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[Fairydust26]

going through abit of a crappy time with anxiety/health anxiety at the mo so thought it would be a good idea to create this thread. I always find that when I’m feeling anxious writing it down makes me feel a little bit better so hopefully some of you might too and we can support each other through this crappy time as I know it can make you feel pretty lonely. I’m trying to not drag myself back to bed and write today off so I’ve made a cuppa put the heating on sat by the xmas tree and going to try and have a clam Saturday so come say hi

Of course Rachie1986 anyone’s welcome😊 I suffer too more so since the whole family got a sickness bug last xmas🤢, I remember having to hold dp hand whilst I was being ill as I was panicking that much!. Even though it’s unpleasant It’s something that’s over with in a matter of seconds and you just have to deal with it. If I start to feel sick now I have to try and remind myself that it’s not this big scary monster I’ve created in my head yes it’s not very nice but I’ve dealt with it numerous times before I can do it again. Sorry if that’s not much help but good hygiene and your chances of getting ill are drastically reduced, I know it’s hard but try not to worry about it as it will only make you feel worse you never know the worst might not ever happen like troopers said your defiantly aren’t alone.

Thanks troopers and fairydust. Nice to not feel alone :-)

I'd be interested in that guardian link troopers

Things a bit better here. Dp being very helpful and nice!

thefuture do you think that if you told him the difference it makes when you feel supported, that it would help him understand? People who don't suffer from anxiety often really don't understand how we feel. Our triggers are completely incomprehensible to them. Maybe a little gentle communication would help to bring you closer. He can't solve your mental health issues, but he can make you feel like you are not alone. Just a thought. I used to write my thoughts down for my DP and he would write back. It helped.

Sharing on here has helped me to identify that I catastrophise most in the mornings. I wake up and immediately the day is full of insurmountable fears. Of course, most days go by its out any if these fears becoming reality. I wish I could learn from this. Any tips? Do others do this too?

Sorry - should say - WITHOUT any of these fears becoming reality.

Hi, can I join too? This was the year I turned 40 and the worst year I've had with my anxiety since I was in my twenties when it was really bad. I tired Sertraline but it made me really ill. Started therapy which has helped a bit but it's early days. My main issue is health anxiety and now I have a horrible virus which has really set me back because I'm so so anxious about being ill.

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/sep/15/consumed-by-anxiety-give-it-day-or-two

Sorry, don't know how to do links but I thought this was pretty good. I'm actually ok today - my pattern is
Monday: Nightmare
Tuesday: Nightmare
Wed: Calming slightly but up and down
Thursday: kind of normal
Friday: OK

There's definitely a pattern which is why I think downloading on here and journalling will help.

Big hugs all x

It's a link! Well done Troopers!

Hi cattia. Get your health anxiety, mine is more emetophobe but I think there are common themes. Really hope you feel better by Christmas.

I was on sertraline for post natal depression and it helped, but it depends how it reacts with you. Not on anything currently.

Of course cattia welcome 😊 & thanks for the link Trooperslane2 I’ll have a little read of that later on🤓.

Well today started of fab dog decided to be sick then whilst cleaning that up I managed to step in dog poo not once but twice! and then AF decided to make an early appearance. Gotta brace the shops tonight to get the last few bits for xmas but on the anxiety side of things I seem to be doing well but that could all change after I’ve been shopping ha!. Hope everyone else is doing okay?.

Having a bad time with health Anxiety lately. Been to gp with a few issues but still can’t settle! Keep crying and thinking the worst!

I’m massively anxious at the mo. I’ve had a few bad events In a row and I’m jumping out of my skin at pretty much everything. Doors slamming, people walking past, pretty much any loud noises. The random worried and thoughts are fun too.

I’m doing all of my usual shizzle to keep on top of it, but it’s only just working at the mo.

fantasmasgoria1 I have HA too and it’s so deliberating i could be dealing with it fine one minute then the next I’ll get what I think is a symptom of something and my anxiety just runs away with it thinking it’s the worst so your not alone in feeling that way😊.

Welcome KeemaNaan hand hold for you hopefully you’ll find some comfort on this thread everyone’s lovely😊.

Morning everyone. This is the new me. I no longer catastrophise in the mornings. This day is not going to be horrendous. Everything is not going to go wrong. I am not going to be hated by everyone I meet. My day at work is not going to be about being stupid and getting told off like a child. There are going to be good things today. I am going to text my daughter to arrange meeting over the weekend. I am going to do lots of positive things because I have a positive attitude. If things get tough I'm going to take 5 minutes to write down all the good things in my life. Hope everyone on here is ok today and finds some positives in the day too.

Wow banana, that's fantastic. can I have some positivity too please? :)

We've moved into the new house, and the shower is so weak and not very hot, and I just broke down yesterday! I know, it's pathetic, but it's a huge move where we don't know anybody and I can't even have a nice shower.

Also I think my anxiety is far, far worse if I'm not in control and now I live with my DP I am not in control of everything. He is bringing his giant DVD collection tonight and I really snapped at him about where it's all going to go :(

Anyway, hope everyone is ok xx

I feel like I've found my people here! I have been anxious/had anxiety for as long as I can remember, I've been treated on and off since I was about 15, I'm just bloody exhausted with it. I have horrendous physical symptoms and that is worse than what's going on in my head. I hate being like this, thinking the way I do, I get so angry at myself for letting myself be consumed with it. I find it so exhausting.

This time of year is the worst, I still haven't worked out why this is triggering but I'm sure I'll have a flashback one day.

Awesome banana. Well done you!

Liar are you moving in with your DP? That would be a bit stressful for anyone let alone those of us struggling with anxiety. I hope things settle down

Hi rose.
I find this time of year worse too. I get so anxious about myself or my family getting ill and it ruining Christmas.
I've had some counselling which really helped me to start and unpack things, and I did some thinking about Christmas. I realised I partly look forward to it so much because it's the one day I don't worry or get anxious particularly - so as long as no-one is sick or anything I don't think or worry or dwell on world events, work stuff, any other worries.

This year I'm trying to just enjoy each day in the lead up, instead of hanging on and just waiting for the big day. So it's not just all about that one day.

Sorry that was long! Bit basically it's not just you who struggles at this time of year :-)

Hi everyone. I wonder if I can just offload (I wish!) a current health anxiety of mine here?

I have had a sore throat for about 3/4 weeks now and I spoke to the GP the other day about it. I can see I gave a red lump on one side behind my tonsil and also a small lump on the side of the back of my mouth kind of behind my tounge.

The GP said to go back in three weeks if it's not gone and he will refer me. He said to make an urgent appointment with him then so it doesn't add another three or four weeks waiting time on as at that point it would need to be looked at.

Obviously I'm now terrified it's cancer. It's not showing any sign of going down. The red lump near my tonsil could just be swelling from when I've been ill, but the other one is just a random lump on the side of my mouth.

I shouldn't have googled but I did, and I can't see anything else it could be. The doctor saying it would need checking has scared me too.

I take citalopram for my anxiety (for about six months)and have had CBT and was feeling loads better, but this has set me back.

I just want to turn this off so it doesn't ruin Christmas :(

worried - so sorry to hear this. I am trying hard to find positives in everything today, so maybe this will help. The GP wouldn't wait if this was something really dangerous, surely? Lumps and bumps are rarely cancer. Googling is fatal - it only ever tells you worst case scenarios - ignore it and leave it to the experts. Aren't we lucky to have this amazing NHS and it's fantastic staff? Our society cares for each other's health and well-being - it's such a bloody privilege to live in this country at this time of medical knowledge and care.

worried I'm sure the Dr wouldn't have waited 3 weeks if he thought it was anything serious,they're so careful about lumps and cancers these days.

I know your worry though, thinking of you x

I'm worrying about getting ill following my daughter's sickness. She was only sick once and we suspect from a high temp rather than sickness bug iyswim, but we don't know. Worried as I obviously had to comfort and cuddle and was around when she was sick that I might get it, just in time for Christmas :-(

And then worrying because we're going to panto tomorrow and don't like the idea of bugs and sick people in that big hall breathing in the same air. This was supposed to be a treat! DH doesn't really understand.. I am going to go because I don't want the anxiety to beat me.

Looking back at last year I think I am much better than I was. Just trying to enjoy each day (hard when today is housework day ;-) ).

Sorry for long post.

worried my DS had something similar turned out to be blocked siliva glands which was most likely caused by a cold she had a few weeks prior it went away shortly after. Try not to worry like others have said if the dr thought it was serious they would want to see you sooner also NEVER google it only makes matters worse I’ve learnt that the hard way!.

Hope everyone’s doing good?

Rachie1986 if you were gonna catch what your DD had then it most likely would of happened by now so try and take some comfort in that. Also as much as I hate housework it’s something that you can get stuck into and it takes your mind of things, look forward to having a nice cuppa with your feet up once it’s all tidy😊