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If you could go to sleep today and never wake up again would you be OK with that?

117 replies

ToJabOrNotToJab · 14/12/2021 09:17

Just that really. Curious to know how many people feel this way. I'm not about to do myself harm, I just feel like I wouldn't be scared or sad.

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A596881B · 14/12/2021 09:18

No, not at all

JurgensCakeBabyJesus · 14/12/2021 09:19

Absolutely not, I'd be devastated. Are you receiving any mental health support?

MMMarmite · 14/12/2021 09:22

No. Going through a shit time right now but there is still so much wonder in the world, big and tiny, that I want to see.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way. Have you got any real life support?

changed12344 · 14/12/2021 09:23

Yes

fedup078 · 14/12/2021 09:25

Yea felt like this my entire life

loubieloo4 · 14/12/2021 09:25

Yes

fishandchops · 14/12/2021 09:27

Yes I would be totally fine with this.

Athrawes · 14/12/2021 09:27

For myself no. I'd be "happy" never to wake up. But I know that the consequence for my son would be devastating, so I choose to wake up. For now

ftw163532 · 14/12/2021 09:28

Yes

LaBelleSausage · 14/12/2021 09:28

Kind of.

If I don't think about how it would impact my kids (2 and 4)

I have been a single parent since my ex husband for another woman left when the little one was 2 weeks old and I am so tired.
Selfishly, I part of me would quite happily just switch off as I am sick of the stress and worry.

The minute I think about them growing up without a mum though, the guilt kicks in.

But I don't think I would be sad or scared.
Would probably scrub the house from top to bottom and bin a few things so no one thinks I'm a strumpet or a slattern.

What a miserable last day of existence that would be.

GalaPie · 14/12/2021 09:36

No.
Because however much that might appeal as an end to whatever I disliked about my existence, my near-sixty years on this earth have taught me that this life spins on a sixpence, that things can change in the blink of an eye, turn a different corner, read a different book, talk to a different person, or just walk in the opposite direction and everything changes. So I shall keep on going till this old body gives up on me, not my mind.
As a wise person once said "This time next year, we'll all be millionaires".

EvilPea · 14/12/2021 09:39

God that would be bliss (for me, not the kids). I’ve wished for that since I was about 7, if I could erase my ever existence I would, I’m just an utter waste of the earth’s precious resources.

Fairyliz · 14/12/2021 09:40

Yes I’m in my 60’s and my children are grown up.
I’ve nursed my mum through dementia and currently looking after in-laws.
I’ve seen my future and it’s not looking pretty. I’d rather go now than try and get through that.

Happyface120 · 14/12/2021 09:43

Yes, absolutely at the moment. However, I am in the middle of a mental health crisis, and whilst not actively suicidal I don't think, I would currently welcome death. If you feel similar, I would gently suggest that you speak to your GP Flowers

Modwolvesrock · 14/12/2021 09:45

Having kept going ( with MS ) for over forty some years for my kids, I'm ready for a loooong painless sleep in the ground.

If guns were legal and accessible in the UK, I don't think I would have been able to resist eating one.

MmeDefrag · 14/12/2021 09:47

Yes. Like pp have felt like this for most of my life.

The pandemic has been an eye opener - it made a real difference to the way so many people feel about life, for them it’s not just more of the meh-to-downright-misery of most days.

EBearhug · 14/12/2021 09:47

My will needs updating. And I would very much like to spend a weekend in bed with a particular person first, but otherwise, it'd probably be okay.

Joblosspain · 14/12/2021 09:52

Today absolutely except as far as it would affect others. I’m taking it hour by hour - can be minute by minute.

shumway · 14/12/2021 09:56

Yes.

edification · 14/12/2021 09:57

No frigging way. I love life. I've got the next billions of years to be under the ground. This is my one, blink and you'll miss it chance in all the aeons of time that I have been allowed. It feels nowhere, not the tiniest bit, infinitesimally far too short as it is, but it's what I've got so I will deal with it

Paranoidandroidmarvin · 14/12/2021 09:58

Some days yes and some days no.

Seeingadistance · 14/12/2021 09:59

Yes, and like others I’ve felt like this since childhood.

Dinosauratemydaffodils · 14/12/2021 10:00

Yes but I have a bunch of mental health issues and am struggling. Can't shake the feeling that my kids would be so much better off without me.

PenguindreamsofDraco · 14/12/2021 10:05

Christ no. Life is precious and I am a worthwhile addition.

As are all of you - you all matter and you all deserve to be here.

ImmutableSexQueen · 14/12/2021 10:12

I'm so tired. Fought so many battles, sometimes won, but it's all for nothing. In the end, I fail. I work on enjoying every moment - God, it's hard. There's a man loves me, he's really special, I have to turn him away because he has a wife. I'm not even surprised at the shit anymore. I do what I can, I enjoy what I can, I try to be useful. But yes, I long for that sleep.