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Anxiety support, Hand hold or chit chat come say hi

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Fairydust26 · 09/12/2017 15:31

going through abit of a crappy time with anxiety/health anxiety at the mo so thought it would be a good idea to create this thread. I always find that when I’m feeling anxious writing it down makes me feel a little bit better so hopefully some of you might too and we can support each other through this crappy time as I know it can make you feel pretty lonely. I’m trying to not drag myself back to bed and write today off so I’ve made a cuppaBrew put the heating on sat by the xmas tree and going to try and have a clam Saturday so come say hiSmileFlowers

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Undercoverbanana · 29/12/2017 16:19

I've been out doing jobs today and was doing really well. The last thing on my list of things to do was to buy a very simple item from the pharmacy section of the supermarket. It wasn't urgently needed, but I wanted to get it out if the way and done. I couldn't find the appropriate section of the pharmacy and started to panic. I could feel a full-on, heart pounding, sweating, flashing lights, roaring noises type attack that could end with me hitting someone, smashing things up and then fainting and being unable to speak for 3 days. I managed to contain it.

Breathe in for 5 and out for 10. Don't take in too much oxygen or the adrenaline will overflow into fight/flight and then a crash. I managed to find the paper bag in my rucksack that I can breathe in to. Breathing into the bag means that you are breathing back a higher proportion of carbon dioxide and therefore limiting the oxygen intake.

I did it. It worked. I probably looked like a right nutter, but I don't care. I controlled it. Once I was calm, I found the shelf I needed and the item I was after.

I went to the till, smiled and chatted to the cashier, paid my money and walked out of there like a boss.

I am victorious.

Fairydust26 · 29/12/2017 20:14

Well done Undercoverbanana you defiantly are! The fact you managed to calm your panic and continue your shopping just shows your well on your way to kicking anxiety’s butt! Be proud of yourself for that😁.

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Bunting9 · 29/12/2017 23:25

Hey all... I can truly sympathise with everything that's been said, I've had anxiety for years and have had two particularly bad patches with it - the last one three years ago was categorised as 'severe'. I have a GAD diagnosis but the issue that makes me most anxious is my health.

Given all that, on the whole I manage pretty well, I hold down a FT managerial level job, have quite a bit of responsibility/things to do volunteering wise and help out with my parents who aren't in the best of health. I take an SSRI and GP has no plans to take me off it (well, joint decision). One thing that is still an ongoing anxiety issue is that I haven't spent the night anywhere other than home for at least 3.5 years. Also, it's been a particularly stressful year for reasons that anyone would find difficult to cope with. I have no DP to share the load and no DC to contend withdistract me, much as I would like.

I've had a mini meltdown tonight as I've been poorly since Christmas Eve with a cold/virus from hell. I've felt awful, been stuck in bed all of the 25th-27th and a lot of yesterday and today. When I write it down I suppose it doesn't seem that long but it's felt like forever and it's just been such a miserable Christmas. I struggle with Christmas anyway as I've had a couple of bad ones anxiety wise over the last 7 or 8 years so now by association I somewhat dread it and therefore try to block any festive thoughts out and pretend it's not happening during December.

Early December I felt so low for a couple of weeks without any apparent reason - kind of like I occasionally feel PMT wise, like non stop crying without a particular reason...? I even checked my period app but I still had about 9 days to go. Funnily enough when it did start the low feeling lifted (I did wonder whether this was a potential peri menopause symptom), but I had only a few days before I came down with this bug.

I'm still full of snot, my head feels like it's going to explode and I can feel a funny sore throat and an odd kind of itch/sensation of swelling - even though I don't look like I am - under my jaws. I then felt like I was going to shake from head to toe although my temperature was normal and has been throughout it all. With that I escalated into an anxiety peak and started thinking something awful was going to happen to me. I'm tired and thoroughly fed up that I'm still not well and can't see the light at the end of the tunnel (I'm very impatient). It was awful, I sobbed and sobbed which made me even more snotty, and felt physically bad all over. Got through to a friend who helped me with chatting through stuff and went and had a shower.

I'm scared of having another major meltdown and of this bug Sad

LEMtheoriginal · 29/12/2017 23:30

Can I join please?

KenForPM · 29/12/2017 23:42

LEMtheoriginal go ahead! I know I’ve seen you around on similar threads, I forget exactly what your issues are so to speak. Anxiety, I believe, and some form of ASD? Forgive me if I’m wrong. Some other form of MH illness...?

LEMtheoriginal · 30/12/2017 00:07

It's mostly anxiety. Don't think any ASD but who knows Confused I do obsess about things.

LoveBeingAMum555 · 30/12/2017 00:08

I am with you all. I am dreading, literally dreading Tuesday. In fact my heart starts pounding and I feel slightly sick of the thought of going back to normal life. I am stuck with two demanding part time jobs, neither of which are very secure but are both necessary for financial reasons. I have suffered with anxiety on and off for years and struggle to switch off and relax. When I am not working I am cleaning, tidying and organising.

I want DH to help out around the house more but I want things doing exactly how I want them to be done. It's ridiculous because I need help but can't let go of the control which makes me miserable and irritates my family.

Hope everyone is OK tonight x

KenForPM · 30/12/2017 00:25

Ah ok LEM. I’ve seen you in so many places I forget. Anxiety sucks.

depthsofdespair · 30/12/2017 00:50

We didn't really plan anything, my daughter's picked up a bug and isn't well so she's stayed in bed all day.

Tonight has been better, I've sorted out my music playlist whilst I just don't feel tired.

LEM, welcome, I've seen you around. It's good to see you hear but sorry you need to be.

LEMtheoriginal · 30/12/2017 01:03

Gosh Ken I don't know what that says about my mn habits!!Grin

My anxiety eats into every aspect of my life and basically ruins it. Now my oldest dd is affected and it's killing me.

It is good to find these support networks yet it safe s me tgat so many if us need them.

LEMtheoriginal · 30/12/2017 01:05

Saddens!! I swear to God this phone has a mind of its own!

KenForPM · 30/12/2017 03:48

Don’t panic, I probably mixed you up with someone else! It can happen on MN Grin

Rachie1986 · 30/12/2017 07:45

Morning everyone.

Hope we are all ok (as can be) today.
Also dreading the return to normality. Struggling to sleep and having horrible dreams most nights.

LEMtheoriginal · 30/12/2017 09:58

No panic Ken - I am here waaayy to much Grin

I hope everyone has a lovely weekend. I am actually craving return to reality. But then my anxiety is creeping into work and I'm worried that it will take my job from me

Nettleskeins · 30/12/2017 20:24

had a very good day dog walking sister's dog (who is staying for a few days) Met up with some friends with their own dogs.

otherwise house is very depressing (silting up rapidly!). But as long as I can get out, things feel a bit better. Want to see people but dread the thought of them coming round and having to "organise" or be on duty in any way...so not daring to ring anyone up.. But the dw is on, and surfaces wiped..so heigh ho..

LEM I get the anxiety about things being in "limbo". I want to enjoy this weekend but the sense of 2nd Jan coming all too soon undoes that enjoyment..

Pinkcoat124 · 30/12/2017 23:26

Hi everyone. Hope you are all doing OK.
Was away the week before Christmas, which was nice, but I spoilt it a bit for myself as I was stressing over thought of the journey home and missing the flight etc.

I've had a few good days over Christmas but it seems that anxiety is always waiting in the wings for something to focus on. I really am ridiculous and I've found something stupid to worry about. Dd is having problems with her phone and cant receive calls or texts and its my fault for making her put in a new sim card that bloody useless virgin media sent.And I know its stupid and really trivial and not worth the effort but my mind does its own thing. I hate being like this!
I wish dh was a bit more supportive emotionally. I just feel so alone with my problems and I want him to tell me it will all be OK. But he wont Sad

Rachie1986 · 31/12/2017 09:21

Morning all.

Woken up and feel low and anxious and like I can't face today or tonight or a new year. Want to just retreat and hide but I know that doesn't help

Nettleskeins · 31/12/2017 12:52

I hate New Year's Eve! (I think there is a thread about it on Mmsnet at the moment, so I feel less guilty saying that)

Dh has helpfully just bought some simple delicious food for our family supper, but I cannot shake the feeling that "normal" people would have invited someone round or be going out to drinks somewhere...(I hate parties when I leave the children, sadly this has come back to bite me on the bum because now they are desperate for there to be a big knees up somewhere somehow, and are old enough to attend a proper "do" being teens)

Still, another big walk with dog plus teen and husband has been very nice. Came back to find some animal had peed in the hall, not sure which one (dd said it was her, but I think that was a joke Hmm I should embrace the squalor really!

Rachie I am going to think of something I really want to do tomorrow, and focus on that. Here is it is finally plant those poor tulip bulbs..the vegetation in garden has now died down to the extent I can find some bare earth. Panicked before Xmas and couldn't fit it in, the empty wastes of NY day will be perfect for bulb planting!

depthsofdespair · 31/12/2017 13:36

It doesn't feel like NYE here at all. I'm feeling strangely OK despite having forgotten to take my AD - at least to the extent of thinking I forgot so I'm not taking it now.

The Xmas cards are down but the tree is up, I'm about to do something arty but not sure what. Other than that, I'm getting a bucket of sand to ignore the fact that I am back at work on Wednesday.

How about the rest of you?

Pinkcoat124 · 31/12/2017 16:21

I will be glad to see the back of 2017. Not that anything particularly bad has happened, just me worrying over stuff. Its been a waste of another year.
I hope that in 2018, I can sort myself out and start enjoying life without all the stupid, silly catastrophising.

lynmilne65 · 31/12/2017 16:39

Hi
Yes, sitting alone with cats !!
(and eating Turkish Delight)

Fairydust26 · 31/12/2017 16:45

Hi lynmilne65 me too plus the two dogs! Munching away on what’s left of the xmas goodies before the diet starts😩.

What’s everyone’s plans for New Year’s Eve? Quiet night in for me already in my pjs😊.

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LEMtheoriginal · 31/12/2017 16:48

Struggling here - not sure I can do this much longer

KenForPM · 31/12/2017 16:59

We never really do anything on NYE. We see my mother’s side of the family on NYD, for a family thing that’s been going on for years. I’m fine with family, so that’s not an issue social/anxiety wise.

Pinkcoat124 · 31/12/2017 19:11

I'm off out for a few hours and tbh I feel dreadful. So I will go out and pretend everything is fine and will try not to drink too much as it will make me worse.
Its funny how the slightest little thing can set me off. But I think I've mentioned before, its like I'm subconsciously looking for a reason to worry, so pick something, anything and away I go.
And to make things worse, I know 2 people in r/l that are battling cancer and I'm stressed about a fucking phone not working!
Excuse my language and rantings Blush