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Seeing all these Feeling Low Posts makes me feel like screaming THAT'S LIFE

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RegularPoster · 25/10/2004 17:48

I'm sorry

I don't really read these threads

I do know that depression is a real illness and requires medical help and I do not wish to denigrate those who are suffering in this way

I cannot help thinking that a lot of these posts stem from expecting more from life than there really is. Some people just seem to want to feel good all the time, and the things that are getting you down are JUST LIFE

I think a lot of you do need to pull your socks up and stop analysing things. just get on with your lives and make the best of it

God forbid you had something proper to worry about - like war, disease, famine

Don't seem to see many of the mothers from the SN board posting here nor those who I do see as having real problems to worry about.

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miam · 26/10/2004 00:02

No hercules we dont.

Caligula · 26/10/2004 00:02

We don?t know Hercules, but if we all sat here and posted that we don?t know what she means, it would be a really boring thread!

If she were new, then I think her approach would be unfortunate, but understandable. As a regular poster, she could have predicted the reaction.

I'm not saying that these things can't be discussed, but I honestly don't think that was the intention behind RP's first post.

After all, we haven't really discussed the issue have we? And it is an interesting one, but the way it was phrased and where just didn't lend itself to it.

Who said you can?t have an opinion FF? You can have any opinion you want, doesn?t mean anyone has to agree with it though (as proved by this thread!)

hercules · 26/10/2004 00:02

So rp deserves to be burnt in a vat of acid for being such an ignornant sod.

blossomhill · 26/10/2004 00:03

Unfortunately we have played into RP's hands. This is exactly what they wanted and they have the result they were hoping for.
I am a mum with a special needs child and am on ad's for that very reason.

hercules · 26/10/2004 00:04

There cant be a discussion about this (which is a shame) when posters are insulting another poster.

Caligula · 26/10/2004 00:04

Can't remember who made the acid comment, but it was obviously not meant literally (I assume!)

miam · 26/10/2004 00:04

I did not say that hercules. Only 1 person did and probably regrets it now, but you are lumping us all together in that.

blossomhill · 26/10/2004 00:04

FF - lucky you

hercules · 26/10/2004 00:04

So you know who this person is then and why they posted?

fairyfly · 26/10/2004 00:05

I think we should stick her in a lake, see if she floats

miam · 26/10/2004 00:05

Do you know hercules????

hercules · 26/10/2004 00:05

True but lots of posters were very insulting and lots are assuming what rp meant.
I read it differently.

joanneg · 26/10/2004 00:05

most people dont choose to be depressed and think in a negative way. I would not wish it on anybody and if all it took was to 'think' good then my stepdad who has been suicidal for 12 years has been in the wrong conselling.

nikcola · 26/10/2004 00:06

lets start a thread called what came first the chicken or the egg lets al arguee it out there please

hercules · 26/10/2004 00:06

No, which is why I'm giving them the benefit of the doubt.

Dunking isnt good enough ff.

Burn her!

Demented · 26/10/2004 00:06

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nikcola · 26/10/2004 00:06

lol ff!!!

libb · 26/10/2004 00:07

In fairness it was a provocative post to start with - on the other hand he/she was just pointing out that a reality check is all that needed sometimes. It wasn't a pop at anyone in particular.

I work within the law field and even in my minor position I read a lot of what humans are capable of - now that really is depressing . . . last week we had to issue a Protection Order for 2 kiddies within the afternoon just so they could sleep safe that night - but it is all relative isn't it? one person's poison etc. etc. As always I am being clumsy but there are things to worry about and there are "things to worry about". By the way, I have done the depression/ADs route myself and still have a course upstairs waiting for me - touch wood I will be strong enough to carry on without.

I think that regularposter was just trying to say this but it was a little blunt and therefore it offended people - I am sure that wasn't intended.

I am adding fuel to the fire aren't I?

Caligula · 26/10/2004 00:08

Ooh Libb and there was me about to go to bed!

clairabelle · 26/10/2004 00:08

Fairyfly that's rather imflammatory good for youy if you're not depressed, neither am I but as someone who works closely with people who are I come on these threads to see if I can offer any encouragement or support not to gloat that I'm not

hercules · 26/10/2004 00:09

Which fire is that libb? The one under rp? ;)

blossomhill · 26/10/2004 00:10

clairabelle - That's exactly how I read it.

wizzysmum · 26/10/2004 00:10

Flicked through this and was shocked. Whilst I've never suffered from real depression fortunately and I know that in lots of ways I'm hugely luckier than others in that I have 4 healthy children and we're not badly off, I sometimes do feel down (eg dh working away etc). I know that at this point a few words of encouragement would stick me back on my positive track - that's what friends are for and at this time of night that's what mumsnet provides. I'm sure loads of mums like me have gone to bed happier after a few positive words on here. RP is a very rare mum not to need those words of support from time to time, and I'm sure her life is less rich for it. If my experiences ( and believe me, I've had some!) can ever send someone to bed a little happier, then I'm happy to share them.

miam · 26/10/2004 00:10

You may be right libb, but this person is meant to be a regular poster, so should have realised how quickly things can be inflamed on here. To post it on the depression board was, at the very least, insensitive. No, we don't know her motives but she should have known better.

hercules · 26/10/2004 00:12

Perhaps that's how the debate could have gone.

eg what causes depression? How much of it is state of mind, genes, upbringing etc?

Different levels of depression, what counts as "feeling low" and what doesnt. How different people cope with different circumstances?
How a person who has been repeatedly raped doesnt suffer from feelings of depression yet someone with no tragic events in their life does?

Is that not debate?