Would any one like to join in an anxiety support thread?

[Heatherandmoss]

I’ve seen lots of posts recently about people having a bad time with their anxiety and I thought an on going thread might be good do people can bob on and offer and receive support, share tips and just generally empathise with some one going through the same thing.

I’ve had anxiety since I was about ten ( I realised after my psychiatrist was able to help me pin point my earliest memory of it)

I think there is a bit of misconception of anxiety as some people think it’s just general worry - but it’s not.

When my anxiety rears her head it’s so physical. I sweat, my face can go numb, pains in my chest. I have a feeling like some one is kicking my front door in and I’m scared for my life and I could just be hoovering. Anxiety jolts me awake when I’m asleep and it rolls down my body like thunder. It makes me catastrophize at 3am and my feet start rubbing against each other ( weird) My anxiety makes me walk in to the kitchen with my kids empty dinner plates and suddenly feel so so over whelmed I struggle for breath and tears leak out in a gasp of raw emotion - all done silently so my kids can’t hear me.

I’ve had to give up drinking alcohol because Jesus the anxiety the next day was shocking and lasted days until I suddenly stepped out the anxiety room.

My anxiety has been bad since November as I’ve got some things going and I’m worried my heart is going to pack in because of the extra ‘thud thud thud’ overtime it’s being doing!

Exercise does help me take the edge of sometimes. I nearly went to the GP the other day as it was rotten but at this moment of time I need to be switched on.

Today has not been to bad. I’m considering it a win.

So I’ve you’d like to join in or have some where to say ‘holy fuck it’s bad today’ hopefully more people will be here and you will know some one knows how bad your feeling.

I had some of my triggers come up a few days back so not doing well at all my already bad sleep schedule is completely fucked up now, can’t seem to sleep until after three o’clock in the morning. On the brightside, I’m doing much better now than I was this time last year so small victories I suppose

Does anyone else feel ridiculously anxious in the morning? I feel whenever I wake up early I feel so anxious

@teaandcustardcreamsx Morning is also my worst time - I wake very early feeling sick to my stomach anxious. I can't always even put my finger on what it is that is causing it but it's like my brain goes in to overtime to catch up on all the worrying it should have been doing while I sleep. I hope you get some rest tonight

I would love to join

I'm also worse in the morning. I see it as sort of a good thing as I know things will normally get better through the day.

I’m so weird. I LOVE the mornings. It’s night time I struggle with. I’m scared I’ll never wake up

Best once you get up and at it (I suppose being active and busy is best).

Afternoons and evenings are worse for me. It’s like something settles in my tummy about 2:30pm and then just drags me down and down.

I start settling in the evening - dinner time, tidy up and settle for the evening. I wake silly early and it’s always worse lying down in the dark (darkest before the dawn and all that).

Hi all : how are we all today ?
It’s so cold that doesn’t help does it ?.
My anxiety has calmed but I know only too well it can flare up anytime. A social event could spark it off, an interview- things going wrong.
I keep hearing about CBD oil and how it helps some- it’s expensive though isn’t it.
I plan a walk not too far then trying to catch up in general admin.
X

The longer you stay in a situation the anxiety always calms down..,., not for me either.

I spent 15 years in a job that has just broken me due to anxiety. The anxiety just got worse and worse.

@dane8 I can relate to everything you are saying. Sorry you've had a horrible evening, I've also had a difficult evening with it. I had to sit and start making a list about everything that was bothering me - trying to break into down into smaller items that my brain could process instead of being overwhelmed by anxiety. It all feels a lot at the moment and I know being anxious isn't helping anyone

Hi everyone, I've suffered from anxiety for 24years. There is a lot of mental health in my family. I get exausted easily, often get headaches, feel dizzy, sick and get a tingling sensation.
I work in a school as a TA and this year has been extremely challenging.
I recently did CBT but the only thing I really got out of it was finding out that I am autistic. My counsellor helped me fill out a referral form and I am waiting for a diagnosis.

I was up... and now not...

God help us! Why is it when you feel the black mist clearing, and the world looks clearer you promise yourself that you will be super careful not to do/say anything that could set you off, you avoid potential triggers, promise to eat well and sleep well to be fighting fit... but then end up going head first down the well again?

It’s like drinkers remorse (‘I’m never going to drink again’) but with anxiety/stress!

So true @ThatIsNotMyUsername

How are we all today?

I’m thinking of writing a book ‘beating myself up - how I never learned to let anything go‘. I think it will do well...

Well I’d certainly read it :o

I was up till 3.30ish last night. Just got caught up in doomscrolling and doing puzzles on the iPad, feeling restless. Having some all consuming issues with DD1 now so trying to sort that and it just feels like it’s taking over life.

Day 3 of adhd meds now, not sure if I’m feeling better during the day but I suspect last night was due to them wearing off (you can get quite a rebound)

This photo always makes me smile (not my cat, from the cats own social media account apparently).

Awww that’s cute!

Argh anxiety is rocketing now. Just emailed about a volunteer role that landed in my inbox from a local charity. It’s something I know I’d be good at (mentoring families with new autism diagnoses) and it is exactly the kind of thing I need to start building experience too as I’m starting my degree this year hopefully (psychology with counselling).

But the negative thoughts are now flooding in. I can’t do it. I’ll be terrible. They’ll hate me. Etc. 😬🙈

SingToTheSky,That sounds like interesting work. Sure you'll be fine. Good luck with that and your degree. There's so little support for families with autistic children. Wishing you all the best.

@SingToTheSky Sorry you're having a difficult evening. Don't let the anxiety stop you from this great opportunity. Is there something you can channel your thoughts into this evening to distract yourself? A puzzle or book?

After my low point last week, I have had a couple of ok days (anxiety wise). Managed to sleep but still feel exhausted. I'm getting to the stage I'm getting anxious about the fact I haven't been worrying about anything for a couple of days now and therefore something is going drastically wrong.

Thank you! I’ve been through all possible feelings about starting work again since the first lockdown. At one point I was super confident, then it all vanished and I felt lower than ever. I also started tutoring piano for the first time in a few years but then tier 4 and new year lockdown happened after a month. Basically I’m not actually sure what exactly I want to do but I know it’s related to mental health, autism or adhd, so could be specialist counselling for adults or an autism therapist for children or anything really. So I know this approach is a wise one - look for experience with any relevant roles. I had a work coach last year who specialises in helping autistic adults like me find work and she agrees with this approach. :)

However the anxiety just goes crazy. I am still avoiding the fact that I’m meant to be editing the CV she sent me ages ago. 🤦🏽‍♀️ And I’ve fallen a little behind on the course I’m on which is so frustrating as I had kept up really well until this unit. So I’m spinning out a bit ATM but I also know that could be because of my new meds. Aaaargh.

Sorry for waffling 🙈

Thanks swimming sorry you have the lurking “I’m missing something” feeling, that’s so frustrating!

I did manage a walk the last two days in the snow. Really need to work on building up better habits again.

Just focus on doing something relaxing for now SingToTheSky. Then go back to the CV. You sound really determined and will do fine in whatever you choose to do. You'll feel better once you get used to your new meds. Have a good evening 🙂