I have no one to talk to all day.

[IcingOnTheCake]

My dp goes to work at 6am and comes home at 5-6pm. I feel more and more down everyday as i have no one except a 6.5 month old baby. I find it very hard to talk to strangers and instantly put up that protection guard with new people. I have tried the baby groups but no luck. Somedays the people on mn are the only people i speak to all day while dp is at work. I sound like a real sad ass don't i.

you don't sound like a sad ass, this is a really common experience for lots of mums with young babies tbh

{{{hugs}}}

oh Icing - this could be me talking seven years ago. I was so sad and felt lonly and desperate. When I could thought I could not do the whole baby group thing I thought I would just do one more and I went to an NCT one and met the most wonderful woman. I was so surprised when she called me up a few days later to go to the park (my self esteem was shot to hell you see!) and we bacme firm friends and I saw her EVERY DAY for ages.

Sadly I had to move away but our ds's are firm friends and we camp every summer. She made my life bareable.

I think what I am trying to say is don't get disheartened - it is a real shift in gear when you have children but it will come.

Also you have mumsnet - are there any meet ups in your area?

(sometimes I only talk to people on here all day too!)

Don't sound sad, sound like a mother stuck at home with a baby. I thought that being a new mother was the lonliest period of my life. Persevere with baby groups - if you don't like the ones you have been to so far, try others. I hated them at first, but in the end the half dozen or so people I got to know at them became my salvation. Could you have pnd as well as feeling lonely?

"she made my life bareable" that makes it sound like she converted me to be a naturaist should it be bearable?

Not at all. It is very hard when you feel like it is usually just you and baby. Have you tried looking up mumsnet meetups near you? It is daunting visiting mother & toddler groups when you know no-one, and people can seem quite unwelcoming, but most people are just a bit shy too. If you need a conversation starter, comment on how pretty/clever/well dressed their baby is- instant common ground to build on. Have you visited you local children's centre yet, if you have one? They can be so helpful. I hope this helps, I will check back tomorrow to see how you are. x

Well i do post on the meet up thread for my area but i seem to go un noticed. I don't think i make a very lasting impression, on here and in real life.

where is your area Icing?

Bournemouth.

Bump for Bournemouth mums!
I don't know the area at all but please try and get out every day, even if it's just for a walk.

I want to see a theropist. I don't know how to go about this though and i don't know if i could afford it.

Definitely agree with the other posts (on here and on other thread - saw your thread, read it, meant to come back in a minute and agree with posts, came back and found they had GONE! Thought I was going loopy ).
Do try to get out even if it seems really hard (and takes forever to get out of the house). I'm sure lots of the other people at the groups are feeling just the same as you, however they may appear.
Why not try one with an "activity" (music, tumble tots etc) so there isn't so much time to feel you aren't chatting?
And do see your GP.
Good luck!

I don't know what gp can do?

Yes, I spoke to you today, Icing. That's what Mumsnet is for. We can away wax lyrical about it being a forum for discussion, but it's way more than that. We end up bickering because we're like a bunch of sisters, varying in age, looks, intelligence and experience, but with children in common.

Many of us know what it's like to be on our own all day with small children. That side of it doesn't get any better in the short-term, so take the good advice you've had on this thread, and start trying to find some women you can really do business with ..... and take pleasure in your child. It seems like an eternity, but it doesn't last forever. Your dc's your best mate (more so as they grow), so that's always great place to start.

I think GP can refer you to a counsellor if necessary.

when did you speak to me today rabbleraiser?

Ask your GP to refer you.

hey icing,

you are not on your own.... lots of new mummys are in the same situation..... you just need to meet up with lots of people until u find someone who you click with!

But no one is gonna come and knock at your door... i have met the loveliest girl here in mumsnet and we have developed into a very nice and strong friendship....

there is lots of nice people out there ...now you need to make an effort ...

how are you today icing?

I feel like a pile of poo. I have so much racing round in my head and i wanna unload some of it but i am too scared because i don't want people to think i am just being a marter and feeling sorry for myself.