SPRINGTIME in the VILLAGE (Support for all Mental Health Issues)

[NanaNina]

Thought I'd start a new thread what with it being the Spring Equinox and all that..........and there's another reason. I'm hoping to re-connect with people who used to be frequent village visitors, but like me, seem to have fallen by the wayside. Of course everyone is welcome in the Village, so I hope more recent visitors understand my post and will not feel de-valued in any way. The stigma of mental illness is alive and well I reckon so we all need all the support we can get.

SO - CALLING

Vicar (she started the Village thread some years ago and occasionally pops in) Edwinia'sRevenge SnowyMouse (where ARE you?) SilveryPussyCat CIQ (I know you were having a tough time) Lem (once a very regular visitor) Hoochymama Pyrrghena collardove Victrix Pulled Creamhearts (previously FDG) MentalPsychiatrist KeemaNaanAndCurryOn (miss you and your wit)
FaithLoveandGrace MySpideySenseTickles

Would love to hear how you're all doing. I'm much the same, up and down, mostly down this month.

I've probably forgotten lots of people, but that's all I can bring to mind just now.

I was supposed to be going to the Frozen Singalong concert thing near us eith dh and mil and the dc but sfil is taking my ticket as I cant face that amount of people. suppose it means I get a couple of hours peace and quiet though.

I may be going out for a meal tomorrow evening, waiting to hear from a few people. I always kind of hope it won't happen.

I wish I could go anywhere like I used to. I miss girly nights out down the pub and meals out with dh.

On a different note has anyone tried hypnotherapy for anxiety? I have thought about it but its fairly expensive.

I wish I could just go and enjoy myself without worrying the whole day thinking about it, and then relax and enjoy my meal rather than sat there fidgeting and not wanting to eat. However, I want to try and make myself go as it's one of the very rare times I actually meet up with people.

I haven't tried hypnotherapy. I do know people who have found it helpful for specific phobias, but not sure of just general anxiety.

I know exactly what you mean. I'm going to a friends house for a meal tomorrow and I've been worrying all week. They won't have a clue when I'm there - in fact I probably come across as jolly- but I'll probably need 2 days in bed in the dark to recover. I wish I could have a social life but I'm on too much medication to drink and explaining why not to people is hard and frankly I just find it hard to leave the house. Plus I worry about a trigger happening etc etc etc.

I thought you could be dismissed for being ill if they go through the disciplinary route and say you cannot do the job. Happened to a friend of mine but I guess it depends on their policies

Anti-histamines for hay fever can make you drowsy so you can always use that as an excuse for why you aren't drinking?

Its a big supermarket.

good grief, this mirtazipine is annoying ive been crying all morning - tears wont stop rolling down my face - i dont feel sad or anything.

which is normal for me because one of the reasons im on it is because i have no emotions .i dont feel anything.(accept pain)

im guessing it must be a side effect . im on day 3-
i was supposed to phone gp if anything weird happened on this low dose but its the weekend-
has anyone else had this weird nonstop tears streaming for no reason?

Hating the rain

It was raining hard here earlier but now we have brilliant sunshine. Not out in it though.

Sadly it's a myth that you can't be dismissed for being ill. How hard it is for them to do it depends on the size of the company, how long you've worked there and what their attendance management policy is.

If it's a big company and your condition is covered by the DDA it's a lot tricker.

The best thing to do is to talk to your employer. I have some first hand experience mythical so let me know if you have any Q's.

Thanks UB.

That's very sad UB. I was asked to give up my freelance project by the organisers when I got ill last Summer, but I thought other employment was a bit different.

I miss going out too mythical, just get so tired and usually in bed by 9pm thesedays (!). Never tried hynotherapy. This is my first time being so ill and I a hating it. I'd try anything and everything if I could afford it though, I think. It's worth a go.

(Frances) I have days of crying all day sometimes, I find it's part of my depression. Pherhaps give the GP a call on Monday if it's still bothering you then? Hope you start to feel a bit brighter soon.

I've updated my CV and applied for a job today, as well as making a start on the ironing. DD is back from my friends in a little bit, so everything will be centred on her and getting ready for back to school on Tuesday. Will probbably take her for a long walk tommorow. Weekends are always really triggering for me. Very lonely times as a single parent and the days seem to drag on.

Feeling very out of sorts and tired today.

Sorry I disappeared, the thread went from my 'I'm on' list!

My employer when I got ill was really difficult about things, I was really fortunate that my manager was understanding and tried to help me find a way to remain in work (sadly it just wasn't possible).

I've been exhausted recently and crying a lot, my functioning unless I really put in a huge amount of effort is zero. I saw my gp friday for twenty minutes who told me she feels I'm confused and she needs to discuss me with CMHT -I hate anyone talking about me without me present and she knows that.

I haven't RTFT since I last posted, I hope everyone is doing okay. Sorry for not keeping better track of you all.

Just managed a three quarters of an hour walk. Yaay. Didnt go into any shops but this is a major improvement for me. I feel so positive right now. I actually enjoyed the end part. I smiled and everything. Gives me so much hope. I did use the diazepam but I think a lot of it was willpower too.

Well done Mythical that's ace.

Sorry you are feeling so low Becca

I'm having a rubbish day, can't stop crying. Have just left DD playing with her kindle. Have taken her to the park this morning, but that was hard. I can't stop crying and I'm just so so tired. I don't even know how I'm going to get through until bedtime.

Hi all, sorry I've not been around. I've got my first appointment with psych referral today. Feeling nervous & anxious

Good luck Northumberland, let us know how it goes x

Well done Mythical you should feel proud :)

I'm sitting in Costa, just out from my first session. The nurse was lovely.
I have homework!!
Focusing on changing my thought process, challenging my negative voices, dealing mainly with my anxiety. I agree this is my biggest issue. I am going back in 2 weeks.
I feel positive, that it is possible.

I know my general mood has lifted since taking the Citalopram & i'm in a better headspace (feel slightly more rational) to deal with the anxiety

Sending good thoughts & strength to you all x

Thanks all.

Well done North, that's excellent. Im glad it went well for you. Have my proper session on the 27th.

Well done North

Thanksit's amazing how empowering just taking that first scary step is.

Mythical, my next session is on 27th & i have my homework to take with me. Will have a good read of it tomorrow x

Not such a good day. Been to the drs and though It seems to be helping a bit she's upped my citalopram by another 10mg and signed me off from work for another 4 weeks. Waiting for the personnel manager to phone me back, she said she'd phone back in 5 mins as was in the managers meeting, nearly 2 hrs ago. dont know whether to wait or phone back.