Anxiety support, Hand hold or chit chat come say hi #3

[Fairydust26]

Can you believe the last threads full up?! We had a great support network going on the previous two so come and say a big hello and join us.

Hi everyone I am experiencing stress and work related anxiety especially at the weekend and pre Monday! Just sitting in the car now trying to get the courage to go in and do it all over again.

How you feel better now stayclosetoyourself. I was like that last year and changed jobs. Much happier now although I have been awake since 3am. That's more to do with my course though not work

Thank you I do feel better. It's hard to feel like that before dirk but rationally I also gave to think that I could not be in work and still be anxious.

Sorry -
in work and
have to think !!

Have started seeing counsellor, someone who has experience with ASD. Only done two sessions, no real changes yet. Hopefully I can get out of this rut. It’ll be interesting to see where I am this time next year. Obviously I’m not expecting to be perfect - I expect I’ll always have some kind of lurking anxiety - but I’ll know how to deal with it. I don’t mean really awful anxiety, just that because I’ve been like the way I am currently for so long I’ll probably always be a bit prone to worry/negative thinking. But I’ll hopefully have the tools to go “ok, you feel like that which is normal, but the positives are xyz, you can do this.”

That’s great toffee1000 such a big step you should be proud of yourself!

Well done Toffee. I think I am becoming addicted to excersise. Last night I had a pack of crisps and almost half an easteŕ egg and I felt like shit after it. Really sluggish and sick. Not even living a clean lifestyle I mean I eat thoes go ahead things a lot.

I might look into counselling myself as although the pills are working for my anixety, I am still struggling to deal with other stuff.

I need to do more exercise too. I do pretty much none right now. I’m not at all interested in running, which I know is v popular. So it’d make sense to do stuff I enjoy. I don’t mind cycling or swimming for example. It’s difficult right now when it’s still somewhat cold outside and still gets dark quite early. I suppose it’s just a matter of just doing it.

Toffee I do a boot camp class indoors on a Tuesday and Friday evening, park run on a Saturday morning and then the couch 2 5k app on my phone when I fit it in. I love the boot camp, it's tough going but also a laugh. Gets me out of the house and talking to people for 40/ 45 mins. I didn't like running at all at the start but don't it so much now. It helps me sleep and stops me thinking about things for a while.

Hi. New here so if I do or say something that offends or seems crass, please be assured I don’t mean to. I’m anxious all the time at the moment - ds1 and ds2 have both suffered from anxiety; ds2 has taken two overdoses in the last year. He got signed off before Christmas from camsh and seems to be doing better (he had a row with his therapist and she said they’d come to the end of the road 😳). All this started with close, painful and life changing bereavement.

Today has been horrible. Ds2 was out with friends and has been texting a girl. A very unpleasant acquaintance messaged this girl and savaged his personality to her, reading out what she’d said ‘as a joke’. The group of friends he was with all laughed, although they later apologised. He was humiliated and impulsive - but restrained his desire to hurt himself, came home, sobbed and went to bed. She knows about his hospitalisation.

In the past, this would have affected me by causing a surge in anxiety, tears and possibly a panic attack, hyper vigilance and sleeplessness. I’m not feeling that. Instead, I got a massive adrenaline rush and went to find him. I ended up sitting outside her house, debating whether to go to speak to her mum - crazy idea. I then crashed down and felt faint and sick. I feel so sick.

I’ve spent the evening talking things through with my son as he’s scared to go to school. The girl messaged him apologising, but followed it up with a diatribe about what a shit person he is and how he deserved it blah blah. He really isn’t. She attacks people verbally at school regularly.

Sorry for banging on. I just feel so stretched and desperate for him to cope. I don’t really know how to help him. He internalises and I verbalise - I’d let rip at this girl; whereas he says he’s scared he will freeze and be even more humiliated. What can I do, to help him and me?

Can I join? I think I have GAD which has become attached to my phone. I know it's ridiculous but I can't stop it. If I message my DP or teens and they don't respond quickly I'm a mess.. My mind is crazy with thoughts of accidents, abductions.. I end up ringing them and if they don't answer.. Full on panic attack. I've even gone out looking for them.. Its ruining my life. I can't even rationalise it. I've had counselling, I have anti depression meds but I'm paralysed with fear. Then I hear from them, I respond... And the whole cycle starts again. Does anyone else have this? Is there hope??

Hi everyone - I’m a newbie
I’ve long suspected I have mild OCD and also I’m a compulsive worrier which has turned into generalised anxiety. These two are linked right?

Yes, definitely Basilneedswaterandsun! Welcome to the thread. Feel free to share as much as you like.

Thanks @toffee1000

Came hunting for a thread like this this eve as I’ve had enough. I went for a run to try and clear my head. Which kind of worked until the worry vacuum sucked another anxious thought in. I’m just tired of it. I cried in front of my partner because I’m sick to bloody death of hunting for something to worry about. Why why why do I do it to myself. I tried to explain to him that I know I’m being irrational but I can’t help myself. He helped calm me down. Even though nothing bad is actually happening, I just have a sense of doom. That I’m going to lose everything. I’m going to get sued (I’m in a highly responsible career open to litigation) and my insurance won’t cover it. I’m going to lose the home we bought last year. I’m going to go to prison. None of these thought are based on reality - well...perhaps they could be if I warp reality enough like my brain does.

Has anyone found that CBT helps negative thinking? I hear it bandied around a lot.

Basilneedswaterandsun, sorry you are going through this. This was me a few years ago. The only thing I have found to work is CBT AND medication concurrently. The meds make acting in CBT much easier, it's like thwy give you time before your response to the thought , in which you can challenge it. CBT really helped me understand what the problems with my thinking were and how to challenge them. Good luck 🤗 xx

Newbie here.
I’m menopausal and since starting have really suffered with anxiety. HRT has helped a bit but not a lot.
Mainly environmental/climate change/brexit related - all stuff I have no control over.
Currently giving Rescue Remedy a go in the hopes that even though I don’t believe it will do something it will.

Hi @talulahbelle
I think I might try rescue remedy

I’ve had a bit of a lightbulb moment. My anxiety this week has been severe (for me)
I have recently done veganuary and have remained largely vegetarian and I’ve just done some research whereby apparently lack of vit B12 causes anxiety. Has anyone else found this link?

Hi everyone thought I’d give the thread a little bump and hope it can bring some comfort to anyone who needs it or just wants to say hello . Just seeing if any of you are still around and how your all doing now?.

I've had a tough 6 or so weeks with anxiety and low mood. My dr upped my sertraline to 150mg and I feel that has kicked in over the last week. I've also been seeing therapist for the last 5 weeks. I do feel so much better to where I was, but the whole mental health thing is on my mind in the mornings. I almost feel like it's a bit like a hangover, like the aftermath of feeling so rubbish for so long. Can anyone else relate to this?

Hi to anyone around suffer from this shit.

I’m a long timer with acute anxiety which then leads to depression sometimes, I’m hardly ever relaxed especially daytime evenings are better
I’m 61 and not really been free since menopause!
Had loads of therapy over the years, can’t really say any have helped(it’s still here, with vengeance sometimes)

At the moment I can’t seem to get a rest from my brain switching on to how I’m feeling, even when I’m doing something, something will pop up and it’s like it invades my space(iyswim)
I talk to myself with things like
I’m not paying you any attention
It’s just a thought

Then few mins later something else will unnerve me, constant battle that does my head in
It does get me down!

Hoping the thread re starts again

Hi all....has anyone ever suffered severe anxiety when pregnant?? Im 4+5 weeks with no.4 and so anxious since i found out....last year i had a breakdown...recovered well and got back to work last november after 6 months off...in january this year i was pregnant with twins...but unfortunantely lost them at 7 weeks...it was an awful miscarriage...as they all are...but it traumatised me...thought we were readu again this time but im a mess tbh....the anxiety is getting worse....honestly why do we have to suffer it!!! Anybody have similar experiences....need to talk so bad xxx

Hi all. Can I join? I’m suffering a bit at the moment and could do with the support.

Hi @fatterpillar, back in may I went through a awful period of anxiety and low mood, I'm now so much better, so please know it's not forever. Are you on any medication or talking to anyone?