Issues at the interface of Mavis, community-based psychiatric services and the mentally normal

[Mitchy1nge]

I think that covers us all?

Getting thatch redone sounds like a real upheaval.

I think I will buy a tiny, brand new flat somewhere if I ever sell this place. And not have horses or a car.

It was a massive job but thankfully done in a nice summer, most if which I was off sick for.

actually I won't buy, I'll rent

daughter #1 is on cusp of buying first house and I just think 'noooooooooo don't do it'

I sold my car. Life became slightly easier.

I live for the day the mortgage is paid off. Just another few years.

Although come to think of it it was the only physical asset I could prove was mine

Ah well.

Bloody mortgages.

No contact from Mavis since this morning, when she texted me to thank for bath, texted my landline with just the word "sorry" which was read out in a robot voice, and DP borrowed my phone to talk to her and she said she'd been up all night smoking weed, watching porn and masturbating again. Which is basically what she does whenever she has weed, which is to say whenever she has money or shags her dealer. The slightly disturbing thing is she's set her phone wallpaper to DP's face and claims to masturbate to that now

Oh god I can hear swearing coming from the bathroom. Today is a bad day.

No contact from Mavis might be no bad thing given her designs on your DP.

I'm not sure she has designs, as such. She believes she is going to marry... let's call him Boris. Has the wedding dress and everything. Adores him. He doesn't realise this, though, and also he won't sleep with her again. He is a different kind of Christian. Then there's... I'll call him Maurice. Her dealer and ex-fiancé, supposedly, who I think is still in love with her and gets sexually jealous when other people sleep with her. And... say, Rajiv. I'm not sure why she sleeps with Rajiv as she says she doesn't like Asian men

So as you can see DP is only one of many.

Oh hooray, the bath taps are fitted and the hot water works. No cold, apparently, but you can't have everything.

Also, "designs" sounds so calculating - I don't think she means to hurt me.

Mitchy, are you the polar opposite of the mother on the "my parents want me to buy a house before I have any kids" thread?

not seen thread but probably

have seen too many of my peers get trapped in negative equity - can't sell, can't move somewhere for better job etc

am sure renting makes for better situation all round - for individuals and the economy generally

Ah. Yes, negative equity blows.

More labour force mobility and a less screwed-over economy in countries where renting is normal and houses are homes, not investments.

Not that I would know anything about that.

but daughter #1 knows what she wants and my toxic negativity is probably not it!

also has a child so can see the appeal, did same thing as young lone parent

From what people say, it sounds to me like renting in the UK can feel soul-destroying and never-ending. I wouldn't blame anyone for jumping at the chance to buy.

Wish I could shake off this horrible sinking sadness and rushy anxiety. It's almost impossible trying to hide it. I just need a diagnosis from the psychiatrist I'm seeing next Wednesday, so I can find out whether this is something I can fix, or something I'm stuck with for the rest of my life, and I can try to either fix my self/my life or quit living the bloody thing.

I hope they're not going to insist on withholding my diagnosis again; I don't really want to have to request my notes again just to get a straight answer.

what sorts of things can be fixed?

social things, living arrangements?