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Anyone feel lower than I do?

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Lonelymum · 27/09/2004 14:38

I don't want to talk about me as I could easily start a new thread in this topic every day and that would be so self indulgent. However, here we are, Monday, rainy day, dh back at work a week early having had a week off to recover from an operation (but should be having two), me feeling like I want to shrink away and never be seen again. Yet I have a lovely family, house, life, etc so what is the matter with me?
What I want to know is, who is out there feeling like me? Perhaps if I read some genuine sad stories I will be able to pull myself together.

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Fizog · 27/09/2004 15:06

Oh and I got stood up on Saturday night, well more let down at the last minute than stood up but felt pretty sh1tty about it all the same.

Thomcat · 27/09/2004 15:27

Ohhhhhh Fizog, sorry to hear that mate, that IS shit , his loss the silly idiot.

Twinkie · 27/09/2004 15:31

Was it the one you really liked?? - Have you made another date??

No chance of health farm relax place I am afraid as I have too much work and stuff to do till babay is born!!

God now am thinking about the family I did have who are all dead who were nice and feel even worse - if my nan were here my father would be a different person and I would have had a better life -mind you probably wouldnt have DD or DP!!

Fizog · 27/09/2004 15:35

Yes it was him, no plans for another date, he said he'd 'text me later or something' which means to me that, that is that so to speak. @rse!

Twinkie, is it 6 weeks 'til your mat leave?

Twinkie · 27/09/2004 15:40

No I leave on 22nd Oct is 6/7 weeks till DS arrives although I am praying for sooner!!

Well Fizog - it is his loss (I know that doesn't help) but if he can't see you are such a good thing he isn't worth it!!

Thomcat · 27/09/2004 15:42

Oh Twinkie!!!! you poor thing! Blimey, come on love, think about how lovely you DP is and please try and think of something lovely.

Fizog - that's rubbish Sorry mate.

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Lonelymum · 27/09/2004 15:51

Gosh I nearly missed picking my boys up from school just then! Dd came in and asked if she could have a go on the computer, I looked at my watch and it was 3:05 - usually leave the house at 3! Had to wake up ds3 and rush out. That makes me feel guilty - here am I wallowing away on Mumsnet and could easioly have left my boys waiting in the playground if dd had not happened to come in. I was getting myself down anyway thinking of my grandma. I do think about her when I am not coping as I know she ahd such a lot to cope with in her life and she was such a gentle, passive soul - the complete opposite of me unless it is something that comes with age. Must go and do something positive like Thomcat says.

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KateandtheGirls · 27/09/2004 15:59

Lonelymum, if you really do want to read about people in worse situations then yours, there are a couple of threads I could direct you to. I was going to link them, but decided to wait and see if you really want them first.

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Lonelymum · 27/09/2004 16:02

I've probably read them already to be honest

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KateandtheGirls · 27/09/2004 16:04

So then, you probably know the answer to the thread title.

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Lonelymum · 27/09/2004 16:05

No because I don't know they are feeling lower that I am (and neither do you)

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KateandtheGirls · 27/09/2004 16:06

But you did say "Perhaps if I read some genuine sad stories I will be able to pull myself together."

happymummy1 · 27/09/2004 16:11

It must be a monday thing,i feel crappy today,a bit down but ca'nt really pin point what it is that is making feel like it.
I had sooooooooooooooo much house work to do today and i thought sod it,it can wait till tomorrow and have sat and munched all afternoon,mistake really as i would like to loose wait!
Oh well that can wait till another day!

happymummy1 · 27/09/2004 16:12

oops i mean weight!!

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Lonelymum · 27/09/2004 16:12

Yes. My problem is that I have everything on the outside: house, kids, health, husband, family, money, intelligence, a lot of mental strength that is clearly lacking in other people, etc. The only obvious thing I lack is friendships. YET I feel miserable and hopeless. That is hard for some people to understand I think, especially those who have obvious hardships. They must be tempted to say "oh pull yourself together" but that is not what depression is about. I suppose I wanted to know there were people out there who felt the same as me.

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KateandtheGirls · 27/09/2004 16:13

I agree, Lonelymum, that's not what depression is about, so reading sad stories probably won't help you.

happymummy1 · 27/09/2004 16:14

There is people out there i'm sure who feel the same life does get you down every now and then.

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Lonelymum · 27/09/2004 16:20

Right! I am off to do something positive. It is called making my kids tea, doing the ironing, changing the sheets on my bed and.... I was going to say clean the bathroom but I don't feel I can face that today, even as therapy!

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essbee · 27/09/2004 16:25

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yurtgirl · 27/09/2004 17:19

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Fizog · 27/09/2004 19:29

essbee, that sounds rubbish! hope things start looking up soon.

Thomcat · 27/09/2004 23:57

Ohhh Esbee, FFS, sorry babes. poor little mite. Is he okay now, will you speak with his school tomorrow?

essbee · 28/09/2004 00:07

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Thomcat · 28/09/2004 00:10

Hi babes. I don't get your post, 'he needs to know I won't tolerate it', 'I want him to know hurting peole s always wron'. i thought it was your son that had been picked on and other children wee hitting him with sticks. What happened exactly hon'? Do you want to talk?