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[Fairydust26]

going through abit of a crappy time with anxiety/health anxiety at the mo so thought it would be a good idea to create this thread. I always find that when I’m feeling anxious writing it down makes me feel a little bit better so hopefully some of you might too and we can support each other through this crappy time as I know it can make you feel pretty lonely. I’m trying to not drag myself back to bed and write today off so I’ve made a cuppa put the heating on sat by the xmas tree and going to try and have a clam Saturday so come say hi

Thanks everyone.

I feel a bit better for writing on here and getting out in the fresh air. Also I have thought about a way to feel a little bit more in control.

Yes guilt is always a big one. It's vicious circle of making you feel worse. I try when I feel myself dipping, to give myself time, sort of donate a day to staying in bed, so it's something to look forward too. So even if the day before I was in bed and beating myself up for it. I would say right tomorrow it's all about staying in bed. I know if you have small dc and work it is very difficult to do.

When I was at my worse dh sometimes had to come home from work and take over, as I just couldn't function.

Hypnotherapy sounds very interesting, so good luck

I'm having a sucky time too, desperately want to start ttc but still in probation at job and worried that could go on longer than expected due to exam I must pass. It could end in 3 months or 5. I know it would be better to wait then 5 months, job security. Etc.

Then I convince myself that I'm infertile (had trouble with ex, 8 months trying and nothing, he's gone on to have another child so it must be be right.) And that's it's best to start now! Not lose it. Then I'm back an forth.

DF and I DTD without protection. Pull out method, so know I'm unsure if it is I'll be a little sad. Then quilty. If it isn't I will be very sad. God! I hate aniexty!

Honey sorry to hear you are having a tough time, you don't sound like a horrible person, you sound like someone who has a lot on their plate. I can relate regar regarding moods approaching my period, my anxiety is definitely worse in that week before and I'm snappy and grumpy. It's hard when you have kids and they have no clue what you are feeling. Have you ever had any CBT?

Clay it took us a year of trying for DS and with DD I got pregnant first time off contraception. So as you can see it's very random. I hope that gives you some reassurance regarding infertility.

I'm a freelancer and as DD was in childcare today I decided to take a mental health day off. I went for a walk and spent quite a long time organising the kids' toys. Sounds daft but it's quite therapeutic putting all the various sets together.

I feel horribly guilty now though. I don't get paid if I don't work so I'll have to make up the time some how if I want to earn enough this month.

The medicine i received yesterday had helped a bit. For the first time in ages when I woke up i didn't feel sick. I managed a reasonable amount of breakfast and lunch. Dinner was a struggle though. The heartburn is always worse in the evening. I didn't eat a lot again. I've really changed my diet to try and only eat things that won't aggravate it and am getting quite low about that. I love baking and feel sad that I can't enjoy food at the moment. It's become a burden rather than something nice.

Have any of you lovely ladies read ‘self-help for your nerves’ by Dr Claire Weekes? Highly recommend it for those suffering with anxiety/depression. It was written in the 60s so some of it is a little outdated but the way it’s written feels like she’s directly speaking to you, her approch to dealing with it is so simple yet so powerful if that makes sense?. Whenever I feel like I’m going through a bad patch I always go back to it and gives me great comfort so worth a read if you haven’t already.

Thanks Fairydust26 I shall have a look on Amazon for it.

I'd just like to thank you again for this thread, it meant so much to be able to come here and talk.

honey just checking whether you have had a thyroid test or Vitamin D test recently..that crept up on me when I was in my mid 40's without my realising, and only properly diagnosed at 46 when doctor arranged a thyroid test for the first time to check for rheumatic issues (joint pain) Just in case. I go on about this a lot, but that is because most people don't know that this can worsen underlying anxiety and depression. This time last year my Vitamin D was very low without me realising, it was only when ds was found to be deficient that I checked my own levels, and started swigging supplements (now on 2000iu a day on doctor's orders)

to all on the thread, I am feeling a lot better recently, and going to bow out now. Fitzsimmons you did the right thing to sort those toys out, it will give you a calm space in your mind to look back on (and a lovely organised house) Yours and Fairy's words about tidying have helped me a lot.

ChesterdrawsBang thank you so much you don’t understand how much that means to me. The only people who know about my anxiety is my Dm & Dp and they only know the half of it, so to have people on here that I can talk to about it really helps makes me feel less lonely. Re the book the kindle addition is only £3 but you can get the paperback for around £7 best book I’ve found for anxiety X

Glad your feeling better Nettleskeins really hope things stay that way for you!. If you ever find yourself having abit of a wobble we’re all here for you😊.

How do you all cope with this endless damp/wet/wind/grey/cloud?

It's just started raining here, yet again, and I've got tears rolling down my face. My head feels like it weighs 20 stone and I can't concentrate on anything.

Undercover I live in Cumbria so I understand where you are coming from. Honestly I think you have to embrace it. There's a saying round here that there is no bad weather only bad clothing. Yesterday I forced myself to take a walk even though it was wet, windy and cold. I put on all my waterproofs and boots and I did genuinely feel better after. I do understand though, it's so miserable when the grey days are endless.

The weather is really annoying. I always feel better when I’m out in the warm sunshine. I love sitting in the garden reading a book. It’s really calming. Can’t wait for spring!

I don’t mind the rain so much however it does make me feel less motivated to the point If I didn’t have to go to work or have things to I’d stay in my pjs and bed all day. But I agree when your already feeling like crap the last thing you want to see is another doom and gloomy day outside, not long till the spring folks.

Gonna get ready to go to work now. And probably face my boss. Probably because I’m not sure if she’s even in today. But please wish me luck

Good luck Reike hope it goes well for you! Treat yourself to something nice when you finish 😊.

Up and down here. I felt really myself yesterday, was laughing and chatting to my husband as normal. Then a friend popped in this morning (I've been avoiding people for a few days) and it was good to start with but then she said a few things that got my anxiety going. I always hate it when I feel I'm not making progress. I'm nearly three weeks into going up from 10mg to 20mg of citalopram so hopefully they are starting to kick in...

I hope you don't mind me adding to your thread, but I've been having a bit of a rough couple of days and could do with getting it all out.

I've had anxiety troubles on and off over the past couple of years (and depression before that). I was in a situation in my life that made me very unhappy, and which caused me a huge amount of stress and triggered the anxiety. That peaked in about June/July last year, when I ended up taking low dose olanzapine for a short while, because my old GP thought it would just get me through the worst of the life stuff that was going on.

My situation is now changed (it is much, much better than it was), but I have been left with this anxiety problem. I went to see my new GP (moved areas), but she would only give me propanolol, which I don't really want to take (I have massive anxieties around my health - my dad died when I was quite young). I think things are getting better overall, I definitely have more good days now, but some days I just can't stop the panic attacks, including heart palpitations, sweats, upset stomach etc, and because I am anxious about my health, it kind of snowballs. You know how it goes, I'm sure.

I'm moving house in just under three weeks, in what will hopefully be our last move for a while (we've not long moved back from overseas), and I think it is the stress of moving again which has set things off. I'm so desperate to feel well and go back to work, but I struggle to see the light at the end of the tunnel some days. My period started in the middle of the night last night, and as Fairy says, I wonder if there is a hormonal component. I've been feeling on edge all day, had a few heart palpitations and things, and just can't stop catastrophising about everything! I know it is the anxiety making me feel like this, and I know that I am getting better, albeit slowly, but some days are so hard.

Sorry, that was long and very self-pitying, but I just needed to get it out!

inthewoods4 the fact that you had some good days is great and shows your making progress. Experiencing heightened anxiety when upping your does it totally normal 3 weeks is still quite early days hang in there!.

Welcome NotEnoughCats😊 sorry to hear your having a rough time, moving house would be a stressful situation for anyone!. Your post wasn’t self pitying at all as you can see from this thread loads of us feel exactly as you do your not alone.

Undercoverbanana if i'm in, then the miserable weather outside makes me feel worse.

But YY to the saying from Fitzsimmons

Waterproofs on, then walk the dog. I always feel better than if I didn't go out.

I also work outside, and as long as I stay dry, it's quite exhilarating, especially the wind today.

Hope your day went well today Reike

inthewoods4 small steps, you have made progress you were laughing and chatting, you had a small break from the anxiety.

NotEnoughCats anyway you could request the doctor prescribes olanzapine based on you know it works and you know you don't have side effects on it?

I didn't sleep well last next thinking about having to come into work today. Didn't rush to work this morning, but once there and talked to a couple of people started feeling better, the day went well, and I feel almost back to normal

Not sure why I have bolded olanzapine

Glad you had a good day ChesterdrawsBang hope it stays that way for you!😁

Chester I don't think they'll prescribe the olanzapine, although I had thought about asking. My overseas GP was a bit of a maverick, he prescribed it off label, since it is usually used for bipolar and schizophrenia. The problem with it is that it causes weight gain, and since I'm pretty overweight as it is (alcohol mostly I'd think) I'm a bit reluctant to ask for it. I'm trying really hard to get my weight down. I think part of the problem is that we've had some bad weather recently so I've been unable to get out for a walk every day, which definitely impacts my anxiety levels. Plus the alcohol consumption has crept up, where I had cut it out completely.

I think I just need to hang on and cope with it until the move is over, then make a plan to get back walking, quit alcohol completely, and start looking after myself a bit better.

Thanks fairy fingers crossed.

But it's been rearing it head more often then it has been these last two weeks. Last Tuesday I was just the same, had to stop myself from just driving to work (on my day off) and handing my notice in.

Turns out my boss isn’t in all week due to being sick. Which means I won’t have the dreaded talk from her before Tuesday...lovely. More time for my imagination to run wild. Otherwise I had a quite okay day. Not really good but not too bad. Thanks for your thoughts

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