A thread for calm - peace, happy thoughts, support.

[Ninkanink]

This is a place where those of you who might need to talk to someone can post for gentle support, a listening ear and someone to keep you company when needed. Anyone who is finding it difficult to manage fears, anxieties or just the stress of virus/isolation in general and needs a few minutes away from your thoughts, come and get comfy here and we’ll chat about anything and everything. Anyone welcome as long as everyone keeps it positive, supportive and light. No arguing, no bunfights, no politics/controversy/dragging one another down.

@TheOrigBrave I have fab flip flops which are so comfy. I've had them 3 summers now and they aren't my first pair!
flopz

In real life

How is everyone?

Hey @Sooverthemill! I hope your daughter is doing better and that things have settled down a little for you.

We’re good, ticking along. It’s my birthday tomorrow so I’ve got some little food and drinks treats delivered tonight with the shopping. 🥂🍰🍧

@Ninkanink have a lovely day! I hope you get to relax and sit in the sun at least.

Sadly, DD is till very poorly and I've been ill too so much so that the Covid-19 app has suggested I book a home test which I've done. Should arrive tomorrow. If we do have it, I don't now how because we've been shielding ( she finally got her letter yesterday!) and although DH has gone out to walk dogs daily all he's done is go to bakers one which is precooked and prepaid and one in one out. Anyway, we shall see. My only worry is if I get to sick to look after her ( and no one else can) or if she gets so sick she has to be admitted as I usually go in with her as the staff can't provide the24/7 supervision/ care she needs. I'm sure it's a false alarm!
Otherwise we are okay

I’m up and down. Head injury means I don’t have stable moods at the best of times. Trying to do an online parenting course the school sent me, but I don’t want to be told I’m rubbish. I do meditation and have been really calm of late. God I’m coming across as crap again. I have really bad anxiety and constantly analysing myself.

I had a lovely day, thank you! I had a birthday brunch (scrambled eggs and smoked salmon on English muffin, and bubbly), birthday cream tea (scones with jam and whipped double cream in lieu of clotted cream), and birthday dinner (Fried chicken delivery)! Plus a card, chocolates and a present. All in all a very good day. ☺️

Sorry to hear it’s not going well with your daughter. 😔 I’m sending positive vibes and hope the situation improves for her and you soon.

Oh and I hope you’re on the mend soon too! It’s a trying time already in so many ways without feeling ill on top of everything.

@Fenlandmountainrescue keep up the meditation. Look at the parenting course as a resource for you, to make things easier for you, rather than something that’s pointing out your flaws and failings. It’s for you to gain from, to give you a set of tools to use.

Dog doing what he shouldn't in te heat yesterday! How are we all? I've had a rough few weeks with very poorly DD and hoping to be coming through that now.

Oh goodness it’s been more than a week!

👋👋

Sorry for staying away. Getting used to new meds and also have had a bit of a dip.

Hope everyone is okay. 🌷

Suffer from panic attacks, normally triggered by stresses and issues I cannot control.

I had a trigger this afternoon that set me off into a panic spiral. None of my techniques worked to get me out of it - trembling, feeling sick, crying, despair.

I'm trying to self rationalise which has helped a little bit as the hours have gone by, but I'm still really struggling.

I know I'll have to self medicate to get to sleep tonight.

The issue and problem is real and will still be there in the morning, but hopefully my brain will be able to put it into perspective and function on normal daily life without it taking over again.

My fluoxetine is good at day to day anxiety, but when a panic attack hits, I just fall to pieces.

Just typing this is somewhat therapeutic.

Virtual hugs to anyone else suffering at the moment.

@PrawnSacrifice hugs. Life can be tough.
@Ninkanink hi! I've had a tough time too as DD is extra sick and I'm at my wits end. GP finally got bloods done yesterday to see what's going on. Last time she was this out of whack she was diagnosed with lymphoma so I worry. But I've enjoyed the sun, kept up my daily yoga and been adding in a short HIIT session as my blood pressure has been going up. Animals are keeping me sane, oh and planning and costing for a new kitchen ( finally) is giving me a good 'project' to distract me. Would like a bit more sleep and another sunny day soon, please
Take care everyone
Ps young dog attempting to wheedle his way into sofa

@PrawnSacrifice 💐 I well understand how horrible anxiety and panic attacks can be. I hope you have managed to find some peace over the past couple of days.

@Sooverthemill 💐 I’m so sorry that DD still hasn’t got better. I’m wishing for a speedy resolution in determining what’s wrong so that it can be addressed.

Here is today’s happy thought:

How is everyone?

Hi @Sooverthemill (and everyone else)

Dealing with some shit, but everything is okay really. Have been keeping you and your daughter in my thoughts and sent good vibes, hope things are clearer and she is on the mend? Hope you are okay too.

We’re moving soon! So am keeping busy packing up our current home and organising things.

Thank you, good luck with the packing! DD is still very poorly but there seems to be nothing more we can do in terms of diagnosis without a trip to hospital. So, as she's not in any danger, that has to wait. Frustrating.

Hi

I hope things are better for you/DD now? Or at least as comfortable as possible.

Been so busy packing/moving/settling in.

Better tag you! @Sooverthemill

Didn't see this @Ninkanink! Was thinking of you today. DD is very poorly and we have a zoom consultation with a private consultant on Monday. I have been very unwell myself for around 6 weeks but beginning to feel better now. How are you?

Hi! I was thinking of you the other day when I peeked into the What I’m wearing today thread (have to stay off it and the Toast threads for the most part as I can’t resist buying and I’m really trying very hard not to spend!).

I’m sorry to hear that DD is so poorly. I hope that you will get to the bottom of it and be able to get some help for her. Sorry, too, that you have been unwell but I’m glad to hear you’re starting to feel better. to you both. And to DH for the job he does!

Oh forgot to say I’m good thank you. We’re so fortunate that we don’t have money/work worries right now and actually lockdown has really helped me personally with certain things, plus my DH is able to work from home which suits him so well. In some ways it’s been ideal for us but I appreciate that it’s very difficult for a lot of people. Right now I’m taking this time to just rest after what was an extremely difficult time with stress/anxiety/ill health a couple of years ago.

Yes the lockdown has made life easier for us in some ways as DH has had to WFH throughout so has been able to support me more and that was great when I had to spend time at the hospital trying to sort out my illness. We haven't struggled financially for which I am grateful ( we had an horrendous time early on in our marriage when I got made redundant and everything was based on me working and earning a lot). He has been made full time permanently now as well and in some ways that's good as it helps our pension pot ( I had to draw mine down when I walked out of my job at start of DDs illness) and I know how hard he works so it's good to know that the powers that be recognise it.

Great name change! X