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Winter in the village - support for all kinds of MH issues - depression, anxiety, OCD, psychosis, bipolar...

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creamhearts · 18/12/2014 21:17

I know the thread is a bit dead but I thought I would start a new one and see if we can keep it going xx

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Pulledapart · 17/02/2015 01:24

Thanku loveis I'm doing ok.

I can't seem to shut down although I'm absolutely shattered Sad

lemisscared · 17/02/2015 10:31

Am really struggling, feel like i should be doing stuff with DD but what?

ColouringInQueen · 17/02/2015 11:28

(((Hugs))) for all. Struggling here too with half term, dh at home and our plans to give me some space breaking down.

lemisscared · 17/02/2015 13:40

have forced myself to do arty stuff with dd, its abit fraught and im trying hard to keep calm .

Pulledapart · 17/02/2015 13:52

Hi all,

Struggling with half term here too. lem arty stuff sounds like a plan I think I'm gonna do the same as DD is bouncing off the walls. ciq can you just go to your room and have space for maybe an hour, tell DH he hasn't got a choice!

((( Hugs ))) to all struggling x

Loveisashadow · 17/02/2015 14:07

(Hugs) to all. Half term seems such a bad time for so many. I've been keeping very busy, but feel behind with housework and things like that. It seems a constant battle with my physical health to keep on top of things, not burn out and to keep dd busy at the same time. We've been to the park,shopping and then made chocolate pancakes (and broken the smoke alarm!Blush) today so far. I can feel my depression really creeping in now though. I'm on a regime of upping my anti depressants to double the dose over a few weeks. Already feeling the difference, but the depression and anxiety is very stubborn. I don't know how others feel, but I long for the 'old me' before I got ill back. Glad I managed to get out though, a few months ago just one of those things would have been insurmountable!

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creamhearts · 17/02/2015 21:22

Going back to hospital :( Utter fail. Cut badly today x

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lemisscared · 17/02/2015 21:47

not a fail - a set back . we are here for you. xx

Pulledapart · 17/02/2015 21:49

((( cream ))) yes please don't see it as a fail. See it as time out to get properly better. Were all here x

Loveisashadow · 17/02/2015 23:03

(Cream) it's not a fail. It's not your fault at all. It's the illness. You can, and will, get better. X

ColouringInQueen · 17/02/2015 23:16

Anyone around? Feel like I'm losing the plot tonight

Loveisashadow · 17/02/2015 23:24

I am for a bit ciq

ColouringInQueen · 17/02/2015 23:42

Thanks love is so v agitated don't know what to do with myself

Loveisashadow · 17/02/2015 23:45

(Hugs) I always try a hot bath....But then realise I sound like the crisis team! Has anything in particular made you agitated? If you can't solve it right now, you might be better off going with the hit bath and bed for now, sleep on it, option x

TheSilveryPussycat · 17/02/2015 23:47

Am here too. Feeling wiped out for absolutely no reason (possibly smoking too much) Need to declutter/sort paperwork for move in April, but can't get going on it.

But am basically OK. ciq just agitated or is it something specific?

cream hopefully you and your HCPs have caught things a bit earlier than previously, which might help?

Loveisashadow · 17/02/2015 23:49

Or mumsnet classics, a book, rubbish tv, the ironing, internet browsing (though nothing too bad , just things I'm curious about)...I've tried all of those things in the past.

ColouringInQueen · 17/02/2015 23:53

Thank you lovely people. This situation at home is pushing me over the edge. I've asked for space. It's not happened. I have to spend tomorrow with him too and u just want to tell him to fuck off and leave me alone - not just him to pretty much everyone. I don't know what to do and can't see any way out of this

vicarinatutu · 18/02/2015 00:00

popping in for a wave....and hug....for tose who havent a clue who i am i began these threads many moons ago and im so glad they are still running for support.

still on the Ads - left my dh of 27 years. living alone for the first time ever as i met him at 15.
weird.

new love went tits up very quickly - so shouldnt have embarked on a new relationship so fast.

moved to a village where i know not a soul. very isolated and alone - moved from a busy busy household to - nothingness.

kids are grown up so dont bother much. dh and i still friends but its hard going.

TheSilveryPussycat · 18/02/2015 00:01

I did wonder if it was something like that ciq. Can you make your own space and time somehow?

TheSilveryPussycat · 18/02/2015 00:04

x-post vicar, I saw you on your other thread. I wonder if village life will pick up in the spring. Hope DS is managing alright now, though I hardly dare ask...

ColouringInQueen · 18/02/2015 00:06

I've really been trying to articulate my needs more. This morning he said he'd be out of my hair, but when I came down he was established at the kitchen table with his music on with clearly no plans to be anywhere else. I did manage to ask him for some space. Took kids out did the day yest with him, spent whole day feeling massively irritated with him. He's now not going to be staying at his mum's a couple of days a week. My head is so fucked I just can't think straight anymore

TheSilveryPussycat · 18/02/2015 00:25

My ex "worked from home" and even before that he spent all his time at home playing Civilisation on the computer. I never had any time in the house on my own - the nearest I could get was to stay up extremely late...not a strategy I would necessarily recommend.

Best thing for us both atm is probably some sleep. I'll pop back in the morning.

ColouringInQueen · 18/02/2015 12:46

Thanks silvery. We are now at dentist. Feeling completely spaced today. I feel like everyone's implying I should leave dh and the thought makes me devastatingly sad and completely freaked out. Trouble is I just can't see how things can improve between us. His therapist has now gone off sick so I feel unable to talk to him about any of this. He didn't look good this morning either.

Loveisashadow · 18/02/2015 12:54

Hope you managed to get some sleep ciq. I think everything seems worse at night doesn't it? How do you feel about him staying at his Mum's and giving you space; is it enough or do you need more? I read on the other thread and here what you are going through. It must be so challenging for you right now.

I understand what you mean about being isolated, Vicar, I'm a single mum and sometimes I feel as though I'm just existing from one minute to the next, especially when dd is at school. Are there any clubs or groups you can join so you aren't alone ? The village must have somethings going on.

How is every one today? Not a good day for me, my depression and fibromyalgia are currently winning the battle. Depression especially. Though I have been to the shops and sat in the sun for a bit. Feeling very low,overwhelmed and tearful. Hope today is being kind to every one.

NanaNina · 18/02/2015 13:45

WOW Vicar SO nice to see you back and yes it was "many moons ago" when you started the Village thread - I remember it well! Bit shocked at your news. Will PM you.

CIQ I think you've been very wobbly for sometime now and it's not surprising at all. Are you seeing the GP - sorry can't remember about your meds? I know you can't contemplate separating from your DH - but is there a way YOU can take yourself off somewhere for a few hours to get away from DH, if he won't do that. Why has the plan to spend 2 days at his mother's place fallen through? I noticed your post was 06.39 - do you have to get up so early. Think your kids are primary school age (or older?) couldn't you have some time on your own by staying in bed, or just being in your bedroom on your own.

How are you Cream