Please someone talk to me

[babyblues21]

I have awful post natal depression and no family around. Me and partner not getting on. I can't get through to my MH support team. My baby is 8 weeks. I'm just sat here alone on the floor with my baby. Someone please talk to me I can't do this anymore

Good for you op. Window down let the fresh air in. Never stop talking. Remember to Take care of yourself X

@babyblues21

I have spoken to pandas and they have made me feel a bit better. Thank you to you all for sharing their number and for your words of support. I am going to take baby out for a drive as the car gets her to sleep and the change of scenery might help me too. x

Good idea. You are not on your own. Think about what you'd say to a friend if they felt like this. You need to look after yourself X

Well done OP. You're a great mum - it takes huge strength to reach out for help when you're in the grip of despair.

@babyblues21

I have spoken to pandas and they have made me feel a bit better. Thank you to you all for sharing their number and for your words of support. I am going to take baby out for a drive as the car gets her to sleep and the change of scenery might help me too. x

You've got this, @babyblues21

You've reached out for help. You're not alone. Good to hear the call to PANDAS helped. A drive sounds like a great idea. Once your baby is asleep, pull over somewhere safe and doze off if you can.

Remember we're all here for you and your baby loves you.

I’m here - I also suffered with PND 18 years ago with my first baby. I found it essential to get out of the house every day - he would only settle in the pram while it was moving so we walked miles!! While out walking I met another lady with a child 9 months older who also struggled. Until we moved away we met most days for walks. We walked miles each week and lost weight together too.

Please reach out to midwife/ health visitor/ GP for accessing support in your area. You are not alone.

Hi babyblues21,

We're so sorry you're going through such a difficult time.

We can see you're getting lots of good advice and support on this thread but we just wanted to add a few more links to organisations which may be able to give you some support in real life.

First of all, here's a link to our Mental Health resources. There are lots of organisations listed which can give you some extra support.

If you're feeling very low, you can go to the Samaritans website, or email them on [email protected], or call them, any time, on 116 123.

We can see that several other Mumsnetters have mentioned an excellent organisation called PANDAS Foundation which was set up to support families through PND & AND. We're so glad you've taken their advice and have already made contact - we know they've helped lots of MNers in the past. Just so all the information is in one place, we're adding the links here too - their webpage is here and they have a free helpline - 0808 1961 776 - available Monday – Sunday 11am-10pm.

We'd also urge you to take a look at the cry-sis website, which is a support group set up by a small group of parents who were experiencing problems with their crying and sleepless babies. They discovered how important support is and how reassuring it can be to talk to someone. Their helpline number is 08451 228 669 and their lines are open 7 days a week 9am-10pm.

So many of us have felt exactly as you do now and have come through it, so please take comfort from all the lovely MNers posting on this thread.

Sending good wishes from all at MNHQ. We really hope things start to get a bit easier for you soon.

So glad you’ve spoken with someone OP. It can feel so hard to get everything together and get out the house when you feel so awful so really well done for summoning up the energy and will to go for a drive. You will get through this. Get every bit of help you can. If you live anywhere around W Yorks I’d be happy to meet you for a coffee or a walk and a natter. 💐

Just to say, we've withdrawn several posts as this is a support thread and it would be a shame if it was derailed by a side issue. Hopefully it can get back on track now.

It’s okay OP it will be okay ,you will get through this , sending hugs to you at this time

You're a very good mum OP, if you weren't you wouldn't care about your baby but you do. You've done really well to ask for help. Remember that getting help will benefit both you and your little one, and this phase will pass. Hugs to you both

Hope you're okay OP.

Reading this thread really takes me back nearly 11 years. Had PND too. It was awful. Really wish I'd got more support and sooner. You're doing the right thing by looking for support and it takes courage.

All I can say is it really does get better. You can totally do this. Big hugs

Thank you everyone I've been blown away by the support on here every time I've reached out. Thank you so much. I am feeling a little brighter this morning lying in bed cuddling my beautiful girl x

@babyblues21

Thank you everyone I've been blown away by the support on here every time I've reached out. Thank you so much. I am feeling a little brighter this morning lying in bed cuddling my beautiful girl x

This made me so happy to read. Well done OP, you got through another day - one day at a time. You're a great mum already, you enjoy your little one you love her and you want the best for her. That's all she needs right now! Do you have any plans for today?x

@babyblues21

Thank you everyone I've been blown away by the support on here every time I've reached out. Thank you so much. I am feeling a little brighter this morning lying in bed cuddling my beautiful girl x

well done. I know you can't stop worrying but you can breathe a bit now. It will be ok. You need to take some of the pressure off while your hormones settle down, hopefully HV will help.

You can do this, you are doing this.
Even if you are just treading water for a while it's more than good enough.

@babyblues21

Thank you everyone I've been blown away by the support on here every time I've reached out. Thank you so much. I am feeling a little brighter this morning lying in bed cuddling my beautiful girl x

Wonderful to hear.

So glad you're feeling a bit better @babyblues21

So pleased to hear this. Look after yourself and enjoy the cuddles with that gorgeous little one

Keep on taking one day at a time. Don’t do anything more than you have to do and go easy on yourself. I don’t think anything prepares you for the utter physical and mental upheaval of pregnancy, birth and the first few months of parenthood. And that’s presuming everything has gone like clockwork. Factor in something like PND and it can feel overwhelming. Keep in touch with PANDAs, your HCPs and your GP if you need them. And you can post on here and know you aren’t alone feeling like you do and there’s always posters around to lend a listening ear. You are doing so well.

May I suggest that you contact the friends you cancelled and tell them you couldn't come because you were having a really bad day and were really upset. Hopefully at least one will offer some real life support.

@babyblues21

Just checking in to find out how you're doing this week? Hopefully you now have all the support you need and things are looking brighter. We're still here for you!