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Winter in the village - support for all kinds of MH issues - depression, anxiety, OCD, psychosis, bipolar...

916 replies

creamhearts · 18/12/2014 21:17

I know the thread is a bit dead but I thought I would start a new one and see if we can keep it going xx

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Collardove · 25/12/2014 00:29

Hi everyone and a happy Christmas to all - old and new village folk alike :)

I find it difficult with my right arm in plaster to type, takes forever with the left. Spend half the time correcting mistakes and then my hand is knackered! So not online too much at the mo.

Lem - lovely to see you back on the thread :)

I hope we all have a lovely day today, and that anxiety takes a back seat!

(((Hugs to all))) x

minklundy · 25/12/2014 01:37

collar do you have the mobile app? You can use text to speech. Saves typing.

carryon thanks. Bit up n down. Probably better than last few days. Dcs decided to pull it out of the bag and be angelic most of the day. Makes it easier. Only me n them to deal with tmrw. so no biggy.

Victrix · 25/12/2014 05:46

Hope you all have a good Christmas Smile

The op went really well thanks collar, physically I'm feeling a lot better Smile

MySpideySenseTickles · 25/12/2014 06:18

Wishing a Calm and peaceful christmas to everyone in the villiage!

Ds has been up since 5;30 but doesn't want to go downstairs yet, which is fine by me, we're having cuddles in bed then he's having a nice bath before we go down, mil isn't coming till 7:30 and I have to keep a 3 year old distracted from his presents before she arrives...
Anything ive not got now is tough.

Pulledapart · 25/12/2014 15:08

Popping in to wish everyone a very happy Christmas Xmas Smile

DD made me cry by saying mummy Santa doesn't need to bring me gifts I have lots of toys already Xmas Sad who would believe she is only four! We only made it to shops late last night after DH finished work and thanks to Tesco we have turkey. It might just be a normal Christmas after all. I'm determined to make it through the day for DD's sake. She's spent the whole day singing and dancing.

Really hope everyone has a fantastic day and may our head monsters stay the fuck away xxx

MySpideySenseTickles · 25/12/2014 19:27

I got quite stresses when cooking lunch, people trying to help but just getting in my way, I had to go be by myself once, I needed a little cry, ive spent weeks planning the perfect outfit for Christmas day, new dress new tights and everything, then my period started a week early and really heavy had to get fully changed. Just after present opening, ive tried to appear upbeat all day but it's exhausting and ive slipped up and been a bit snappy with ds and said a few nasty things to H even though he bought me lots of lovely presents and everything I could've wished for. (I accused him of buying them out of guilt for what he'd done)
Ds refused a nap all day so has been teary and grumpy tonight then I bloody cried because he didn't want to wear his new pyjamas.
It's been a long day, everyone said it was great and the food was lovely I'm just exhausted now, it's been constant nervous pressure all day and forced to be social.
they've all gone home now and ds is in bed so I'm going to have a beer and do some knitting to chill out.

Hope everyone's day has gone well. Xx

FaithLoveandGrace · 25/12/2014 20:58

pulledapart that's really sweet of your DD! Hope you had a good day in the end.

spidey it sounds like one heck of a day! Hope you're enjoying the beer now.

This morning was great, pretty chilled. But then mum went overboard with presents this afternoon and I just felt awkward. I know she means well but tbh I'm just happy to spend time with family. DSS's mum is causing trouble again and we've no idea when we'll see DSS tomorrow :( DP's quite upset and I probably haven't helped by ranting about it too. I'm sure we'll have a good time when we do finally get to see him though.

So tired now as barely slept last night. DP's cheering himself up watching random youtube videos and we're finishing off the bottle of wine we bought - perhaps not best idea on these ADs but oh well :)

lemisscared · 25/12/2014 22:08

spidey - well done!! sounds like a mad busy day but you did it!!! enjoy the beer, you earned it :)

pulled apart - your dd sounds adorable. so glad you got your turkey. my dm always buys our turkey enough to feed the street!!!! but i would deffo be buying mine in the tesco last minute scrum.

i am shattered but it has been a good day - my head monster is lurking but have told him to do one!!!

ColouringInQueen · 25/12/2014 23:38

Happy Christmas everyone, thinking of you. Am reading but just soooo busy. Christmas is hard. FIL hanging in there but still seriously ill.

Victrix · 26/12/2014 13:16

Stayed at dp family last night he isn't picking up that I need to get out of here now before I freak out.

They are lovely but I need to get back to my own space I'm hiding in the spare room

SnowyMouse · 26/12/2014 14:13

Merry Christmas to you all.

ColouringInQueen · 27/12/2014 00:36

Merry Christmas snowy
Hope you managed to get some space victrix.
We're now back home which is good :) I'm off to bed now after having got sucked into attempting to find a bargain online Confused
take care all.

creamhearts · 27/12/2014 18:54

I hope everyone has had a good Christmas. I am currently job hunting (ugh) and sales shopping Grin

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SnowyMouse · 27/12/2014 20:05

Mine was too short at 1.5 days. Did you have a good Christmas and sale shop?

SnowyMouse · 27/12/2014 20:33

I'm sat here wondering what the point is.

lemisscared · 27/12/2014 20:43

(((snowy)))

my anxiety is creeping back again due to a health issue so when i go to the docs she will think its due to that - it is going to have to wait until next week now. i hate it :(

Christmas was good i just hope i can get through to the new year.

love to all x

creamofhearts - i should be job hunting too. what job are you looking for?

SnowyMouse · 27/12/2014 20:45

Thanks ((( lem )))

FaithLoveandGrace · 27/12/2014 21:16

(((lem))) and (((snowy)))

I think I've got the post Christmas crash. It all seems over too quickly, we're back in our cold flat and I just feel like shit :( yesterday was fab though and DSS loved it when he finally arrived.

ColouringInQueen · 27/12/2014 22:00

(((Snowy))) (((lem))) (((faith)))

TheSilveryPussycat · 27/12/2014 22:33

FLG I think you're right, and feeling flat is normal for many once The Day has been and gone. Suddenly there are these days - the ones following Christmas - that somehow weren't in the scheme of things, and yet here they are.

ColouringInQueen · 27/12/2014 23:44

Wise words silvery

lemisscared · 28/12/2014 00:12

silvery has about summed it up its likea weird sort of limbo

NanaNina · 28/12/2014 16:27

I'm usually glad when Christmas is over but then we have horrible Jan and Feb to cope with - the days are so short but DP (who is a mine of useless information!) tells me that until mid summer's day it gets lighter by 4 mins every morning and 4 minutes every evening.

Snowy - you've been doing so well. What's wrong - voices? Depression? Both......I know the depression makes it harder to drown out the voices. Did you have a good time with your family. I seem to recall that you went downhill once before after having a nice time......sorry if I've got that wrong. Listening to music through your headphones sometimes helps with the voices........can you try that. Anything on TV to distract you - knitting - though I know that takes some effort when you're rock bottom. There is a point Snowy - you are an intelligent, empathetic, courageous woman who always reaches out to others, and say so little about your own difficulties. When are you seeing your CPN or will you ring Crisis though I know you don't always want to do that?

Do you want to say what's worrying you Lem - I know your anxiety sometimes seems to lock itself onto a health issue.

Hello to everyone else. Not at my best today - have been ill for 3 weeks with chest infection (including 2 days in hospital) and I think it's back, as am coughing and wheezing. Also woke feeling mega depressed - such a winning combination! Just starting to feel vaguely human.

I know so many of us are struggling for one reason or another, and hope we can continue to support each other through 2015.

minklundy · 28/12/2014 17:39

Very true silvery. Seems wrong to waste them. Especially if we have been granted forced to take holidays. But what to do with them?

Helps if, like here, the weather is bright and crisp. What a difference it makes compared to days that are dreich. So, fingers crossed for fair weather tomorrow and up and out to stand facing into the sun.

It isn't really me that is struggling just now but my 'friend'. Was my bf but now I don't know. Nor does he as he cannit answer questions just now. While he fights himself I am in limbo with my self esteem cracking, struggling to cope with uncertainty, wishing I could gather him up and make him better. But I cannot fix others. All I can do is keep getting up and facing into the sun when the opportunity presents itself and wait for the summer.

VictoryIn2015 · 28/12/2014 18:46

Hi folks

I'd like to join in if I may. Had a period of depression this time last year, was on meds for 4 months then came off them but have been struggling ever since. I upped and left my job and bought a house in the country, managed to get another job and so do OH and place for DD at school. On paper everything is hunky dory but I am really struggling and constantly wondering what is it all for? Miss my old life but that was the trigger for my depression. Here I am addressing issues with my wonderful counsellor, but funds have dried up fr that and ....oh where to start?