*Trigger warning* My Mum is trying to drive off to commit suicide I don't know what to do

[OriginalD0G]

My mum is disabled and was attacked horrifically by my "dad".

It's all a big mess police involved etc. She is really struggling whilst staying with me our house is tiny so she's in a caravan on my drive which is not at all ideal - all whilst he is in their house.

I went for a walk today and when I got back my mum was in a state and asking for car keys she wants to go and kill herself. She's begging me to let her go and is so distressed last time I called the gp who was useless I just do t know what to do to help her I can't cope with this I have 4 DC who already have enough on their plates and it would destroy all of us if she succeeded.

My head is a mess what can I do to help her?!

If she is in immediate danger call 999

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💐 for you

Call 999.

Ring 999.

Sorry you're all going through this 😞

The police can detain her for her own safety.

Yes I would call 999 too.
Sorry to hear this @OriginalD0G

Call 999.

I've had them called to me before when I was in distress and it did calm things down.

You have to call 999. Best wishes. I’ve been the person trying to flee and paramedics attended as well as police.

If she is adamant call 999. In these circumstances ( ie immediate risk of serious harm) they can intervene to essentially protect her from herself. Or call nhs24 and tell them she is planning suicide- they have crisis teams on the phone who can support you both.

999 - ask for police rather than ambulance if she's serious (you can decline treatment from an ambulance crew, you can't turn down being detained for assessment under the mental health act).

And call a helpline yourself if you need to talk
www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/

If you can't talk without upsetting the DC you can text Shout for free
giveusashout.org

As others have said, call the police.

Will the police have to section her though as she begged me to let her go before and got so frightened about being sectioned

Ring 999 that’s what they are there for. A crisis team could possibly come and and give your mam something to calm down a but it they could take her to the hospital for her own safety. She will get the help she needs. It’s awful for you and I’ve been in some states but medication and therapy will help her. You need to ring them as soon as you can. X

No they don't have to, but they can if she is a genuine danger to herself or others. It may be something she's frightened of but the alternative is much worse, isn't it?

Ring 999

Call the police if imminent risk of harming herself or I second the PP who suggested texting shout. You'll get a lot of support from them. Number to text is 85258 and it's free.

Is being sectioned the worst thing that could happen OP?

You are out of your depth, ring the police.

Police can hold someone for a certain number of hours and take them to a place of safety if required. They are often very good at ensuring the person gets support.
You can remind your mum that if she plans to use her car she will likely harm others or runs the risk of disabling herself further. Harsh but the truth and can cause a person to think for a few minutes.

@OriginalD0G

Will the police have to section her though as she begged me to let her go before and got so frightened about being sectioned

It could literally save her life.

So sorry your mum is unwell, ring 999 they’ll help you both through this.

It should lead to your mum being housed, once they’ve secured her safety and well-being which sounds like what she desperately needs.

Ring 999, unfortunately if she is trying to hurt herself she does need to be sectioned to get the help she needs x

Call police to firstly stop her doing something.
Keep diazapam in the house for emergencies (talk to go for advice).
Being sectioned is far preferable to dying. It is to give her mind and responsibility for herself a rest while figuring out treatment so work on getting her to understand that when she's calmer.
She needs help. Get the GP involved again and change GP if you're not happy with them.

Good luck, it's horrifically distressing for you too. She's just unwell. I hope she gets better soon.

Again 999. I've had to do this more than once with a friend whose MH issues can flare horribly on her without warning, and the police have always been brilliant with her.

Call the police - but also Samaritans might help you. Being sectioned might be best thing? It sounds like she needs help.

I've been where your mum is and never been sectioned. It is a last resort and I'm told its if you don't have capacity. That's why they can't section me as although I've been suicidal I have capacity.

No being sectioned isn't but I know right now she would see it as a huge betrayal. My dad started convincing her she was going mad and used being sectioned as a threat you see.

I've been begging for help for her for weeks I am very in over my head. I totally agree but I just don't know what else to do I don't want her not to tell me and just disappear next time