Anxiety support, Hand hold or chit chat come say hi

[Fairydust26]

going through abit of a crappy time with anxiety/health anxiety at the mo so thought it would be a good idea to create this thread. I always find that when I’m feeling anxious writing it down makes me feel a little bit better so hopefully some of you might too and we can support each other through this crappy time as I know it can make you feel pretty lonely. I’m trying to not drag myself back to bed and write today off so I’ve made a cuppa put the heating on sat by the xmas tree and going to try and have a clam Saturday so come say hi

LEM - do you want to tell us how you are feeling? Would it help?

We're here Lem

NYE can be a shit evening. You can be here with us if it will help.

Thankyou - i just feel I am on an endless treadmill of anxiety. It just so relentles5. But I have my Dp dd2 and my dogs. I'll be ok.

Pinkcoat I kniw exactly what you mean with the filling in the gaps if worry.

One step at a time I guess - wishing you all a peaceful new year

Can I join? Newbie here. I have suffered with anxiety my whole life which lead to lots of bad decisions drinking/drugs when younger until I realised what it actually was!! Feeling really blue at the moment, been poorly over Xmas and that hasn't helped. I'm sure no one really likes me or wants me around them anymore

Can I join too , I had a mental breakdown last October, which resulted in me losing my job. I'm a single parent and have GAD, depression, PTSD and Borderline personality disorder, iv tried CBT, EMDR therapy, talking therapy but my anxiety is still at an all time high, in shops, the school run. Over my friends house I just can't wait too leave to confine myself to my house and shut the world out, even when they visit me, I can't wait for them to leave, so iv isolated myself and spent a lot of the past year just me and DS , my panic attacks can sometimes surface when I'm lying on the couch watching telly. Iv read numerous self help books, iv exposed myself to anxiety situations, iv tried to just go with it, iv tried running off the adrenaline, iv tried bloody everything. So now I'm also on a bit off a downer.

Hi Claire and Cmblue and welcome.
I'm pretty awful myself atm. Obsessing over the same thing all day and not helped by having too much to drink last night.
I knew before I went out that I wasn't in the right frame of mind for socialising and that I would over indulge. Drinking seems to help at the time but afterwards never.
I think I just need to stop messing around and at least try some counseling, instead of just thinking it won't help.
I could just cry and I need a proper reality check.

Reality check needed here too.
I cannot go on like this. I need to change.

Evening all.

Doing ok here.

Welcome to the newbies and sorry people are struggling. I don't have any particular advice but hope things settle down tonight or tomorrow for you x

dd has been invited to the theatre by a friend of mine, and I've just googled where it is. Aargh, miles from any tube. Already feeling incredibly anxious about the nuts and bolts of getting her to the theatre on Wednesday evening; the sad thing is I think friend thinks it is a treat for me to accompany dd. I hate travelling into Central London in the evening, and coming back on tube late at night. Dd is very keen to go though, at least that is something. I'm sure I will enjoy it in the end, but just annoying not to enjoy things which are meant to be FUN!!!!

otherwise today has been okayish. Took kids to cinema, drove, prepared nice supper, which everyone ate. Washed up. Took dog home to owners! I hate winter, I really do. The reality of those grim evenings full of mess and quarrellling people Just have to turn it round in my head to warm Dickensian scenes!

I've enjoyed washing up this evening actually. It seems quite cathartic and mindful. The water, the rinsing of plates, the ordering of items on the draining board, wiping surfaces. I think tidying is going to be my mindful activity for the New Year! I'm sure my family will appreciate it, as I am naturally messy As long as one can focus on small things it is much easier, it is thinking of the big things that can overwhelm, like how to tidy entire house etc.

Nettleskins I know what you mean about stressing about getting to/ from the theatre. That is exactly me and it does spoil things as you are worrying about getting home rather than enjoying the show.

Hi...hope you don't mind if I join in. I have had severe health anxiety since July when an x-ray of my chest was flagged as suspicious. I lost it - to a point where I needed a short course of diazepam. I convinced myself I had lung cancer or some other nasty disease. Since then, I presume every symptom is a bad disease - cancer being my usual choice. I can't stop googling symptoms and it's becoming an obsession now since July I have convinced myself I have had cancer of the lungs, stomach, kidney, oesophagus, lymph nodes, throat, arm and breast. I also convinced myself I had cirrhosis of the liver (I don't even drink), kidney failure, lupus, and many more. My current fear is ovarian cancer - my doctor suspected I had kidney stones so sent me for a CT scan. No stones, but a trace of fluid was seen in my pelvis. My brain tells me it's nothing too serious, but my inner anxious self says cancer. I have an internal ultrasound on Wednesday so hopefully won't have to wait too long to know.

I wish it was something I could get rid of... fluoxetine is helping me but its not a cure. I was fine before the x-ray. I'm hoping CBT will at least help.

Sorry for the huge first post

Welcome clairebear31 & Cmblue 😊 today’s been good spent the day chilling with Ds watching movies all day not looking forward to things going back to normal tomorrow though just have to keep telling myself one day at a time.

Welcome Sunshine4677 😊 as you can see there is a couple of people on here that suffer with HA too myself included so you have my sympathy. I have to keep reminding myself that not every sensation is a symptom hard to do when your in a state of panic and all you want to do is consult Dr Google! Which is the worst thing you can do😬 I found posting on here really helps hope you do too!😊.

I hadn't realised how much work affected me until today. I have been doing so well over the holiday.

I can't get up. I've been up before 6 every day and can't face it today. Can anyone explain that?

I know I left a pile of unopened Christmas cards on my desk and it seems so rude. I don't want to see them or think what others might be thinking about me. I don't want work diluting my holiday - does that make sense?

I am so confused. Can anyone make sense of this?

Do you mind if I join you?

I suffer with separation anxiety. I am ok day time, but if my dh wants to stay out at night I'm floored. It takes over every waking thought until it happens, then I don't sleep etc. My worry is about me, what will I do while he isn't there. Totally irrational, but it's crippling me. I've tried cbt, I took diazepam the last time he stayed away. That was over a year ago and it's become such a big issue that I try to stop him seeing certain friends because they like to arrange nights away a few times a year and I can't cope with it. So now an evening out is looming and I'm panicking because it's one person's big birthday this year and he will want four nights away. The thought of him packing and having to say goodbye makes me feel physically sick. And four (although five) when you add in the packing nights alone, what will I do.
I have friends, a great full time job but this is crippling me and I'm desperate not to affect our marriage.

Plus he is great and comes home, but I feel he is starting to resent it. As in this next day out a break away will be discussed and I'm desperate to be totally cool with it. Is it a case of exposure therapy?

Of course gttia anyone’s welcome😊 is there anything you could plan to do when he’s away to keep you busy?. My dp was away with work for a few days recently and I absolutely dreaded it but I kept myself occupied and actually enjoyed some me time before I knew it time had flown by and he was home. Does your dh know how your feeling? Maybe discussing It with him might put you at ease.

Undercoverbanana sod the xmas cards who cares what people think about that. As for not wanting to get up I can totally relate to you on that! of course I’d rather stay in bed and avoid life but sometimes that’s impossible however hard it can sometimes be. Hugs for you

Yes he's fully aware and very good but I don't want to be this way. It comes across to others as controlling and that's not me or the reason.
Nights out are fine but only if he's coming home. I don't even contact him, the minute it's overnight mentioned I get panic attacks.
Sorry for no personal replies, once I get to 'know' you I will try and reply to others

Hi gttia. I don't really know much about separation anxiety tbh but it sounds awful. What is it exactly that you fear whilst he is away? Are you scared of being on your own? Is there anybody you could stay with or who could come stay with you while he is away?

Thinking of you guys with the health anxiety and separation anxiety. I don't suffer from either but they sound so debilitating. Hope you are able to find coping mechanisms to help.

I am taking a big step with my anxiety today. Can't give details as it's very outing. Feeling strong (ish) and hopeful.

Don't know what's going on with me. I was not too bad yesterday but I've had the most dreadful night. Belting headache and awful dreams all night and today my heart is pounding and I feel all jittery. Like I've got a bad hangover but I haven't been drinking.
Anyway, I got some information at work yesterday about a staff helpline and possible counseling so I'm going to look into it further. Whether I actually do anything is a different matter.
I have always tried to hide my anxieties from my kids but it looks like dd might have picked up on it and inherited it from me. She was upset last night and some of the things she said were scarily similar to some of the things I say/ feel. That makes me feel dreadful.

Whatever it is undercover I hope it works out well for you.

Pinkcoat124 my dr told me that anxiety, depression ect is usually inherited so you may be right about that. I’ve learnt now to expect the anxiety filled days they come in waves don’t they? You’ve just got to ride it out and float by.

Undercoverbanana good luck with whatever it is😊.