I just need to talk

[Strugglingalone]

I’m not coping, I can’t speak on the phone, I have no friends, I just need to talk to someone

Hi 🤗

We are all here.

Just text at us

When I was very young (24) I'd broken up with the guy I'd been with since I was 16 & was in a right state! (Much more heart ache since then & I've grown a lot!) I rang the Samaritans & after waiting a very long time fir them to answer, she literally told me to go outside & smell the roses! Not quite what I was expecting!!

Do you have anyone in the house with you?

@Strugglingalone

Because I can’t speak on the telephone, I get too anxious

Do you have anyone who could phone for you? I believe there is a 999 text service as well that you can access.

@Strugglingalone - life always seems so very hard late at night when you’re tired and it’s dark outside.

Try lying down, closing your eyes and taking yourself back to the happiest day of your life. Was it warm or cold? What were you wearing, how did the clothes feel on your skin? What could you see and hear, what could you smell, touch and taste? Forget what’s going on right now - take your mind to that happy place and relive every feeling as if you were there. Let your body and mind relax. Whatever bad is happening now it can wait until the morning when you have slept and can deal with it from a stronger place.

No I live on my own

I tried samaritans many years ago too and never had a positive experience. Nearly every volunteer was male too and that was a huge struggle for me

@Sarahlou63 I was struggling at 2pm this afternoon when the crisis team discharged me and it’s just got worse. I couldn’t speak to her and that’s one of my red flags for things being bad as I shut down

What can we say to you to make you feel able to open up?

Sending you a big virtual hug 💐

Can you speak with the crisis team again ? Is that something you could try ?

Has something happened recently to make you feel like this or has this been going on for a while?

Hey I'm listening too. I've suffered with anxiety a lot in the past and have felt alone a lot. Try to tell us what is going on in your head if you can.

OP I have PTSD and I can’t always do thjngs like talk to professionals about my issue and this is what PTSD does, it’s strange because I know I need to phone whoever to get help but I just can’t bear the thought of asking for help, it’s like I don’t like to feel like I need support as I’ve always been independent and sorted my own life issues out, I can’t with PTSD, it sounds like you have similar issues?

@Strangevipers they told me they couldn’t hall this evening

Now I’ve been discharged I’m on my own, there is no help

If you can't write down what's going on with you on here would writing it down on a piece of paper be helpful to you ?

Can you pop on some calming music ( loads on YouTube) and try and relax

Or maybe pop a silly comedy film on ?

Hi OP

I'm sorry to hear the crisis team have discharged you before you felt ready and you feel alone.

Perhaps we can keep you company here for a while.

Is there anything you'd particularly like to talk about?

When I'm feeling particularly anxious and it's all a bit much, I try to take a minute and do a grounding exercise.

I look at

5 things I can see
4 things I can touch
3 things I can hear
2 things I can smell
1 things I can taste

When I find it really hard I just do as many as I can manage and try to take a few deep and deliberate breaths to gather myself

Just take one minute at a time

Just really struggling, the thoughts are so intense

OP PLEASE call the emergency services.

They are able to help you

I know you are saying you can't speak but if you call they will speak for you, you dont need to say a word they are trained and understand if someone calls and doesn't speak

Please please OP.

Are you near a hospital, could you get a taxi there ?

What about a neighbour can you pop a note through their door and ask them to call for you v

Hi Op

You're doing so well by replying to us.

If you don't feel you are able to speak to someone on the phone, you can talk to Calm on their web chat

www.thecalmzone.net/help/webchat/

They will be able to talk to you about how you're feeling and the thoughts you're having

Hi @Strugglingalone that sounds really hard.

What are the thoughts that you are struggling with?

Writing / typing things often helps and we can maybe help you to make sense of them a bit.

Would having a completely random chat help? I know it won’t help the thoughts but it could maybe distract you a bit and help you get through the next little while?

@MuchTooTired probably, my post will just get removed if I say anything more 😢

If you feel unsafe OP you need to call 999 and get immediate help.

Please don't suffer alone. There is help out there.

I have been in this position too so I know how hard it is to speak out. You're more than welcome to PM me xx

Hi OP I agree - if you feel unsafe at all then please call 999. I know it seems really scary but you honestly don’t need go for through this alone.

Do you have a friend or family member you can speak to?

@Strugglingalone I’m so sorry things are so difficult right now.

What’s your favourite colour? Mine’s blue, followed by pink.

What would your dream bedroom colour be? My imaginary dream room would be emerald green, with maybe a feature wall of either palm leaves or that crazy wallpaper with the toucans on it, gold accents and dark wood antiquey furniture. In my imaginary Victorian pile house, I’d naturally discover original floorboards in gorgeous condition already stained in a dark colour, so would have a jazzy rug to keep my tootsies warm when I got up in the morning. Obviously it would be spotlessly clean and organised, probably by the tidying fairies who would also make sure the bed was staged daily for when I got home.

I think I’m getting a bit too invested in my imaginary dream bedroom here 😳

are you ok?

Hey OP are you ok today?