Wrists Bitches unite

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Here is our special place

To be fair DH often hides and jumps out at me, or creeps up behind me, think he may have just not been thinking that now might not be a good time. Grr.

Regarding open relationships, if thats what works for you, fair enough, each to their own.

My MH is a problem regardless of my relationship status but I am mindful that it really is not for everyone and can exacerbate insecurities.

My DP is possibly the best person I have ever known in terms of knowing when to make me laugh/when to just let me be anxious or cry-y or whatever. I'm grateful but trying not to lean on him too much.

At least that suggest playful rather than inappropriate on your DH's part!

I rang gp.nothing available til Tues next week with a notoriously in MH sympathetic doctor.said I'd leave it n try another time)last time see her she made very clear people mental health issues shouldn't have kids m wanted me sterilized(I had just had my 4th DC)..so not seeing her,even if I fall down the worst black hole ever!!
I volunteer at community cafe on Tuesdays(its at end my road in church my kids attend.we are part junk food project using food destined for landfill as at its dates/not "perfect enough" etc)I really feel low after rang gp but forced self in,initially to help book in the stuff waitrose had sent us,but stayed til end shift as they closed early today (at 12).the "leader" of volunteers is lovely,very positive and kind and has endless patience whrnihaving a can't hold info in my head for 2minutes kinda day!!another Tuesday volunteer has depression/anxiety too so its a good place to feel safe and supported and everyone is very friendly and I always feel glad I went afterwards
Very tired now,but adamant I need di a but clearing up before get kids.
Can anyone recommend a good website for steps to help depression.I never had CBT,just drugs,n fancy a ho at some self help before venture try gp again.plus how long is long enough to say the strategies aren't working for me?!
purple lovely to hear depressions under control.I often find one aspect good another flares up

cracking I can't do phone calls I bloody hate them.

must Have you considered an exclusive relationship but dabbling with something like swinging together? so then you still have the excitement etc of the open relationship but you are exploring it together so it's safer and more transparent? I know people who have had an emotionally monogamous relationship but a sexually open one and that was how they did it. Sometimes they just went somewhere together then went off individually, sometimes they stayed together. They set limits and each respected them.

carer I have some series I would love to watch but I just can't because of the content. Jessica Jones is one of mine. A friend gave me a heads up on the content so I could make a choice. Really appreciated that. So far I've not watched it.

stillivinginazoo that sounds like a nice place to volunteer...and always nice to be around someone who "gets" you. In my new job everyone has some sort of MH problem and we are all psychologists - not sure if that is a blessing or a curse!

Things I have found useful: moodgym and happy habits smartphone app.

Grinch that is essentially what we are doing. We have a set of couple friends we play with and everyone is on the same page. Whilst we are a new relationship we've known each for a while and I have an existing support/friend/fun group.

Here is a list of apps I just found: www.getselfhelp.co.uk/links2.htm

must years ago I saw one cos I was suicidal (sent by GP) ...this time it is for an assessment for ADHD -I would just be on ADs otherwise I think.
I asked my GP about how I went about getting an assessment (i thought I would have to go private) so I think you need to ask your GP to refer you - at least they should be able to point you in the right direction...
I did have to explain why I wanted an assessment/diagnosis -make a good case.

I suspect from what you have said they might ask what more you hope to achieve by getting your therapist's diagnosis confirmed.

goon I can't actually remember, I just had severe depression and was referred on at start. Then I moved home for a while where it's very easy to access therapy/psychiatrists. When I came back to England, I just went to my GP saying I have xyz diagnosis, and need some help. Because GPs can't deal with my cocktail of medications, I have to see a psychiatrist to get it sorted. It' just 1 appointment, and I haven't seen them for 1,5 years, so it really can not be classed as a support network in any way whatsoever! Brave with the open relationship, I suggested it for my other half when we first got together (I was quite confident back then), but he wasn't up for it so we ditched the idea.

zoo that sounds like a lovely doctor -.- Hope you get an appointment with a better one soon.

purple and cracking - thanks, that's useful. I don't think I need to see one then. The label doesn't really matter I guess, I just want the right treatment.

Sorry to hear that zoo I had a similar experience with my GP, when I started ADs this time asked about safety in pregnancy as we had been ttc until DHs recent relapse. She was horrified at the whole idea of us having kids. CPNs are very supportive though once things are more stable again. The cafe sounds like a lovely place to volunteer.

Grinchy the series is "the walking dead " its horror, DH loves it and I used to watch it with him no probs pre PTSD, last week was very violent and psychologically intense, triggered me really badly, still having flashbacks of the tv programme let alone the origional trauma!

CPN from DHs team has just text to see if I feel I need to meet up before the joint apointment with DH and his CPN next week. Not sure what to say. My first instinct is to say yes please, but I wonder if I'm being silly and wasting his time. I'm seeing councellor today and then CPNs for family session on Tues, is it too much to ask to meet up end of this week too. Not sure what it will change, unless he has a magic wand.

carer if you feel need to talk without dh present maybe?

I am so bloody cross and upset.dp was meant be taking girls trampolining tonight then having tea and stay over. He text st 2to confirm that the case so I scat round tidy up as he nightmare try tidy round him.he then text me 45 mins layer,actually I tired n low not coming.see you tomorrow. I then stuck as I don't drive it have funds for taxi,explain kids xsnt go and won't be see dad.course that all my fault. Ds us near 11 and start have bit rage. He was very angry at me.dd2 furious mussing tramp.dd3(known as lil zoo) just went quiet and asked if they might have a sweetie as I also needed food n had trail them shops instead be driven in nice warm car.just got in.I still cross. He takes no responsibility from his actions and seems oblivious instability he creates for me to pick up the reins for despite me constantly say so its Hus mums fault.she always worried he'd top self didn't get what wanted and gave him everything ever wanted and thought he shouldn't have to do anyhing he wasn't keen to.she gone now and I having cope near 50yo spolut angry child

zoo sorry you've had a tough evening. Is DP DCs Dad? Does he realise the impact his behavious is having on DCs? Do DCs realise its him thats let them down not you? You are certainly a more than adequate Mum, you love your kids, which is what matters.

I'd pretty much decided to ask CPN for appointment and councellor has encouraged me to too, she said to take all help that is offered to me. I suppose I feel a bit guilty as I know we have a fab service and I have more support than a lot of people, feel bad about taking an appointment when someone else might need it more. But then this is the NHS, they wouldn't offer me the appointment if they thought it wasn't a good use of their time I suppose.

If they didn't think you needed the time it wouldn't have been offered so take it willingly with both hands.you are deserving if it!!
Yeh,he youngest 3 dad.I've always cared fir them as predominantly single parent,his mum fuelling His right to downtime/rest
Eldest dd dad took her from me at 12 helped by social services "helper" - she took dd1 outro park etc n chat.she hates me n plotted with dd1 dad n then one day I got letter saying he wanted go court for her and I asked her fir advice she took charge and took dd1 there n then(I had severe pnd at that point as ds had very traumatic emergency section and he had health probs/cry all time and I was very vulnerable and was only afterwards when she and her stuff was gone I fully realised what happened)her dad abusive,which why split up.I sure know how to pick them!!

CPN from DHs team has just text to see if I feel I need to meet up before the joint apointment with DH and his CPN next week. Not sure what to say. My first instinct is to say yes please, but I wonder if I'm being silly and wasting his time

Do it. They don't offer if they don't think it is likely needed. Sometimes its very helpful to meet without your DH there as you can be more open.

I just read this again at the top of the screen and burst into really inappropriate laughter Here is our special place It sounds slightly sinister. I hope there's no touching going on in the special place...

My relationship dd1 not very good ever since.she never stay over atine,or visit more few hours.I see her less once month now(she's 21 and at uni)yet she comes back yo see bf/dad EV weekend.i made it worse not attend her 31st party. Only people I knew there were her dad,another ex that hates me and that helper from social services(she resigned day after took her n nothing was ever done)it felt like ud be entering a lions den.her dad turn up yell abuse saying I selfish fir ignoring her big day.my kids aren't confident in strange places without me n wouldn't go with her bf so I got blame fir not letting them go either.I've try apologising for not be a goid um as a kid and to explain I didn't want spoil her party but they have all taken offence
She was 18mnth when I end with her dad and I've never told her truth why we split,(he was charge assault,I thought go kill me)or slag him off.he blackens my name ti anyone that will listen that I fruitloop n lousy mum.makes me cry just thinking about it. I went into town with her week before party n bought her a beautiful pair diamond earrings,but that counts fir nothing

grinchy how knows what's allowed on MN these days?!

Thanks guys, I know its the sensible thing to do. I've asked him for an appointment sometime this week. Feeling bloody awful tonight, anxiety and urges to self harm I'm such a mess.

zoo sounds like a really tough situation all round. Sounds like DP not pulling his weight at all, seems to be having his cake and eating it, with you and DCs left cakeless! Not fair at all IMO.

It not fair anxious but am hoping now he has noone to enxouurae his selfishness he will wake up,take even hint responsibility and get his head out if his arse-!!

I pinch one kid coloring books and try, relax bit

I cannot catch up with you lot! I feel awful I started this and I'm lost .

Don't worry latex you can always just start fresh from now. How are you?

Zoo I've no clue if there's even anything you could do at this point. It makes me sad just thinking about it. You did right not slagging him.

In good news my cooker is wired in safely! In bad news we are struggling to get it into the gap under the units due to the placement of the gas pipe for the job and the stupid floor tiles.

Fun times

Hi Grinchy hope you've got that cooker sorted.

It's a beautiful day here, just deciding what to do with it.

Hello :) Hope everyone is ok!
We've been out to toddlergroup today, my tornado boy enjoyed it a lot! Got some exercise and fresh air too, for both of us.

Currently waiting for curry and homemade nan bread to finish cooking/baking, then we can have dinner :)

Also been looking for a present for my friend's genius child, and decided to go full on Peppa Pig, as she loves it. Found a puzzle, and activity book and a wooden "dress up" pig, where you can pick which piece for hair, which for body etc. Hoping it will be a success!

Grinchy I hope you work out a good solution in your kitchen troubles!

How are you doing Latex?