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Seeing all these Feeling Low Posts makes me feel like screaming THAT'S LIFE

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RegularPoster · 25/10/2004 17:48

I'm sorry

I don't really read these threads

I do know that depression is a real illness and requires medical help and I do not wish to denigrate those who are suffering in this way

I cannot help thinking that a lot of these posts stem from expecting more from life than there really is. Some people just seem to want to feel good all the time, and the things that are getting you down are JUST LIFE

I think a lot of you do need to pull your socks up and stop analysing things. just get on with your lives and make the best of it

God forbid you had something proper to worry about - like war, disease, famine

Don't seem to see many of the mothers from the SN board posting here nor those who I do see as having real problems to worry about.

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miam · 25/10/2004 23:34

Can understand that jools, but sometimes people are looking for other ways to deal with their depression. And the more people that can say how they dealt with it the more information the person can go away with and look into. I think that can only be helpful. Do respect what you say though.

fairyfly · 25/10/2004 23:35

I still don't get why you have all taken it personally, i really don't. I have been depressed and not sat here and gone what a bitch that women is does she not know what i have been through. It wasn't entitled FF get a grip, can everyone only see their names in the title.

hercules · 25/10/2004 23:35

How can I know? I choose not to judge her and punish without actually knowing her intentions.

Caligula · 25/10/2004 23:36

I haven't taken it personally (I've never posted on a Feeling Low thread) but I disagree with the original post in the way it was phrased and the manner in which it was then abandoned, and I don't understand why that makes me a hypocrite.

Demented · 25/10/2004 23:36

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joanneg · 25/10/2004 23:38

FF - when you choose to put a post like this on a board named 'feeling low' I dont think that you can judge the response of a group of people who are already 'feeling low!' That is why I think that people have taken it personally

hercules · 25/10/2004 23:39

I love a good debate which is why I didnt want this thread removed. A world with no discussion would be awful.

miam · 25/10/2004 23:39

The very title of this thread is aggressive. It was bound to cause a heated debate, and the fact that the person has not come on to either back up what they said, or apologise, has not helped matters. I do not feel personally offended by what was said, but I do feel sad that some may now avoid posting on this board because they do not feel their problems are serious enough.

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libb · 25/10/2004 23:40

joanneg, very sensible advice and I think this should be forgotten about now as I am tired of the whole offending/defending tripe going round and round tonight.

The truth is that practically all of us have varying tons of crap to deal with (me included) - but none of us should suffer having a complete stranger having a pop at them - whatever their side of the argument is.

Lets just let it go now please.

hercules · 25/10/2004 23:40

Why should they apologise for their opinion?

They would hardly come back now would they?

hercules · 25/10/2004 23:41

I do think it's a shame this wasnt able to develop into a discussion without insults.

miam · 25/10/2004 23:42

Joanneg is absolutely right. 2 weeks ago I would have probably gone off my head about this thread, just because of how I was feeling at the time. As I am feeling fine this week, I can see things differently and react differently. The original post could have been worded differently or even better posted on another thread, so as not to appear to be targeted at people who are feeling low.

fairyfly · 25/10/2004 23:42

it is hypocrital for hercules and i to be told to not say anything until she sticks up for herself and posts, but everyone else be able to slag her off without knowing what she is thinking also. It seems everyone can say bad things about someone without them defending themselves but nothing nice can be said as she deserves to be burnt alive.

2wildbabies · 25/10/2004 23:42

H...this is not discussion, though. All that is happening is many people are angry and you and FF are saying we are taking this personally and are picking on original poster.

You do realise that original poster is not bothering to come back to this thread, so how can it be a debate.

Also a debate is 'are mobile phones good' not are you depressed...if so have you got medical help.....evrybody else pull your socks up, make the best of life because this is it.

miam · 25/10/2004 23:46

FF - we are not ALL slagging this anonymous person off. And she has had plenty of time to come on and defend herself. It just looks very suspicious that she should post something that was bound to cause a reaction, then disappear when into the mist!!

hercules · 25/10/2004 23:47

perhaps we have different views about what debate is then.
We dont "Know" rp hasnt bothered to come back.
After all the insults here I doubt they would anyway.
She isnt refering to "everyone else" either.

fairyfly · 25/10/2004 23:47

A debate is discussing and considering, it doesn't matter what it is about, the thing that pisses me off the most about all of this is the insults, the craving most of you have for censorship and the fact i can not have an opinion because i never started the thread

hercules · 25/10/2004 23:47

It looking suspicious doesnt make it so!

Caligula · 25/10/2004 23:48

Well I don't think you and Hercules shouldn't be able to stick up for her if you want to, FF, you've done a valliant job all night of defending her, but tbh I don't think she was ever going to come back, however nice or nasty the thread was. I think this was posted to cause a fuss, not to have a debate, and I'm hacked off that I missed Corrie because of it!

MummyToSteven · 25/10/2004 23:49

point 1.
yes, a lot of people are prescribed ADs. and yes - maybe that shouldn't be the only solution. but to get referred for suitable therapy such as CBT on the NHS can be very difficult.

point 2.
depressed people are very sensitive to any form of implied criticism. sometimes it doesn't take much to push people over the edge. therefore it was particularly cruel to direct this post on this particular board, whether than just on a general chat thread about people who moan about trivial problems. people suffering from diagnosed mental illness still feel this type of post is a virtual slap in the face.

there was a way to have a legitimate debate about the point that some posters moan about things that seem trivial to other people. this was not a civilised or humane way to do it.

hercules · 25/10/2004 23:49

It would be an awful place if people couldnt post a differnt opinion to others. Rp did not personally insult anyone yet has recieved lots of personal insults back which is surely against mumsnet policy.

Mumsnet does not disallow certain topics for discussion unless they are of a personal nature against a poster.

miam · 25/10/2004 23:50

Thankyou MTS - eloquently put as alway.

hercules · 25/10/2004 23:51

People are just deciding rps intentions without actually knowing what they were. Perhaps she just wanted a debate.