op, I am so sorry to hear this. My dd, probably ASD was recently pulled down from a bridge - horrifying. Whether an attack or suicide, he is very clearly a vulnerable young man and I do hope you get the support he needs. Please fight for it x

Motnight · 28/12/2021 18:47

Wishing you and your son all the best, Op.

tenredthings · 28/12/2021 18:48

I am so sorry. Be kind to yourself, you have had a terrible shock . This will take time to unravel and mend and you will need to keep your strength. He is in good hands now and thankfully he hasn't broken his back or neck . My DS had a bad accident / fall so I can really empathize Brew

Oldtiredfedup · 28/12/2021 18:50

Oh OP. What an awful awful thing.

morningstruggles · 28/12/2021 18:50

So sorry OP. Hang in there, we're all behind you Thanks

Strugglingtodomybest · 28/12/2021 18:52

Bloody hell! That's awful OP. I'm not sure what to say other than I'm thinking of you Flowers

YoureAllABunchOfBastards · 28/12/2021 18:53

Sending love and strength. Poor you and your poor boy xx

Wagsandclaws · 28/12/2021 18:56

Op I'm so sorry to have read your update, either scenario is awful, poor you and your poor boy.

I'm hoping that he recovers from this quickly and that his and your heads are in the right place for the months to come.

I'm thinking of you both Thanks