New back pat list of what we managed to do today however small

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Used to have a thread like this and it died out.
This is for people struggling, either because of depression or AD side effects, to be very productive. Let's pat ourselves on the back for what we did manage to do, not what we didn't.

Today I worked at a food bank for two hours. Very busy.
Planned a lesson.
Will teach for two hours this evening.
Cooked healthy tea for family.
Tidied kitchen and put a wash on.

That's it really. Intended to go into town to run errands this afternoon but was too tired. Not a lot but not quite nothing either...

Anyone else?

Mega jealous of how busy and productive everyone has been these last few days!

Today has been a nothing day. Madam just hasn't been herself at all and has just wanted me and booby all day so I've barely had a chance to go to the toilet. Hoping she sleeps ok tonight because the poor thing has started running a temperature too now.

Friday was a good day - it was my birthday and himself had organised for the mother in law to come and watch madam while I went to the hair dressers. It wasn't even half as traumatic as I thought it would be.

Saturday we went to the Trafford Centre and I actually bought myself a new dress.

Yesterday we visited my nannan and let her spoil us with a Sunday roast.

I was actually feeling a bit human, what with being so busy but today has just completely zapped all of my energy and motivation. Maybe it's because I'm a worrier and I actually have a real thing to worry about with missy?

Hope everyone has had a good day!

Hannah - if I have a busy day, usually next day is wiped out. It sounds like you had a busy weekend and needed a down day.

At least it's not just me then giraffe. 2 loads of washing done today and a bit of ironing, really need to start keeping on top of the housework.
I did drag himself to our last baptism class tonight too. Going to feel a bit lost without my Tuesday night church date. On the bright side I've got organising the actual baptism to keep me busy for the time being.

hannah - you could always go to an Alpha course or similar if that interests you. Our local church was so welcoming and supportive when DC were small. In fact the local Baptist playgroup was the highlight of my week when they were really tiny because you were guaranteed smiley, kind faces, and some friendly elderly women who would keep an eye out for one child while your attention was on the other one.

yesterday I
cleaned the bathroom
cleaned downstairs loo
put on a wash
tidied kitchen diner
spent the afternoon with friends I hadn't seen for a year
had drinks with clients in the evening

Think today will probably be a rest day. I just can't drink anymore without it wiping out the next day.

hello all
I'm not doing great.I am feeling totally overwhelmed with everything,very tearful and emotioinal and have become v shouty mummy again this week. This is the usual pattern when I try to come of my citalopram. I was hoping it would be better this time round as I have tapered it off sooooo slowly. I am going to try and stick it out for a bit and see if it improves.
today I have:
Got dc to school
been to work
collected dc
been to shops for a few bits and bday cake for dh for Saturday

my house is filthy and really needs a good clean but I just cant face it. going to bbq some burgers for tea as the sun is out for once.I could quite happily go to bed right now though

Hi everyone,

I finally saw the gp, she wants me to wean off citalopram before I try a new AD, I was supposed to go from 40mg to 20mg for a few weeks/months but I've gone cold turkey...
Just want my life back where I don't need a bloody rest after walking upstairs, I'm 28 for Christmas sake.

I'm also seeing the diet nurse tomorrow, think they'll prescribe orlistat, hopefully get a bit of energy back by not lugging a load of flab around

However in the short term, I feel like crap - done the school run, dinner for everyone and 20 minutes on the exercise bike, that's literally it.
The place is a bombsite but I just can't right now, going to try tomorrow

to you unicorn, honestly sounds like you're doing brilliantly

holy be careful with going cold turkey. I hope it works out for you, but I have tried it before and it wasn't pretty! Be gentle on yourself for a good while, and if you start to struggle consider starting back on a lower dose and weaning more slowly. I can understand the wish to just to be done with it - I've been there myself, but in my experience it is a tricky thing to come off successfully.
20 mins exercise is great though. I have done nothing for a week again ....
and school run and dinner are achievements in themselves - well done.

I have salvaged the evening a bit. Had an impromptu bbq for tea which was nice. DC played swingball and on trampoline and I managed to keep ds 2 away from xbox and his tablet without a major meltdown (form him or me!!)I did a minor bit of weeding in one flower bed and tied in the sweet peas...I always feel better for being out in the garden.
Now just building up to showering ds2 (which will again be a battle...sigh) and then soon to bed I think.

We're all having bad days today. I've been on the brink of tears and told DH I absolutely can't face a party we've been invited to on Saturday full of wealthy, glamorous driven people. Feel totally spaced out.
Today I:
Worked for one hour
exercised for five mins
bought fish & chips for tea, but did at least tidy the kitchen afterwards.
wrote a private blog about trying to overcome feeling so low all the time
Went to a meeting at DS's school for an hour.

No laundry, house, garden, proper exercise. This always happens when I try and overcome things through effort. I get an immediate collapse. So frustrating.

Agree with Unicorn. Better to taper than go cold turkey, Holy.
Unicorn - so sorry you're having a tough time. Wish I had some advice, but I don't. Just sympathy. You too, Holy.

Crossed posts. Well done, Unicorn. Big back pat for salvaging the day and ending on a good note. Good luck with bath time.

giraffe you did some things, bloody big pat on the back for that
If you need a rest, take one, you're not superwoman and you got the important stuff done, school meeting and everyone fed.
There'll always be tomorrow or some time in the future! to do the housework, priority is you
Sorry you've fely crappy today though. Do you have to go to this party?

I know, I know, it's stupid and irresponsible, I'm just...tired of being tired, slept for 3 hours with ds2 this morning and still have felt like a zombie all day.
I just want something to change so I can get 'me' back and I'm impatient and frustrated with my body

unicorn sounds like you pulled a lovely day out of the bag in the end, well done you! And good luck for the showering!

evening all
giraffe hope you've felt better today. I think you did achieve lots yesterday. meetings at school always zap me!
holy I can understand why you just want to be off it. I hope it goes OK for you. Be gentle on yourself.How was today?

I managed to shower ds2 and persuade him to brush his teeth last night without loosing my patience - which was an achievement! (what do 8 yr old boys have against any form of personal hygiene!)

today I felt a bit more positive when I woke up.
I have:
Cleaned shower, toilet and sink in en suite
2 loads of towel and bedding washing
tidied kitchen and cleaned surfaces
got ds2 and dd4 to school without shouting!
work
had a nice long bubble bath to try to put myself in a calmer mood for the evening!
now eating pizza(ok, not healthy but Friday night treat!) but avoiding wine
my main aim now is to make it to bedtime without shouting at anyone!
although do still need to wrap dh's bday presents and find his bday card.

So glad you feel a bit more cheerful today, Unicorn. Back pat for the bubble bath and all the other things you achieved today.

I had another bad day today. Very emotional and anxious. Slept all afternoon too. But at least I:
-had a shower
-went for a 15 minute walk
-did some squats (20), side lunges and pull ups (15)
-went into town to buy a few small birthday presents for DS1 to tuck in his bag as he's away for his birthday on a school trip and some dvds for DS2.
-bought a DVD I've wanted to watch for years and never seen.
-Helped DS organise his packing
-did a wash load
-wrote a short private blog entry (keeping a record of all the things I'm attempting to knock the exhaustion and sadness on the head. So far appears to be having the opposite effect.)
Just had spag bol (DC's favourite) and New York Cheesecake. As unicorn says... it's Friday! (and one DC has just come home from school trip and the other's just about to go so it's a hello goodbye treat dinner.)

Still got to iron a few things for DS to pack and wrap the presents/write the card.
Happy Birthday to Mr Unicorn too.

giraffe sorry to hear yesterday was bad for you again. Despite that you seem to have done a lot. Well done for keeping going. Hope ds enjoys his trip.

Not sure how today is going to pan out. I am actually nervous as I always fond weekends hard, but especially at the moment I am so worried Ill have turned into grumpy shouty mummy by the end of the day.
Popping to shop now to buy croissants fo dh bday brekkie in bed (I bought some on Thursday but my older dc scoffed them yesterday while I was at at work )
Going to take dd 3 and 4 and ds2 swimming either today or tomorrow
Going out for dinner with dh tonight for his bday - literally cant remember the last time I went out for a meal
really, really need to tidy and clean as well. Im going to break it down into doing little bits as if I think about the whole house I just get overwhelmed and panicky.

Hope everyone has a good start to the weekend

hi unicorn
Don't go overboard with the cleaning or you'll feel shattered and grumpy before you have your dinner out.

Just do 15 mins each on three or four things that bother you and then have a massive bubble bath before going out.

Quite relaxed start to weekend here. Lie in till 8am - bliss.
Made cooked breakfast for DC and sent DS1 off on his school trip.
Wrote a blog.
Shopped for food to cook for party DH is going to tonight. I'm staying home to keep an eye on DS2 who's just come back from his school trip.
Going to cook in a moment and then do some gardening.
Lazy evening with DS planned.

Have a lovely evening with your DH.

thanks giraffe. Sounds a nice day you've got planned.Enjoy your evening with dh
this morning I managed:
made dh breakfast in bed
swept and mopped dining room, hall and bathrooms
tidied and cleaned dining room
one wash load
fixed ds2 wardrobe -sort of!

then I slept for nearly 3 hours I am still permanently exhausted, hoping this improves soon

this afternoon I took dc swimming. The love swimming and I don't take them very often, so trying to go a bit more often. I even managed to do a few lengths so got a bit of exercise.

just back now and need to sort tea for dc then get ready to go out...

how is everyone elses day going?

You're a bit of a superwoman. You did all that and slept for three hours? Very impressed.

unicorn if I take either DS swimming, that's it for the day, I'm amazed you got through all that on top!

Good-ish day today after my horrible appointment with the diet nurse yesterday, got myself all worked up over not much and then wrote a thread moaning which attracted comments insisting of course I can do 30 minutes of exercise every day and if I dont, it's just excuses...

So, played with DSs and took the dog on her first ever big-ish walk although it was raining so we wore wellies and jumped in puddles, nice not to stress about things like that for once

Going to take some sleeping pills and go to bed early tonight though, didn't sleep til after 2am after getting all frazzled yesterday and then the kids were up just after 6am, why do they always get up so early at weekends when I have to prose them out of bed on school days?!

holy sorry to hear your app with diet nurse didn't go well. and as for folks telling you of course you can do stuff....some (lots) of people just don't get it. I KNOW exercise will help me, I know it will make me feel better in lots of ways, but at the moment most days I just CANT make myself do it. Don't be hard on yourself, it is early days yet. You may start to feel you can mange little bits now and then when you have been off the citalopram for a while.
Well done for a long walk with the dog. and in the rain. that is brilliant.
I hope you slept better last night. and yes , my ds2 takes ages to get up on a school day, but at weekends he is often u and raring to go at 6am!!

I had a nice meal out last night. dd2 had done a great job of baby sitting and was teaching ds2 German when we got back!
I did drink wine though, and more than I should have so I'm hoping that doesn't effect my mood too badly today...we will see.

Glad you had a good evening unicorn
Holy I find it helps never to take advice form people who haven't been in your shoes. Especially when it comes to MH issues.
Had a good day today. DS's birthday. Sunny afternoon, went for a long walk which he asked to do! Cooked his favourite tea and birthday cake. Even played on PS4 with him ( a first for me.)
Knackered now. But it was a peaceful day.

Been hiding in my pit. Visited an old friend a few days ago, who said she has cancer that won't respond to treatment.
Today started trying to pack for a holiday. Succeeded in spreading a mess everywhere.
However, I have written a very long packing list.

Big back pat for getting out of your pit and visiting your friend. And for organising yourself to make a packing list.

Deep I'm sorry to hear about your friend, cancer is an utter fucker
Well done on even getting a list together though, first step to organisation that I always miss and then wonder why everything is chaos!
Where are you going?

Good-ish day today, I'm eating according to the diet nurses rules so I'll either prove her wrong with her advice or I'll look like Megan Fox come my appointment in two weeks!
Ds1 had a party in the park so had a little walk around with ds2 and the pup whilst he was busy
Cleaned the kitchen and put a wash on, living room is a tip and there is wet washing everywhere as it keeps raining outside so I can't dry anything but they're problems for tomorrow
Actually ds2 goes for a taster afternoon at the preschool tomorrow meaning it'll be the first time I'll be child free (and not at work) in almost 6 years...I'm doing no housework, im just going to sit, in silence, with a hot brew!

Happy birthday to giraffes DS! And how was your hangover unicorn?!

Thank you