Feeling crappy after don a selfie and yes I'll be brave, why does everyone else's look great?

[canyoufeedthedog]

Just this, I have took so many selfie! But look awful, what's the secret

Totally down to angle and the vast majority of selfies are edited in some ways too. I used to do airbrushing for magazines (long time ago) but now you can do it on a phone in 10 seconds. If you want I’ll do one for you; just take it at a better angle first so you can see your eyes and you aren’t looking down into the camera.

You could try forgetting about your outward appearance and focus on the woman inside. Selfies are the 21st century disease, demoralising and quite honestly make people think in a shallow way that diminishes them as a person.

I can look like two totally different women on a selfie! Angle the phone upwards for a start and smile!

Never compare your best picture with your worst picture - in most cases they won't be recognise able as the same person!

You haven't changed so much in 6 months, you just need better lighting and not to hold the camera u dear your chin. Also, take 20 photos and delete 19 of them.

We can all take a horrible selfie, which is what you’ve done. Try again.

My dd is 15 and she takes about 40 selfies before she finds one she likes enough to post! You’re being far too hard on yourself.

you are more than a collection of pixels on a phone. a load of pixels and photons are not worth killing yourself over... or just feeling like it.

It's literally just the angle and lighting as others have said. Particularly as the light source is artificial and comes slightly from below, highlighting all the wrong areas of your face (remember holding a torch under your face at Halloween as a child?)

Take pictures in natural soft light if you can (if I have to take a selfie I always take it in my bathroom in front of my window as it has one of those light diffusion things on it). Hold the phone above you slightly and angle your face a little (most of us have a more flattering side profile), but most importantly SMILE

You have a perfectly lovely face but selfies are an art form and most of them have filters on them too! (don't believe everything you see on social media)

The first you’ve just randomly pulled your phone out and your glasses are slipping down as you’re looking into your phone.
You’re not made up like you are in the second photo, or even smiling, and that one was taken by someone else at a more flattering angle.
You seem very down, I hope you reach out for the help you seem to need.

why arent you smiling?

There's a whole short of memes a out the terrible shock people get when they turn their phone camera on in selfie mode by accident. Any photo taken from underneath looks far less flattering that one taken from above.

I have times of hating my appearance too, op. It's helped me to realise that a lot of selfies people take are at their absolute best angle and/or photoshopped and filtered to the max.

Definitely angles and lighting play a big part. Some phones are worse at taking selfies too. Nothing worse than feeling that you look okay and then taking a selfie only to find you have instantly aged fifty years and piled on forty stone

This is about more than looking crap in a photo, isn't it? What's the real problem here?

My DC take dozens and dozens of selfies before they post one that ticks all the right boxes and even then it will have been filtered. I took a selfie on snapchat once and that app automatically brightens the skins, softens lines, makes eyes bigger and teeth whiter. I didn't look like me - although I'd like to think I don't have particularly dull wrinkly skin, squinty eyes and brown teeth

You’re frowning and looking grumpy the first one. Delete it.

Well I look like my mother before she died. She was 72... ah well. Happy international woman’s day!

So firstly: angles like PP have said. Most people look better from slightly above.

Secondly: put a countdown on you phone. I never have less than 5 seconds between pressing the button and the picture being taken. It gives you time to pose.

You sound very down OP and I feel sad for you but surely you can see the angle in the first photo isn’t flattering for anyone (albeit you look perfectly fine in that too imo). Plus a smile always looks better, on everyone.
I’m 25 and, not trying to sound bigheaded, I’m reasonably pretty. People tell me I have a lovely smile etc. I look like absolute shite in photos taken from below, it’s just a terrible angle! I also have a chronic case of resting bitch face so always smile in photos.
Of course the bottom line here is how sad it is that anyone, no matter who they are, feels suicidal over how they look in something as inconsequential as a selfie, but I fear that’s the world we live in and the pressures we live under now.

It's the angle - simple as that. Selfies should be taken from above , not below.

You’ve photographed yourself from below. Always take the photo from above. Always.

Shoot from above. Face into the light or buy a little selfie light. And download Snapseed (free app) so you can use the portrait tools to brighten your face and eyes, edit out little imperfections, etc.

Everything Freckles said. Please don't beat yourself up.

You could try forgetting about your outward appearance and focus on the woman inside. Selfies are the 21st century disease, demoralising and quite honestly make people think in a shallow way that diminishes them as a person.

This is OK in theory, to preach 'focus on the woman inside.......' But the fact is, the vast majority of women worry about how they look..

Seriously, NO ONE looks good at the angle you've taken. No one. Hold phone slightly ABOVE your face. Don't look straight on. Angle your face slightly to left or right.

Some may deny it, but most women do care how they look.

LOL I thought it was just me who took photos from above - well slightly anyway! I have got pics where I look 10 years younger, and some where I look 10 years older, depending on the angle and the lighting. In reality, I look my age, like everyone else does when you look at them properly!

@canyoufeedthedog

Why on earth would you take your selfie from below, with a grimace on your face, and your hair messy, with no make-up, and your glasses slipping off your nose?!

Everyone will look a bit shit from THAT angle. Even the big celebs who always look fab, and who most of us would class as stunning!

As a few people have said, there is clearly a lot more going on if you feel like killing yourself because of how you look. Have you spoken to a doctor about it? (Or anyone else?)