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tammybear · 24/09/2004 23:55

ive been trying to be cheery and joking etc, but at the moment i feel low. really really low. i feel like going to get my pills and downing them all

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tammybear · 25/09/2004 00:46

i am guna try to go CAB next week turquoise or at least phone them up. my rents gone up and HB isnt going to go up so need to know what i can do about it

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Turquoise · 25/09/2004 00:47

Yes i'm around for a few hours cab and tb so if you need to keep chatting I'm here (just a bit s-l-o-w till bubs in bed). Wiull post a longer message in a sec just wanted to get that out.

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tammybear · 25/09/2004 00:48

thanks turquoise. i dont think i can go to sleep at the moment.

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Turquoise · 25/09/2004 00:49

Tammy the CAB are fantastic (I used to work for them) and they can find help for so many areas of your life. I would recommend an appointment withthem as well as the other debt people, they are very good on benefits, and will also do a lot of the correspondance for you if you ask which i don't know if the other agency would.

Turquoise · 25/09/2004 00:50

So is dp being a bit more supportive now?

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tammybear · 25/09/2004 00:51

im not too sure what the debt counsellor is going to do except ask for debts, income and outgoings. i was going to go CAB today, but the only time i could have gone was when my doctors appointment was which i was there for 1.5 hours!

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tammybear · 25/09/2004 00:52

duno, hes sort of having a go at me for having a go at him when he said about what has he done to deserve this etc. he probably will be once hes had his moan. but tbh he doesnt know all the ins and outs of everything as i dont want 2 moan at him or worry him, so i guess hes probably frustrated

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Turquoise · 25/09/2004 00:53

Well that was good. Has he given you ads or referred you to a counsellor? Sorry if I've missed threads but only just logged back on. Although IMO it sounds more as though you are just struggling so damn hard, rather than chemically depressed IYSWIM.

Turquoise · 25/09/2004 00:55

It must be hard for him too, since he doesn't live with you he cant realise just how bloody difficult and boring and lonely it can be on a day to day basis.

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tammybear · 25/09/2004 00:56

yea i think everythings just getting on top of me. ive been giving mild ADs to help me sleep but not to do anything for AD. doc has written a letter to counsellor but wont get an appointment for about 6 weeks. she thinks that would be my better option than being on ADs

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tammybear · 25/09/2004 00:58

he does often say that dd isnt hard to please and isnt too much trouble, which she isnt, but i dont think he seems to realise what it does to u mentally. he only puts up with it for a few days every other week

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Turquoise · 25/09/2004 00:59

I'm not surprised it's getting you down. I'm sure the debt people will find a few ways of managing your money though, and then once that's sorted out you'll be able to tackle the other things. And if you're not sleeping, everything seems almost unbearable.

Turquoise · 25/09/2004 01:02

He probably wouldn't understand even if he was her bio dad and with you both every day - unless he was there alone with her every day feeling that total responsibility. And it is Boring, no matter how much we love them. So your college course is going to do you the world of good! What did you choose?

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tammybear · 25/09/2004 01:02

i dont think id be so bad if i knew i had sum1 to help me out if i got really stuck, but i dont. think that makes it worse

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Turquoise · 25/09/2004 01:03

What about your mum?

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tammybear · 25/09/2004 01:03

doing 3! start basic black & white photography next friday, which is just friday morning, lasts 10 weeks. doing foundation adobe photoshop on 12th for 8 weeks and doing a first aid for babies/young children on nov 11. keep myself busy

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tammybear · 25/09/2004 01:04

mums helping my sis out so i feel guilty asking for money off her, plus she has my brothers to think of too. would ask dad but he moaned the last time i asked for money. they're both in their overdrafts as well

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Turquoise · 25/09/2004 01:09

The debt people should be able to see if you might be eligible for an interest free loan from the dss, but should certainly come up with managing strategies at least if not, and get in touch with housing benefit for you and sort that out.
The courses sound excellent - bound to be some fun people there and you might well be able to make some money out of the photography soon.

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tammybear · 25/09/2004 01:11

yeah, im hoping they will be good. i think also once moneys sorted and im doing a bit more, ill be feeling a bit more happier with things

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Turquoise · 25/09/2004 01:14

I'm sure you're right. And if you can get some sleep it will help - have you tried melatonin?

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tammybear · 25/09/2004 01:15

no, ive got lavender spray but i usually end up choking on that

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Turquoise · 25/09/2004 01:18

Yuk! I'd just put a little on your pillowcase! Try a few drops of lavender oil in a bath before bedtime, then a milky drink and read for a bit in bed. But failing that, melatonin works for me ( and it's supposed to prevent wrinkles too which can't be bad>)

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tammybear · 25/09/2004 01:19

lol, ill make a note of that. suppose i should try to get some sleep.

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Turquoise · 25/09/2004 01:22

Just go and rest - don't stress about whether you're falling asleep or not. Lie and listen to the dark and try and focus on your breathing so your brain can't churn over other stuff.
Sorry if I sound like a mad hippy! Good night xx

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tammybear · 25/09/2004 01:24

will try that. thanks. nite xxx

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