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[Fairydust26]

going through abit of a crappy time with anxiety/health anxiety at the mo so thought it would be a good idea to create this thread. I always find that when I’m feeling anxious writing it down makes me feel a little bit better so hopefully some of you might too and we can support each other through this crappy time as I know it can make you feel pretty lonely. I’m trying to not drag myself back to bed and write today off so I’ve made a cuppa put the heating on sat by the xmas tree and going to try and have a clam Saturday so come say hi

good luck with hypotherapy gttia

I've started doing housework/chores and the panic is rising. My list seems impossible to achieve already. Tried to tackle the bathrooms and almost immediately there is stuff I need to buy to make any progress (spirits of salts) but then then are all the other errands i need to do today!

I've put the dishwasher on. And taking a deep breath to tackle the washing up in the sink and the compost before I go out of the house run away

feeling slightly better now that I've started the tasks, sweeping the floor is quite calming. feel more able to distinguish between important/sensible things to get done and less urgent things which can wait (although how does one ever unravel the two sorts of demands?)

Hope it goes well for you gttia!😊.

Feeling okay today fingers crossed I’m coming out of that blip🤞🏻. Hope everyone else has a good day.

Hi all, just back from the GP. She thinks even though my anxiety could be a factor my symptoms (I've now developed diarrhoea and tenderness) indicate bacterial gastritis. Need to do a sample tomorrow. She's given me some strong antacids to help calm things down. She didn't want to put me on citalopram again whilst my stomach was in disarray.

I feel a bit more positive that I have an action plan and some things to try. Trying to look on the positives, at least the last of the baby weight has gone, even if it's not a great weight loss plan.

Nettles I find lists help me work out what needs doing when. I also look at one task at a time rather than look at a group of tasks if that makes sense? So if I break it down into chunks it's easier to manage.

I've done some chores, and emptied the enormous food compost bin into the main compost heap. It seems to be rotting down nicely, that really cheered me up!! I've also bought some citric acid to deal with limescale in the loos, and poured it down.

Fitzsimmons the GP sounds very helpful. You are quite right, I have been mistaking looking at groups of tasks for efficiency, when in fact grouping things together makes me less efficient, and more conscious of not succeeding in my goals.

I don't understand the 'outing and identifying 'posts. Why bother?

Does anyone else get a kind of heavy/ burning feeling in the left of their chest? It's a physical symptom but it makes me feel angry and quite emotionless...

Glad you went to see your gp Fitzsimmons hopefully now things will start to calm down a little and you feel better soon! 😊.

Nettleskeins I always find once the house is cleaned/chores are done I feel so much better tidy house tidy mind!, It’s getting the motavation to do it in the first place that’s the hard bit.

inthewoods4 yes sometimes if I’m feeling really anxious as if someone’s placed a tonne of bricks on my chest.

Can I just say how comforting this thread is? Obviously it’s dreadful how many of us suffer. But on the side it’s nice to know I’m not alone and others go through the same things.

After calling in sick because of anxiety the other week I went to my gp who wrote me off sick for the rest of the week. I did make use of this time and cleaned my flat and tried some exercise. The week after was okay I guess. Back to work and felt a bit uninspired I guess. In other circumstances I would say I was feeling lazy but I try to avoid that word.

So fast forward to today I woke up feeling anxious for no reason again. It’s always on Tuesday, since my work week starts on this day. I debated so long again until I had no other choice but to call in sick again. I always feel so low when I do this. I then try to force myself to remain in bed like a punishment. Like I called in sick so I gotta act like I’m sick.

I have decided now that I will not suffer today. Or at least I will try. I’m gonna read my favourite books and watch my favorite shows. The only thing that is really worrying me is that I will see my boss again tomorrow and I’m imagining the worst things. Will she say something about my sick days? Will she tell me off? Will she think badly of me? I chatted with her about my off days before and she was quite understanding. But you know anxiety...thoughts running wild. Maybe this sick day was one to many? Maybe she’s not understanding anymore? We actually discussed using my annual leave for those days so I’m not officially sick on these days. I need to stop thinking. Maybe I’m overreacting again. Thank you anxiety...

Reike I know exactly how you feel. If I ever have a day off sick I worry myself stupid about having to ring my boss to tell her thinking she'll be annoyed at me or won't believe me. It's easier just to go in although some days I could cry at the thought of it and really really don't want to.
I'm having alot of problems at work at the moment and my anxiety is sky high. I've got a docs appt this afternoon as I feel so low. If she signed me off though I think I'd be too scared to actually be off aa si much to do at work I think it would be even worse when I went back!

Sorry meant to say, as I have so much to do at work...

Hi, hope it's ok to just jump straight in.

Have suffered from anxiety and depression for years and was on AD but have managed the last 5 years without.

But I feel awful today, a few things have happened at work in past couple of weeks and each little incident has chipped away.

But yesterday has sent me spinning into a downward spiral. I don't want to go to work anymore I just want to hand my notice in.

Yesterday a client was unhappy about something, I was in the firing line. In front of everyone she ranted and raved, she even stamped her foot at me. I couldn't calm her, this lasted about 10mins with other staff just scurrying off. I held it together, and she just stormed about muttering to herself. Another client was really upset by her behaviour and came to see if I was alright and to say she had been to see my boss about the unacceptable behaviour of the other.

I got home and just cried I don't even know why, I have worked in this industry a long time, and some clients can be awful, but you learn to have a thick skin. I haven't been on the receiving end of something like that though in years, if every that bad either.

I seem to be worse today, I thought after the crying and talking to dh I'd be better, but my old anxiety is back, I feel paralysed. I don't want to leave the house, I have to later there is no getting out of it but I feel sick at the thought.

I made myself get out the house this morning too, I did what I had to and couldn't get home quick enough. Whilst out I couldn't think straight and even forgot my pin when I was trying to pay for something.

I don't want to go back to work, but I haven't got anything else lined up and if I just leave I won't get any decent references either.

I'm so sorry this is so long, I just needed to do something.

I will be going out very soon, so if anyone does reply, I haven't just dumped and run, I will be back later.

Reading through the thread, I'm sorry for you all suffering with it

Oh yes, the guilt is the worst. I always dread the day after returning to work. In the end it all seems fine but for some reason my head won’t accept this. It’s kinda like a deadly cycle. You feel awful leaving the house - you call in sick - you feel awful because you called in sick. Sometimes I wish I had something like a cold or a broken hand because then I would feel like I’m allowed to take the day off.

Hi ChesterdrawsBang, I’m so sorry you’re having such a tough time. I had a few days like this the other month. Had returned to work after having a really bad cold. Obviously wasn’t well enough to work again but forced myself regardless. Had the worst day ever. Anxiety kicked in and I was overwhelmed with everything. I was given some extra work and that was enough for me to burst into tears. Hiding in the bathroom of course. Spent the whole day hating everything and everyone and the slightest things set me off. Thankfully it only lasted one or two days so I can only imagine how you feel. I hope for you that this phase will pass soon because it will eventually. Thinking of you and wish you strength to face your days. You are not alone

This thread is really good. In real life it seems like everyone else has it all together and we’re the only ones who suffer. It’s so alienating and I know I often feel like what the hell is wrong with me?? It’s so good to talk to people who understand not only the mental anguish but also the physical pain and discomfort that goes hand in hand with anxiety and depression.

Hello everyone welcome😊 so glad your finding comfort in this thread!. Just a reminder your not alone with your struggles sending positive thoughts to all of you.

And thank you for keeping coming back so nice to know there’s always someone to talk to that completely understands what your going through when you need it most x.

This thread was a really good idea. To me it feels like a safe haven. I can post about my struggles without being met with criticism, doubts and misunderstanding. We should keep this thread going and make it a regular thing

I'm glad I found this thread as a hand hold from some like minded people is what I really need right now as I can't talk to anyone about this in real life.

I feel like I'm falling apart recently. I've been on ad's for a few years since my dd was born. I have always struggled with low mood and stress so just find it easier to stay on them.

In the build up to Christmas things were so busy as I know they are for everyone. What with all the school activities, christmas prep & busy at work I just became exhausted. Had just over a week off work but only one day where we weren't seeing family & friends. I became overwhelmed with it all & felt my mood begin to worsen. I felt like I had no rest or me time just to relax and do nothing, it felt like pressure to be seeing everyone & pleasing everyone but me.

Back to work Jan 2nd and straight on to a crazy busy time. I am p/t but my workload is more and it's starting to cause tension between me & my manager as I can't do it all and some things have slipped through. Sometimes she is rude and impatient with me and this puts me on edge. I am normallh very placid at work but last week it blew up & we had a massive disagreement. I spent most of the week in tears & highly anxious & stressed with all the physical signs that go with it. She scares me & I dread going to work. We've met to try and sort things out but the pressure of trying to do a full time job in p/t hours is getting to me. I don't want to increase my hours as I have another chronic condition so I want some time for me so I can keep that under control.

Lately i've been so horrible to my dh & dc's. At the weekend I just couldn't control my mood and was going off at them for small things. I am such a horrible mum & they don't deserve that treatment, although they can be little terrors at times!

I feel like I'm losing any sense of self control at home & now work too but I don't really understand why. I'm tired, grumpy, impatient & highly anxious.
Is this anxiety, depression or my age? I'm 43 & things definitely get worse in the week or so before my periods due. Or am I just a horrible grumpy person?

I am so unhappy like this and just want to feel happy but I don't know how. I just wondered if anyone might be able to relate or offer any words of wisdom? Thank you

Very quick selfish post, sorry.
Hypnotherapy good, another session booked in.
In parts of the day I have total calm, and then like now I don't. Maybe I need to go up to 20mg citalopram? Haven't last few days because I haven't been in work and work is my really life saver - find I'm totally calm there. A friend today promised to meet me while I'm on my own at two of the big trigger points (what will be the worst days) she made me feel better and I'll really look forward to my time with her because she's such great company and never makes me feel silly.
Full of anxiety though this evening. Wish this wasn't on the cards but it is and I need to deal with it

Very quick selfish post, sorry.
Hypnotherapy good, another session booked in.
In parts of the day I have total calm, and then like now I don't. Maybe I need to go up to 20mg citalopram? Haven't last few days because I haven't been in work and work is my really life saver - find I'm totally calm there. A friend today promised to meet me while I'm on my own at two of the big trigger points (what will be the worst days) she made me feel better and I'll really look forward to my time with her because she's such great company and never makes me feel silly.
Full of anxiety though this evening. Wish this wasn't on the cards but it is and I need to deal with it

Honey1975 I think I mentioned that a while ago on this thread about my anxiety being worse before my period also tends to ramp up around ovulation aswel. Could be a coincidence or could have something to do with that who knows? The joys of being a woman ey?🙄.

Glad the hypnotherapy went well gttia how long have you been on citalopram for? Has it had time to settle into your system before you think about upping the dose. I go through stages where I think I should up sertaline but then I’ll be absolutely fine on it that I think otherwise.