I just cant talk to Samaritans with my kids in rhe house

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And dd 15 ASD still awake cos she wont go to sleep til I'm upstairs . It's only Jan 2 and I've no idea how I can get through this month, let alone year

Danni I've been battling for ages to get CAMHS support for my ds which is trauma-informed, trauma-focussed. They don't take such an approach so I have turned down some appointments and not said yes all the time. I've always been reasonable, polite, returned calls etc. CAMHS have never responded to my calls emails or letters. finally through friend of a friend managed to see a consultant psych last year who recommended family therapy with a partic practitioner. psych and GP got in touch, no response. GP got back in touch after Sunday night's trauma. GP rang me today to suggest I ring her direct. spoke to practitioner who was "why should we offer you an appointment, you've missed 10 (not true) you're not engaging... so I had to apologise and grovel til she offered initial appointment. Not an ounce of kindness. So so few people I've dealt with are kind.

Oh op that’s really hard
No respite is awful
Please don’t shoot me down but for your DD sleep have they offered melatonin? It’s very gentle but does mean she gets to sleep and you get respite
Sorry if that’s an offensive suggestion

But no person can cope with this

Are there any time’s she is cared for, or are you working ?

dd is demanding, but it's everything else. builder who did a runner mid Dec called today. The volume of seriously messed up shit is literally mind boggling.

tried melatonin... nope

didn't help

It’s sound like you are having a major MH
Emergency whilst dealing with 2 others
It’s a perfect storm

Unfortunately cahms are well known to be useless and slow and underfunded

Using the life mask analogy what very small steps could you take
Today ? Could you look for a therapist for yourself only and pay ? I go
Fortnightly as it’s more cost effective that way

Then anything minor you can do at home to feel More In control ? Sometimes we can’t fix everything but having an OK day , an OK sleep and taking at least 2 positive actions can make us feel in control

Sorry my Suggestion wasn’t useful , and I agree your DD needs more than pills

I just feel you are the priority right now

When you feel slightly better you can handle
All this shit better

Sending strength

fighting yes I have also come to the conclusion that I need a therapist. very daunted, there are loads around here, but they all sound the same, they all say they deal with trauma plus the usual suspects but how to find the right one.

I do or thinking anything and a) I just want to cry b) my horrendously splitting headache returns

I have had success with video and Skype ones . It doesn’t need to be face to face
I know it’s massively daunting
Where are you based ?

Just keep
On trucking . Even one positive action as day and trying to sleep helps . Hope
Your Kids are ok

After you meet a therapist, you’ll have an idea whether they feel like a good “fit”.

Does anything (besides the quiet you’re probably not going to get) help with your headaches?

I had counselling a while back it did help but she stopped work.

nothing helps head. maybe yoga would but class is Tue eve and I don't know if I coukd face it.

Maybe try some YouTube yoga?

thought I was doing a bit better yesterday - did feel a bit better in the afternoon - but crashing again today.

You did better yesterday. That’s a step in the right direction. Nobody has all good days but slowly you can have more days where you feel better.

Today is a tough day, but you will get through it.

I agree one day at a time
See a good ish afternoon as a progress
Rather than ‘I have crashed again’

If nothing else keep a diary 📔
Even you really feel crap just read and watch YouTube videos , ted talks

Even minor thing to impact your MH help

Do you have any idea what might have helped a bit yesterday afternoon?

thanks xx don't know what to do about work next week.

can't think of much that was different for yesterday afternoon. Wine the night before?!

I was under the impression it is not good to mix alcohol & antidepressants.

Is work a little break from the parenting stress, or does it kind of add to it? Do you have a job where less than your best efforts (short term) isn’t a big problem? Could you get more time off & manage financially?

my GP is aware I do drink some wine in the week but is ok with it.

work is a break. it's not a demanding job but can be pretty boring. my GP would sign me off for another week though I wouldn't be paid it's not impossible to do.

dcs home today. didn't get to sleep til 3 as per usual for this week.

Good to hear your GP is aware.

So you’re starting the weekend tired, with Monday/work decisions yet to be made.

Best wishes for some times of peace this weekend.

thank you.

I really don't know what to do about work next week. I "did" more today but feel like I've been attacked by a dementor. I could get stuff done. But my tolerance level is zero and i work in a school. But if I dont go in I won't get paid and it will trigger another shitty return to work process. But I haven't got to sleep before 2am since the nightmare of last Sunday.

Maybe get your clothes & things ready to go to work tomorrow and at this point, plan on going in.

Let your supervisor know you’re not feeling well. If you’re hoping they’ll send you home early, wear a colour that makes you look ill.