Driving with the Pumblettes

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A shiny new thread . I thought if I didn't do it this evening, words would be had by magi....

Right, let bedtime chaos commence chez pumble town!

[MyGastIsFlabbered]

Blimey it has been a while, I totally missed P3, how old is he/she?

Things are very different, don't want to hijack the thread, but after I was so ill last year I left my husband and am currently a single parent to DS1&2. Haven't looked back. It's been tough but so much better than things were.

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Really sorry to hear you were really ill-I totally missed that. And sorry to hear things have been so tough-sounds like it's been a really tough year but so glad things are looking more positive. How old are the DSs now?

P3 is 12 weeks and a boy which was a shock as we assumed it would be another girl ( magi didn't, she was sure it was a boy!). Things are so much better this time but my God three pumblettes is so much more than 2!

Do come back and join us on here-it's lovely to see you!

[MyGastIsFlabbered]

I had a total breakdown last Feb, but it made me see how much of my illness was caused by ex's abusive behaviour, which gave me the push to leave him. The boys are 5 and 3 and mostly doing really well, except for when ex messes with their heads. He's totally unscrupulous. It's a very long, very sad story, but we'll get there.

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You must and should be so proud of yourself for getting yourself and he DSs out of that situation. I'm so pleased to hear that you are all doing better but it must have been a really tough time. I am hoping this year is a much better one for you.

Really should go to bed as falling asleep but thinking if I do one of the pumblettes will wake.... It's always the way!

On a mundane and uninteresting point, I have to find some clothes for a Christening in a fortnight (due to p3 and my fondness for chocolate since his arrival) and hate shopping and it's a nightmare with the pumblettes-any ideas on a good place to look? Have black trousers...

[magimedi]

Ghast - you really do sound as if you are in control of things now.

You will get there - you sound so strong .

No baby books or clothes are on the shelves in my area!!!

To be truthful, I have bought a couple of pretty little dresses from Sainsburys & the book that made me roar with laughter is 'I will not ever eat a tomato' - which I know is a bit old for her, but her mother (my DDIL) hates toms!!

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I went back to choir. Mr P put all the pumblettes to bed successfully on hja own.

Choir was brilliant, lovely to have to think, lovely to laugh and good to actually be me abd not 'mummy of pumblettes'

I felt guilty for enjoying it as p3 so little and I wouldn't have done it with the others but on the other hand he will benefit from me being more relaxed this time!

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But...its as if mr p thinks he deserves a bloody prize for doing it... Because he had to feed p3 and do bedtime...Is it hard feeding p3 with the milk I expressed for him?! How does he think I manage? And I'm pretty sure I then do jobs post bedtime rather than watching things....
Can you tell I'm grumpy?!!

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Last week was v tough with p1 in particular and I fear that his coming week may be similar (possibly school related) but I have had a lovely weekend with them all. Yea it's had its moment and p1 quite emotional but no big tantrums etc. And yesterday I took them to the ballet at the opera house for the first time. They were so well behaved and we had a lovely time. I was so proud of them for being so good. Remind me of the weekend when I am tearing my hair out mid week!!

[magimedi]

Great to hear you are back to singing.

Sorry P1 is having problems but the ballet sounds WONDERFUL!!

Got back last night - PFGD is just so lovely, I nearly put her in my suitcase!

More later - must go & do stuff.

[magimedi]

Stuff done!

Had a lovely time - didn't do much as the snow stopped us I've never seen so much snow (see pic). The snow on top of the letter boxes is just 6 hours worth! There was more before I left. So we just stayed in & played & snuggled with PFGD. Bliss.

I meant to tell you about songs that you sing to babies. When we first went to see PFGD last July my DS had her in his arms & was singing a made up song to her with her name in it so if her name was Sue it would be sort of:

Little Sue,
Daddy's boo,
I love you

etc etc.

The strange thing was that the tune he was singing was exactly the same (made up) tune, well more of a simple hum, that I used to sing to him when he was a baby. I asked him what the tune was & where he had heard it & he just said it came from nowhere!!

Hope your week is going well.

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Glad you had a super time magi. Snuggles indoors with PFGD sound perfect. Isn't that amazing about the Song your son was singing.

Just been to visit a friend and p1s behaviour was appalling at the end. I don't know what to do with her. I know she's tired and I know something is wrong but I don't know what and it's also no excuse. I was so so embarrassed.

[magimedi]

Don't be embarrassed - if your friend has DC I bet they've played up as well.

Have you had a chat with P1's teacher or sent her an email (if you can) to see if there is anything wrong at school?

[MyGastIsFlabbered]

DS1 has been playing up at school badly at the moment. It's because his shitbag father is messing with his head, asking him if he wants to live with him, asking him if I'm bringing men home etc. He's only 5 for fucks sake. I've been totally honest with the school and explained what's happening and they've been great. They understand and will nurture him through this difficult time.

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So pleased the school are supportive mygast- it must be so difficult with things with your ex being so hard.

I've tried to gently talk to the teachers but they say she's fine. There are a couple of girls I'm worried about based on what p1 is saying so jerking an eye. We had a better day yesterday which is good.

Can you come and give mr p a kick up the behind though?!

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Radio silence from me as been poorly and desperately trying to keep everything together at the same time. Hoping I'm now coming out of the woods....?
Hoes you?

[MyGastIsFlabbered]

Sorry you've been struggling. To be honest so am I, I feel like I'm on a self-destruct course at the moment, thankfully I'm seeing my counsellor today who will hopefully help me make sense of it all.

[magimedi]

Big hugs for both of you.

I only had one DC (many years ago - he's now mid 30's) & I remember feeling like I was walking through treacle sometimes.

It does get better, it really does.

"All fed & none dead" is a good joke-y thing to say to yourself at the end of the day!

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Hope counselling session goes well today.

I can finally swallow again without agony so hoping on the mend! I did get rather tired managing the pumblettes with it ( and a little annoyed when mr p kept falling asleep!) but I'm most proud that I kept going and the fog didn't descend mentally-was all physical of that makes sense.

In other news p3 started chatting away-it's so lovely to hear! And he is so smiley

[magimedi]

Totally understand where you are coming from with the physical/mental side.

It's brilliant news - you have come such a long way, Pumble.

Give P3 a special hug from his virtual auntie!

Hope the conselling works well for you, MyGast.

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Mr P has man flu.... Don't think I got to be 'ill'... How come he can?!
The pumblettes tell me mummys can't get ill....

[magimedi]

Mummys are never ill.

Daddys - are another kettle of ..........something that begins with F (and it ain't fish).

Tell Mr P from me to man up & stop snivelling!

OR..... I'll come & visit....................

That should shake him back to normality!!!

I am most SCAREY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I did tell him magi....but I'm torn now as he does have a temperature and the shivers...but then when o had them I soldiered on. I have a feeling I'm to soft. I think I needs you here magi!

I'm enjoying the fact it's no longer raining every day. P2&3 and I had a lovely woodland walk earlier this week-so good to get outside.

P3 snuffling. I will be most unimpressed if mr p has given him the lurgy....

[magimedi]

Of course you could not have given P3 the lurgy.....

Totally agree with getting out - heaven, isn't it.

Damn well raining here this am but better forecast for pm.

[magimedi]

Posted too soon -

Ghast - How are you today. Hope the counselling helped with stuff.

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Of course I couldn't have passed on the lurgy....