Feeling crappy after don a selfie and yes I'll be brave, why does everyone else's look great?

[canyoufeedthedog]

Just this, I have took so many selfie! But look awful, what's the secret

1. People who take great selfies take dozens to get one decent one

1. Everyone uses a filter

1. Eyes down, head up

1. Take from slightly higher up so the camera doesn't catch you under your chin.

1. Don't drive yourself mad!

1. I know all of this because I have a much younger and prettier sister and this is what they taught me!

Oh and 7-they wear SHIT loads of makeup for them!

But yes, all the other posters who've picked up on your sadness are probably worth listening to instead of a checklist from teenage sisters.

Take from slightly above, at an angle. Front on will only show the asymmetry of your face (none is perfectly symmetrical).
Your glasses are also covering your eyes.
If you need to wear your glasses for the photo then push them up onto the bridge of your nose.

Hold your head high, smile naturally and click. I'd try taking two picture, one smiling with teeth and one smiling with teeth on show. I often find that can be the name or break of a good selfie.

I hate the way I look now but I do know that if you look down like that it's not flattering - you are not smiling, you need to be looking at the camera and you need to hold the phone high up (seen teenage sons do it lol) - try again x

Aww OP I know what your saying. I hate getting my photo taken but can look ok in some and think I look fine. I rarely do selfies, I look just like you, glasses perched on nose and a grumpy, down looking face. The pic from 6 months ago was lovely, I would kill for your dimples!

I hope you are ok emotionally and you take the tips and tricks mentioned here on board and get a great selfie.

Whoa @RhiWrites can't believe I've never seen that sub before - thanks for the link!

OP, most of the selfie-taking people I know typically take tens or even hundreds of them (with filters on) before picking out their favourite to show to the world. Social media isn't an accurate depiction of real life.

I think the angle and lighting can make a world of difference...e.g hold your phone above you at arms length, and look up with head slightly to side (think of how celebrities like the kardashians pose)...those looking up and to the side shots always look more flattering than looking down shots...

Plus alot of peoples selfish today look good because they used free filter apps and free Photoshop apps to tweak them to look perfect...

I’m not sure I’m brave enough to post the pictures on here but I’ve just taken two different selfies of myself. Both are just after a shower with wet hair and no makeup. The only difference is turning to the light, posing and blurring the picture ever so lightly and the difference is HUGE!

You have literally taken the worst picture you could possibly take and are using it to berate yourself with!

Honestly my unposed concentrating face makes me look about 3 stone heavier (I’m already pretty heavy so don’t need anymore help on that department) with at least two extra chins, my face colour is red, dark and a little oily and I just generally look a right mess. The posed selfie looks so much better!

You cannot judge yourself on one poorly taken picture.

I never take selfies. I think I look ok in the mirror but fuck me, what is going on in the camera? Lopsided goblin, 15 years older than ‘mirror me’. Bad. I look best in photos I don’t know are being taken. I just can’t pose or look natural if i’m being asked to, I look weird and self conscious (because I am), like a Wallace & Grommit character.

You aren’t alone, OP. Try not to set any stock by selfies, they aren’t real. As others say, most people you see with an endless string of ‘perfect’ ones on their social media aren’t just snapping them off and posting them spontaneously. They are painstakingly editing them having taken 20, 30, 40+ first. Who can be arsed with that? Presumably you’ve got better things to be doing? I know I have.

I really hope you are ok OP. As others have said there must be other things going on here, but hopefully you'd talk about them if you wanted.

I never take selfies. I'm extremely uncomfortable in front of a camera anyway and it's probably my age, but it just seems to me that the whole selfie thing is a really odd and narcissistic out-of-control trend. I remember staying with a mate in my twenties back in 19-oatcake (pre-social media) and her flatmate's room was covered with photos of herself. Seemed really odd at the time, but I realise now that's the norm a lot of people and their social media. It's not just filters now either. I've been trying to dissuade my 13 year old DD from using "face tuning" apps where you change your nose shape, chin, etc... People in photos increasingly look like avatars of themselves they've created. You can't even tell anyone's age any more as everyone's filtered the shit out of themselves.

Sorry, that turned into a rant! As you can tell I'm not a selfie fan.

Every picture taken of me I look like a bag of shit! You look equally lovely in both pictures, they are just different

My sis is good at posing for photos, camera above you, you looking up from a slight side angle

First and most importantly, please do get help for your sadness - you needn't feel this way, you are a worthwhile person who deserves help and care, and your doctor, friends and family are waiting to help you, if only you'll let them know.

Second and far more trivial, everyone looks rubbish in selfies at first - learning how to do them well is a skill like any other. Here's a great article with tips on how to take better photos www.buzzfeed.com/kristinchirico/a-model-taught-us-how-to-not-suck-at-selfies-and-it-actually#.lx0ZbeLr

I take crap photos I hate having my photos taken
But I found the app YOU CAN MAKEUP and it’s blood amazing For the first time ever I can get really nice photos of myself
I could never work out how all my friends looks so bloody good then one of them told me that they use that app 😂

Is this real? You look unrecognisable from that photo. Is it truly only 6 months ago?
Have you been suffering depression or physically ill as you look very stressed?

Maybe it could be mainly down to the camera angle and that you are not wearing the same make-up.

To help you feel better why don't you:

1. Turn that frown upside down.
2. Have your hair cut as before (it suits you) and spray afterwards with John Frieda's glossing mist which gives amazing shine.
3. Put on same make-up as in photo 6 months ago. Do every day to make you feel good.
4. Wear nice perfume.
5. Are you the same weight as 6 months ago? If not, start eating healthier and get out in fresh air more.
6. Practice camera angle with selfies. Make sure you are face on so that your glasses frame your eyes properly.

Every day think of all the people & things you are grateful for. That should put a smile on your face and that in itself makes everyone look better.

I take awful selfies - just tried with the timer (which I didn't know I had) and the immediate difference is incredible!
I can't work out how to apply filters - should they be on the camera and applied as you take the picture (Motorola), or is there an app to use to apply them later?

The first pic looks very similar to one of mine - this is why I don't make video calls! In the mirror I look OK. I think the camera for selfies is different to the other one on my phone, but I find it helps tô look at the camera not the screen.

Don't despair canyoufeedthedog I look reasonable for my age but selfies of me look awful. It can take at least 10 attempts to look even halfway decent.

You are much more than your looks - the attractive woman inside can get out, I assure you. She just needs a bit of help with the right angle and lighting. All the advice on here is good. Why not wait until you've done your hair and make-up before you try again with all the advice given here? Then I'm sure you'll look and feel better.

You're beautiful in both OP. Don't be so hard on yourself. Not only beautiful but brave for posting a picture on here of yourself, especially aibu.

It's unheard of on MN but I'd love to know what users look like. I enjoy looking at people (not a perv)
If you're genuinely feeling suicidal then please contact 999 or tell a family member.

So here’s me now🤪. Just different angles, expressions. Look a few years younger in second, yes?

Everyone looks shit in selfies unless you hold the camera higher and smile a bit.
Please don’t judge yourself on what you look like in photos.

Ha! I've accidently turned on rear facing camera and made myself jump before now - I feel your pain. You look much happier in the earlier pic and the lighting is totally different so I'm sure if you staged a new selfie it would look totally different.. Happy snapping 👍

I can tell you are pretty - don’t worry!

ANGLESSSSS!!! You should realise that angles and lighting play a good role in your selfies.
You are NOT smiling, you seem to have a concentrated frown and LOOKING DOWN at the camera. No looking down at camera selfie EVER looks good AND find a good lighting when taking pics , like in broad day light, open your curtains and stand closer to the window, raise your phone and look up (NOT TOO HIGH), smile, make up, drink loads of water everyday too, helps with skin hydration. :)

This meme always makes me laugh so much because it is so true! There is nothing worse than opening the front camera when you have your phone at the wrong angle!

www.buzzfeed.com/amphtml/lyapalater/always-be-selfie-prepared