Would any one like to join in an anxiety support thread?

[Heatherandmoss]

I’ve seen lots of posts recently about people having a bad time with their anxiety and I thought an on going thread might be good do people can bob on and offer and receive support, share tips and just generally empathise with some one going through the same thing.

I’ve had anxiety since I was about ten ( I realised after my psychiatrist was able to help me pin point my earliest memory of it)

I think there is a bit of misconception of anxiety as some people think it’s just general worry - but it’s not.

When my anxiety rears her head it’s so physical. I sweat, my face can go numb, pains in my chest. I have a feeling like some one is kicking my front door in and I’m scared for my life and I could just be hoovering. Anxiety jolts me awake when I’m asleep and it rolls down my body like thunder. It makes me catastrophize at 3am and my feet start rubbing against each other ( weird) My anxiety makes me walk in to the kitchen with my kids empty dinner plates and suddenly feel so so over whelmed I struggle for breath and tears leak out in a gasp of raw emotion - all done silently so my kids can’t hear me.

I’ve had to give up drinking alcohol because Jesus the anxiety the next day was shocking and lasted days until I suddenly stepped out the anxiety room.

My anxiety has been bad since November as I’ve got some things going and I’m worried my heart is going to pack in because of the extra ‘thud thud thud’ overtime it’s being doing!

Exercise does help me take the edge of sometimes. I nearly went to the GP the other day as it was rotten but at this moment of time I need to be switched on.

Today has not been to bad. I’m considering it a win.

So I’ve you’d like to join in or have some where to say ‘holy fuck it’s bad today’ hopefully more people will be here and you will know some one knows how bad your feeling.

Hi Loki thanks for checking.
Yesterday evening and today have been better thanks. Been feeling calm and aiming for no nagging or fretting about the house and chores. I find my anxiety often manifests as extreme nagging and pickiness. I get carried away and start believing that the house is a tip and filthy and we live in a horrible environment. None of it true.
Really tried to ask if it matters today and tried for harmony. We had a short walk and my DH bought a dartboard so we've set that up this evening and had some games with DS which was fun.
I've not felt able to post before sorry.
I hope everyone else is doing ok.
This is the first day this week I havent cried so taking it as a win.

Gin welcome and I hope today has been better for you.
Great news you enjoyed work tea

It is my 1 year coronaversary today which is sobering!

Aw wild 💐
I am not sure if we did all have it but I think what I had was covid - I started feeling it on 18th March so nearly mine too (if it was anyway)

Haven’t felt less anxious today and now full of cold I think. So annoyed, I haven’t had a cold since that virus!

Wild, it sounds like you've had a great evening. Been a while since I've played darts.

I know what you mean about feeling like the house is a tip. I get so stressed out with the never ending chores. I've done a cleaning rota for me and my DD. Apart from the sink getting blocked with cat litter, it's going pretty well 😊. It's not always done to my standards but I remind myself that it really doesn't matter.

Darts sounds great fun wild.
Thanks for checking loki, I actually had a really nice day yesterday, very chill. I went to a social thing on Zoom and enjoyed it.

Hi Rosa, that sounds interesting. Glad you had a good day yesterday.

Happy Mothers Day to those who celebrate it
A cleaning rota sounds great Loki Good idea. My DS will do chores for money for the x box
I am determined to be less bothered about clutter and mess. Trying to be more relaxed.
Glad you had a good day Rosa
Enjoying the day here so far. All low key and stress free. Hope it continues.
I do feel Monday looming though..

Happy mother's day 💐. My day started with breakfast in bed. My porridge and tea were just about edible and drinkable! But it's the thought that counts 😊

I've done some decluttering this morning and weekly food shop this afternoon. Both things that I really struggle with, so doing well.

Making stir fry with my DD in a bit. Then being treated to Cube dessert for mother's day 😊

Breakfast in bed sounds awesome Loki. DH doesn't do mornings, so a lie in is unheard of for me. But he bought me a coffee machine so mustn't grumble.

Yesterday got all my chores done, walked the dog, did a food shop. Very productive but basically powering through whilst feeling awful. In bed by 8.30 absolutely exhausted. But good day today, felt steady and ok all day.

Hey Wild . Wow you were really early getting covid. Hope you're doing ok. A whole load of us at work had a horrible bad cold early last year, before lockdown. We've wondered since if we all had it.

Love and hugs to those who have particular Sunday night anxiety re: the coming week. I usually struggle to get to sleep, mulling over the week ahead.

I too thought I had COVID this time last year after I had a cough which ironically stopped the moment I left the school though have tested negative each time I’ve been tested luckily. Somewhat looking forward to the next week though know it’ll be rather full on so slightly unsure!

Yes very early Gin! No testing back then.

My day was lovely and fairly low anxiety wise. Get quite anxious when everyone has gone to bed though as I am still up and my brain decides to expect the worst from the week!
Wishing you all a good nights sleep

Can I join?

I've always been an anxious person, even my teachers at nursery said so. But this lockdown has pushed me to the edge. I worry about anything and everything, and imaginary scenarios build up in my head so I start to believe them and can't eat or sleep. I am currently undergoing CBT on the phone, but it just doesn't feel enough. Sometimes I just want to escape but I feel so trapped. I think staying at home in the same surroundings, with little contact with the outside world has caused this for me

Hi darkclouds and welcome.
That all sounds very familiar.
How is today going?

Thanks for asking @wildthingsinthenight. Today has been up and down, I go from feeling physically sick to feeling numb. It feels today is a day I just want to be over, but it's dragging! Do you have any coping strategies for the difficult days?

Just started reading this thread and hope life is improving for you all. I'm in the process of recording some hypnosis journeys to add to Youtube.
I find this kind of thing really soothing. I have made one called Hypnosis for Confidence Building ( Self Esteem & Positive Thinking)

I would love to record individual hypnosis journey specifically for someone on here if they feel they would enjoy this? Let me know what you would like the focus or message to be.....

darkclouds at the moment I am binge watching things that I find absorbing. Currently Unforgotten
I often do watch comfort tv that U jave seen lots of times before.
Also journal my thought. Read

Sorry I meant comfort tv I have seen lots before. Typos.

Hi Darkclouds, welcome to the thread. Lockdown has been very isolating. I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling.
Like Wild, I have been binge watching, mainly on Netflix. At the moment, I'm watching Good Place and How I Met Your Mother.

I'm on Mumsnet every day. I'm finding that helpful.

Hope today gets better for you 💐

Hi Yellowbellygirl, That sounds interesting. I will have a look at that later 😊

I agree MN is helpful

I feel like I haven't stopped the past few days. I got home from work 2 hours ago. Have been cooking tea and made shortbread. Just stopped now. Ready for some couch time 😊

Always feel like I have to make more of an effort with cooking and chores on a Monday. I know how tired I get later in the week.

Work went well today. Hope it lasts 🤞

How is everyone doing? 💐

You sound upbeat Loki And busy! That's good.

My day hasn't been too bad. I didnt sleep well so went back to bed with a cuppa when my DS had gone to school. And tried hard not to feel guilty about it!
I've been v anxious again about my DS re school. All his years classes were being swapped about today and groups were changing and I was so worried about it/him not being with his friends. Disproportionately so. 🙄
I get so carried away catastrophising. Ruins my day.
And he was fine. OF COURSE.

How do you become resilient?! I am so rubbish at that. So glad my DH is laid back, confident, robust. I'd like my DS to be like him as an adult! Not like me!

Hope everyone is ok xxx

Hi Wild, it's so easy to get carried away when you're worrying about your child.Glad your DS was fine with the changes.

I worry a lot about my DD. I wish I knew how to be resilient. I think it's something you start learning as a child. Growing up , change for me meant something bad was happening, like bankruptcy or divorce. I still think of change as a negative thing. I hate not knowing how something is going to go.

My DD is like me. She doesn't handle stress well. Which is a shame but on the plus side we understand and support each other.

Hope you sleep well tonight 💐

Thanks Loki. It sounds like you have a lovely relationship with your daughter.
I hear you re change. I'm no good with it.

I have a theory as to why I'm not resilient as my sister is similar. My mum and dad were very risk averse when we were kids and ensured everything was perfect and safe with no chances taken or surprises, if they could help it. This meant we didnt have to deal with much and didn't get chance to overcome anything really. They solved everything for us. They were lovely but it didn't help us when growing up.
Makes sense to me anyway!