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Just been told I have PND.

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yummymummy06 · 12/06/2007 11:44

Hi. I have posted a few times on here. I have a 9 month old and have been battling with feeling down and really bad anxiety since she was born. Finally told the HV today and did a questionaire and she said I have PND. She was very helpful and told me to go and see the doc tomorrow. So finally I hope I have come to the end of how im feeling and the doc will give me some tablets. The only way is up!!

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lissie · 12/06/2007 11:47

at least you can do something about it now. there are lots of women on here who have suffered from PND, myself included, but there is an end to it.

there will be times when it doesnt feel like it but one day you will wake up and all the colours will be back in your world. untill then use us to rant at. here for you x

compo · 12/06/2007 11:49

well done for telling the health visitor and going to the doctor.
If you want to we're a very friendly bunch on the postnatal Sept '06 thread here

bakedpotato · 12/06/2007 11:54

Oh, well done. I remember the relief when I was diagnosed with PND. The diagnosis gave me hope that I wouldn't be stuck feeling like this for the rest of my life, and that this wasn't all my fault.
Things did get much better -- they will for you, too.

BernieBear · 12/06/2007 12:07

Agree with baked potato, the relief of finally "giving in" and having a name for the way I was feeling was immense. Took the ads for 8 months and quite frankly (whilst I was initially against the whole idea) it was the best thing I did, both for me and my ds. Councelling also helps enormously. Just having the chance to tell someone who is not judgemental or involved with you in anyway how you are feeling is a relief.

As you say - the only way is up from here. x

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yummymummy06 · 12/06/2007 20:08

Thanks girls. I feel abit strange knowing that tomorrow I can take the tablets. I am wondering if I am making it out to be something it's not and I don't need to take them but I keep feeling so down.

I am also abit scared about being on them and they wont work and this is just how im going to feel for the rest of my life.

Thanks again. x

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Haribosmum · 12/06/2007 20:17

Yummymummy I felt the same. I wondered if I was being a bit precious about it all and did I really need the ad's? Glad to say that eventually I gave it and started taking them and I am feeling sooooo much better for it.

sweetjane · 12/06/2007 20:36

yummymummy not wishing at all to belittle your experience, but ime pretty much everyone suffers from PND to some degree at some point or another - the trouble is that very few are brave enough to admit it and do something about it, so well done you for having the guts to tackle it head on. It's so hard to come out and say actually, I feel cr*p! - I hope the doc is helpful.

susue · 12/06/2007 22:13

I had PND after my first ds was born, I had a loving husband, a nice home and nothing to worry about. What the hell was wrong with me? I finally sat on the bathroom floor and said 'I can't do this anymore'. I started taking ADs and saw a counsellor and slowly I found myself again. It's a brave thing to admit to and to ask for help so you've done the hardest bit, you will get over it. When I had my second ds I didn't get PND or even the baby blues so don't let it put you off having anymore children, Take care

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yummymummy06 · 13/06/2007 16:49

Hi. Wanted to let you know I have been given Citalapram today. Am going to take it tonight before bed. I have read all the side effects and am abit worried. I am also worried it's going to make me feel worse first. I am on 20mg. How soon does it really take to notice a bit of a difference, doc said 2 weeks? Thanks for your help!

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bakedpotato · 13/06/2007 19:37

Don't worry about sideeffects. You may get dry mouth/funny tummy/slight wooliness at first. But you shouldn't feel worse emotionally: if you do, there'll be another AD that suits you better, so go back to the GP straightaway.
Chances are, you'll be absolutely fine.
Different ADs take different amounts of time to kick in. If doc says two weeks, that's pretty quick.
HTH

tubismybub · 13/06/2007 19:43

I was given citalapram and was very worried about the possible side effects but all I had was bit of nausea. I think I started to feel a lot better after 2/3 weeks but would say it took a good 6 months to feel my true self again.

As it is 11months down the line I feel fab and have been gradually coming off the ad's for the last month in fact I finish altogether this week.

Make sure you see your doctor regularly and don't be worried if you need to up the dose a bit I started on 20mg and went up to 30mg. Good luck

vonsudenfed · 13/06/2007 19:56

I've been taking citalopram for 2 months now - it's made a huge difference.

The first two weeks were Wierd - I felt really spaced, yawned a lot, and generally peculiar. Didn't feel nauseous, although a lot of people do. But it wore off after ten days or so, and then I did start to feel a whole heap better.

So it's worth sticking with it - all of those awful feelings really do go away. And once you've got through the side effects, you don't feel doped or drugged, at least I didn't.

I also take mine in the evening - it was definitely the best thing for the first few weeks as I slept off a lot of the side effects. But see what works for you, and change it if not!

Good luck - as you say, the only way is up!

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yummymummy06 · 13/06/2007 21:06

Thanks everyone. Just taken my first one. Feel really emotional tonight and am now crying, think part of me is just releaved that hopefully soon I will be feeling better, I am also really tired so going to bed soon.

It's nice to know that there are some kind people on here who are supporting me. Told my OH tonight as he works away all week, he was quite supportive but i don't think men reall understand!

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Dior · 13/06/2007 21:08

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talcy0 · 13/06/2007 21:11

Nothing new to add.....just well done for getting the help...it does get easier.....you are so right.....the only way is up!

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yummymummy06 · 14/06/2007 08:20

omg, I took the first tablet at 8pm last night and went to bed at 10.30pm. I think I was wide awake practically the whole night. I woke at 4am and nearly got up and did the housework but managed to fall asleep at 5.30 and now feel really tired. Think I will take my tablet today at lunchtime.

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vonsudenfed · 14/06/2007 09:03

oh, poor you! But do stick with it - the madness does tail off after a bit - and if it doesn't, there will be a different AD that works for you. Hope lunchtime suits you better!

Dior · 14/06/2007 09:22

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Lolly68 · 14/06/2007 09:40

Definately take them in the morning but I have been quite lucky in that I havent suffered from insomnia just waking up through out the night but not having probs getting back to sleep.

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yummymummy06 · 15/06/2007 09:31

Hi. I have been taking the tablets in the morning and I slept quite well last night. Today I feel abit strange, anxiety is quite bad today and I feel abit paniky. I hope this wont last too long!

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bouncy · 15/06/2007 13:19

Hi, i took citalopram and it made a huge differentce to me, the first week or so were the worst as i feel dosey and had more anxiety, but i was told by the doctors my body just needed a change to get used to it, after a few weeks I started to see the benefits.

I started off on a low dose and went up to 40 mg, so as others have said dont worry if they want to up them.

Hope your feeling better soon.

Dior · 15/06/2007 16:04

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ScottishMummy · 17/06/2007 19:07

hope you okay darling
thinking about you hope u find your way through the dark periods - take support and advice offered it is available so good luck

give ur medication time to work too

an diagnostic actual label does help - it clarifies that u are experiencing a recognised illness

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yummymummy06 · 18/06/2007 10:48

Hi. Thanks for being concerned. I was just about to start a new thread but think I will continue on this one.

OH came home at the weekend. We had a nice day saturday, had some friends over. As he is away all week he tends to get up with the children and do their breakfast both mornings so I can get a lay in but just recently he has been moaning. Sunday I only slept til 9.30am and came down and then later on he had a go as he is trying to fix the house up, look after the kids etc etc. Then he said 'my depression is getting him down'! I had actually been ok over the weekend and not felt that down and all I want from him is abit of support, especially as he isn't here in the week, sometimes all I want is a hug. I remember he went through a down time at work a few years ago and he told me to be supportive. I guess men find it hard. He then didn't talk to me for 8 hours. He makes me feel very paranoid about everything.

Im not sure if the tablets are kicking in abit now, it's day 6
now and I feel less paniky and am sleeping abit better now.

The thing is also I think there are things deep down that are affecting me too and sometimes I find it hard to talk to OH as it always end in an arguement.

Thanks for listening! Sorry for the rant.

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