*Trigger warning* My Mum is trying to drive off to commit suicide I don't know what to do

[OriginalD0G]

My mum is disabled and was attacked horrifically by my "dad".

It's all a big mess police involved etc. She is really struggling whilst staying with me our house is tiny so she's in a caravan on my drive which is not at all ideal - all whilst he is in their house.

I went for a walk today and when I got back my mum was in a state and asking for car keys she wants to go and kill herself. She's begging me to let her go and is so distressed last time I called the gp who was useless I just do t know what to do to help her I can't cope with this I have 4 DC who already have enough on their plates and it would destroy all of us if she succeeded.

My head is a mess what can I do to help her?!

Ring the police ASAP. Tell them what you've told us. She's an immediate danger to herself. They can section her under s136 so you and she get the help you need.

You can't manage this yourself.

But she is telling you, which suggests she wants help. So call the police and help her

@OriginalD0G

No being sectioned isn't but I know right now she would see it as a huge betrayal. My dad started convincing her she was going mad and used being sectioned as a threat you see.

I've been begging for help for her for weeks I am very in over my head. I totally agree but I just don't know what else to do I don't want her not to tell me and just disappear next time

She won't be happy about it but that can't be helped.

When she is more herself she will understand why you had to do it. What else can you do when someone is announcing an intention to go off and take their life?

She's telling you. She wants help I think.

I've been through this with a friend.

Your mum will understand why you did it when she's herself again.

The crucial thing is to get her through this, to the other side.

So don't worry about things like 'betrayal'. You're not betraying her, you're getting help. That's a good and loving thing to do.

💐💐💐💐

Immediate danger = 999 police (quicker than ambulance and have the ability to detain her for her own safety)

You need to be calling your local mental health/home treatment team and speak to the emergency duty team. If you Google "mental health crisis in you should find contact details. Failing that, search for your local 24/7 MH helpline here, they should be able to give you the number www.nhs.uk/service-search/mental-health/find-an-urgent-mental-health-helpline

If unable to keep her safe, you can always present at A&E with her and they will get her seenby the PLT. It won't be quick, you'll be waiting hours, A&E isn't a nice place for someone in crisis. You're better off tryi g the above first.

Out of interest, what county are you? This is literally my job...

Your poor mum, she must be in agony. You would probably not think twice of dialling 999 if you thought she was in agony after a serious fall and thought she’d broken her leg for example, so rationalise it to yourself by calling 999 to help with this terrible pain.
for you both

Call the police now. They can get her to a place where she'll have an urgent mental health assessment.

Please call 999, her life is more important than anything else. Op, sending you prayers.

Please seek help for her. Better for her to be sectioned than to attempt, or worse, succeed, with her suicide.

Call the police. She may not see that you are helping her now but she will later when she is better.

I've called the police

Listen to what people are saying..both you and your Mum need help.

Cross posted. Well done

999. Police. Take deep breaths. You are going to have to withstand her anger or whatever she throws at you. Contacting the authorities is best for you (and for her) so that's what you have to do now. You have to look after yourself. As my dd says to me (of me), 'You can't fix your parents.'

Ohh, you've done it. Cross post. Well done.

Your mum has been attacked by your DAD, her husband/ partner CALL THE POLICE.
He should be arrested, your mums state of mind is because she has obviously been suffering domestic abuse. She can get help. But call the police !!

I doubt she will be sectioned as these sound very much like awful social circumstances

Hopefully she will be assessed and they will put her in touch with mental health services, who can offer psychology/counselling and medication if indicated

I’m quite hard nosed (I work in MH) - I totally understand why some people want to die. Hopefully your mum will feel better after some help from professionals

mylife8410 read the OP's posts. The attack was some time ago, the police are already involved. That's the not the main issue right now.

The police are already dealing with the DV case we several weeks down the line but I feel like all th resources are being used to prosecute him and mum has had hardly any help at all

They will get in to safety and in touch with the right people. Well done for ringing them it’s definitely for the best. You’ve done well and one day she will thank you for it

Well done OP. I hope they can sort out the support she needs right now.

She's pulling clumps of her hair out I don't know what to do

999 - get her the help you are not qualified or equipped to give. For her sake, and yours.

Are the police on their way? Can you talk to her and distract her until they arrive? Is there anything that calms her usually?