Please help me

[Iamincrisis]

I wrote that I was in crisis the other day. I am now feeling heavily suicidal and am thinking about ending my life. I have a one year old. I don’t know what to do. Please help

I hear you, it can feel so overwhelming and as if suicide is a sensible plan. Those feelings can be very real.

They are temporary feelings though, they can and do pass. And you don't have to be alone with them. There are lots of people who understand and who will help you through.

Good for calling the Samaritans. Bad that you're on hold.

You can also go to A&E. When I was told this I was like what? But you really can, and they will help you x

PS. I can assure you that your baby loves and adores you more than you will ever know

Your mum and mil are wrong you won't have your baby taken off you for getting help with your mental health. Your baby needs you and just at this moment you need help. Please keep trying to get through to Samaritans but if you can't ring 999 and Zack for an ambulance this is every bit as important a medical emergency as anything else.

Hi OP

As PP have advised, call 999 - they will take you seriously. If you don’t feel you can do that, please speak to your partner.
If you are waiting to get through to the Samaritans you can try

www.spbristol.org/

text SHOUT on 85258

giveusashout.org/

Your Mum and MIL are wrong. Your baby won’t be taken away. Please talk to someone and tell them how you feel. Suicide is not the answer. Help is out there,

Your MIL and your mother are so wrong so please don’t listen to them. There are mother and baby units up and down the land who want to keep mothers and babies together because that’s the best thing and they work hard to help parents who are struggling with their mental health. Your MIL and DM are misinformed.

I wonder if this is the first time you have felt like this @Iamincrisis? Have you got active and well formed plans to harm yourself? I think if you are finding yourself moving beyond thoughts and forming definite plans and intentions then you must phone 999 now and you really do need to go to A&E. People want to help you, healthcare professionals want to help you and your baby. We are all holding your hand @Iamincrisis - you are not alone. There is help for you as a new parent. It can get better. Sending you love. @BloodiedButUnbowed describes well how things can change.

lamin, you are needed and believe me, people would notice and be devastated. Please phone the Samaritans.

Your baby knows who you are, your baby needs you and loves you.

I too had feelings like this when my first born was 1 because I had been struggling with PND for a long time and OP, I think you have been too, you've done so well to get so far and you're asking for help on here and by staying on the line with Samaritans is incredibly brave.

What your mum and MIL have said to you is incredibly dismissive, dangerous and downright cruel. Their words and lack of action are a battle for another day.

You know you need help. It's OK for you to need it and it's OK for you to ask for it.

Stay here, stay on the phone, if you can, wake your partner.

I’ve heard that A&E are the most helpful in times like this. Our local area NHS mental health crisis team are next to useless. My GP has
recommended the Samaritans but i suppose that just depends on who you speak to.

Phone 999 and explain how you are feeling. Best wishes OP.

You are the best mother your baby has and they need you and love you, just as you are.

You will get through this

Just to say, the NightWatch are keeping an eye on this thread
Hope you're okay OP

Your mum and MIL are WRONG. You poor girl. Please get to hospital and get help.

Dads are great but you are your baby's mum. You are the one who carried and gave birth to her. It's you who she will look to cuddle when she had a bad dream. It's you who she'll feel safe enough to fight with as she gets older.

You are going through a horrible dark time but you will get through this. Hang in there please xxxxxxxxxxx

OP I work with mums in all sorts of difficult and desperate situations including mental health. You absolutely won't have your baby taken away for reaching out and getting help. What you will have is the support you need so that you can continue to look after and be there for your baby.

I've been there. It's awful. But what your brain is telling you now isn't real it truly isn't. Please call 999 and hand over your crisis to someone else. Allow yourself to be made safe and be looked after. The relief is incredible and nobody who matters will judge you for accessing support. I hope you have already done so or that we can persuade you to keep talking here and contact 111 or 999. Breathe in and out OP, we're here

OP, are you ok? Please tell us whether you have got through to someone. You should not be going through this alone and really do not have to.

Sending you love OP and hoping you are able to find someone to talk to. Your baby loves you and would absolutely miss you. Your mum and MIL are wrong and there is help out there for you. You are a good mum and a good person

@Iamincrisis

I’ve been waiting to get through to Samaritans for ages but no one is answering. I just need to talk to someone but I have nobody

They will answer eventually, Iaminacrisis. Just hang on. Keep posting on here too, lots of posters have experience of what you are going through and want to help.

Just sending love to you OP , and a handhold .

@Iamincrisis

It’s my only way out. My mum tells me I need to ‘sort my shit out’, my MIL tells me I’m not a natural with my baby. They tell me if I tell anyone about my mental health my baby will be taken away from me or go solely to my partner. He’s more of a caregiver as he doesn’t work and I do

They are toxic people. They shouldn't say those things because it's not true. Lots of mum's have MH problems and it doesn't mean your DC get taken away. If you tell someone it means you hopefully get help. You'd get help for tonight anyway. If you call 999 they're not going to report you to social services. Your partner is with your DC at the moment so there's no safeguarding issue at all. They'll take you to hospital where they'll keep an eye on you while you wait to be assessed by a doctor in the morning. There's no shame in how you're feeling and it doesn't make you a bad mum.

Hello OP. I am here, as are all these other posters, you are not alone.
It sounds like things are hugely overwhelming for you at the moment and that the overwhelm is tied into your relatively new role as a parent. Is that right?
What is it you are finding so hard right now? Can you tell us a bit about how life is with your baby at the moment? Is your baby a boy or a girl?

Please call 999 they can help and in the meantime please keep talking to us♥️♥️It will get better you just need to hold on and get the help you need🙏♥️

@Iamincrisis I'm here. Thinking of you. Sending you a huge hug xxxx

Please speak to someone

Your baby won’t be taken away because you have problems with your mental health.
Your mother in law needs to butt the hell out. Depression is real it’s not something that you can snap out of. I hope you get the help you need and the support you need too.

I hope you’ve gotten help by now but please stop listening to your mum and MIL, at least about this. There are 1.1 million+ parents on Mumsnet from many walks of life, some who have been in crisis where you are. Your mum and MIL haven’t. So if those Mumsnet users tell you that your baby won’t be taken away from you, please believe them and please don’t keep yourself from seeking care. You have the right to be healthy and your child would want you to be healthy (even when children are too young to understand now; they will someday understand that you were brave enough to get the help you needed).

Please keep talking to us, OP. X