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"putting the SPRING back in our step - village support for depression and anxiety"

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LEMmingaround · 03/03/2014 21:29

Heres the new thread guys. What is this, thread 9?

This is a thread that is situated in a virtual village of support for those suffering from mental health issues, or just those struggling with what life throws at them.

Please feel free to join in.

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SnowyMouse · 13/04/2014 12:10

(((( vicar ))))

Mentalpsychiatrist · 13/04/2014 18:25

Vicar I hope you're ok.

I think this weeks problems were definitely jet lag related. If anything I feel a little low now. Work is giving me problems. Having so much time off in the last year means I'm watching this promotion round go by without me. Seeing peers get promoted always stings a little and I find I'm enjoying my NHS days more than my proper job. Arghhhh.

SnowyMouse · 13/04/2014 18:46

I think there's something special about working in the NHS. ((( mp ))) It must be tough.

I'm not sure if I should contact my CPN tomorrow, seems to be the wrong thing.

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LEMmingaround · 13/04/2014 20:50

snowy, the wrong time for who? if you feel you need contact then do please get in touch wiht them xx

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NanaNina · 14/04/2014 00:08

Why is it the "wrong thing" snowy (not wrong time Lem!) You've had a bad weekend and I think you should contact your CPN tomorrow as I know when you're very low it is more difficult to shut the voices out. I'm wondering if they are now telling you it's the "wrong thing" to contact your CPN. Sorry to be a bit direct snowy but I do worry about you.

TheUnemployableLeech · 14/04/2014 08:19

LEM It sounds like two extremes, he was of the opinion that you should just get on with it, I was working on one of his long running projects and he had several newer ones that claimed his attention. In some ways it was good, but not actually very useful!

vicar I hope you get your move.

MP I'm sure it does sting, but at the end of the day your health is more important than having a promotion (and more stress?) so try to look at it as a consolidation of your current position before the next round comes along.

snowy hope you manage to contact someone today.

NanaNina · 14/04/2014 12:51

How are you today snowy - are you seeing your CPN?

SnowyMouse · 14/04/2014 13:16

I am seeing my CPN next Tuesday.

DumDum32 · 14/04/2014 14:01

Hi all,

Keep losing the thread as I haven't kept up like I use to anymore, head is not in the right place at the moment.

((( hugs to all struggling )))

SS are kindly looking after my DD right now so I can attend my first psycho therapy appointment (been waiting 18 months for it) Not sure what to expect feeling very anxious & gittery.

Hope everyone is keeping it together as reading this page of thread it seems quite a lot of us are struggling at the moment :(

ThatVikRinA22 · 15/04/2014 04:27

hi all
glad your seeing cpn snowy....

lovely to see you too dumdum
thanks everyone for the support - im quite down about work again - not the actual work, but the people. its hard enough without them adding to it.

nana - its a comfort to see you on here again.

im clearly still up at sillyhour....but im going ot bed now. its my own fault because i didnt get up early enough today after nights.

im feeling a bit lost, glad im on my days off now and im going to book a bit of leave i think.

i need to be away from the people who are making me feel bad.

TheUnemployableLeech · 15/04/2014 09:53

DD hope your appointment went ok. Sounds a sensible plan vicar
How are you feeling today snowy?
Hope everyone else is doing ok today. My two are ill so I am mopping up tears and snot, one in bed and one in front of the tv. I'm trying to figure out what is best to do for DS, DH has proclaimed what the psychologist said to be "a load of bullshit" and is refusing to sign the forms for someone to come to the house for a couple of hours a week before he starts school. We are not going to push for a diagnosis at the moment (she has said he is borderline ASD) because I want to find out more how the system works here and if it's worth giving him that label. Lovely sunny day and we can't go out and play :( (

NanaNina · 15/04/2014 10:40

TUL I think it's a great pity that your DH is refusing to allow someone to the come to the house for a couple of hours a week before he starts school. Believe me they would not be offering this (even small amount of time) if they didn't think there was a need. And I think he is quite wrong in calling the psychologist's findings "bullshit" - are you able to over-ride him on this one, as if not I think it is your son that is going to miss out on this extra bit of help.

TheUnemployableLeech · 15/04/2014 11:47

No, I can't override him, the form needs both our signatures. MIL however thinks it might be a good idea and we are staying with them for Easter... (I do think her assessment is harsh - she insisted on carrying it out in his third language and has assessed his cognitive abilities as zero because he didn't complete any of the tests. But am not in agreement that it is complete bullshit.)

SnowyMouse · 15/04/2014 18:22

I'm really struggling Sad Hmm they are still saying to cut my throat.

I'm sorry that your DH isn't allowing the help for your DS TUL. Could your MiL talk him round?

SnowyMouse · 15/04/2014 20:17

I might try to phone my CPN tomorrow, I'll see how it goes.

ColouringInQueen · 15/04/2014 20:24

hang in there snowy can you distract yourself with some music or tv?

tul definitely sounds like it's worth seeing what you and MIL can come up with over Easter. As Nana says, they wouldn't offer this unless it was needed and will put your ds in a stronger position when he starts school.

hi vicar sorry to hear work is so difficult at the moment. Getting a break sounds like a v good idea - any ideas where?

dd Hi, hope the appointment went ok, sorry to hear you're struggling.

lem how's the school hols going?

Well I am back from hols in Lakes - was a good break from the norm but the weather was pretty rubbish. Anyhow home to sunshine which has been beautiful today. DCs played outside most of the day Smile. Dh back from business trip, tbh its easier when its just me Hmm Parents tomorrow so hopefully that will be ok.

NanaNina · 15/04/2014 21:12

DD was wondering how you were.....and CIQ sounds like you've picked up a bit, as you posted that you were feeling flat on holiday. Mind at least you go on holiday. I won't make any holiday arrangements in case I have a run of bad days and then it's a waste of money and wouldn't be much fun for DP. Haven't been on holiday since 2009, but we go to Ireland every 6 weeks as we've got son, dil and grandchildren there. I always get really anxious beforehand in case I have bad days when I'm there. On one occasion I was crying (quietly) in the airport and on the plane but wasn't so bad once we landed. I just feel embarrassed and I wouldn't do if it was a physical illness. My son(s) are not much good - I think they feel embarrassed and don't know what to say.

snowy I do worry about you - can you put your music on as I know that sometimes helps to keep the noise of the voices out of your head. Presumably none of the medics are worried about you if you are not seeing your CPN till next Tuesday.

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LEMmingaround · 15/04/2014 21:32

TUL - you know your son, i can see how doing cognitive tests in a non- first language would prove problematic but i suppose they will have allowed for this? Do you think he has a problem? If so then its worth trying to push for further assesment. I think the "label" is worthwhile as even if he doesn't need any specific intervention then it is flagged up for any problems he may encounter during school etc. Your DH sounds very pig-headed.

CiQ - i have to say i am very Envy of the lakes, we went there many years ago and i would love to revisit one day, its just so far!

Vicar - have you heard anything regarding getting a transfer at work?

Dumdum - its ok to dip in and out of the thread, i have lost it a few times recently (the thread that is, rather than the plot, i may have lost that as well Blush).

Snowy - hang on in there, distract yourself in you can, but most importantly, keep yourself safe - tell the voices to fuck off and call someone if you have to.

Always nice to see you on the thread Nana.

Mentalpscyh - have things settled after the jet lag?

Ed - how are you doing?

Phew - sorry if i've missed anyone out (bound to have!)

I have my bloody period again Hmm now i know why my mood dipped so significantly last week - it was like inanimate objects were conspiring against me (metaphorically speaking) its like i can trip over my own feet at that time of the month, its not something ive missed and im very pissed off that it has been revisiting - i just hope my coil is still there!! I THINK i felt the strings - will mention it to the doctor this week as i have to go for a meds review. I know this is really really vain but i want to stop taking the citalopram ( i probably wont because i don't think im ready especially with the resurfacing PMT) because i feel i am fighting a losing battle with the weight. Im bloody starving most of the time, obsessing about food and STILL haven't lost anything in the past few weeks :( DD is enjoying the holidays, i like having her home - i will be lost when she goes back to school. DP is off for easter now - not home from work yet but then i have him til monday :) Had some sad news that my aunt has died (she was only 66) this week, we weren't close but still its sad as i know how fond my dad was of her, at least they will meet up in heaven.

Love to al.

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SnowyMouse · 15/04/2014 21:34

They don't know what's happening NN so I might try to phone tomorrow

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LEMmingaround · 15/04/2014 22:15

um, obviously thats love to all - i don't know who al is! :)

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TheUnemployableLeech · 16/04/2014 08:40

lemsorry to hear about your aunt. Certainly worth asking about the medication I would have thought.

I'm not sure she did! that's my issue. Because of where we live, she should be bilingual in DS's second and third language, so she could have used that at least (I think that because DS's third language is my better of the two, I spoke to her in that so she spoke to him in it if that makes sense). I have read that assessments should only be carried out in first language. I also feel a bit for him that all the toys in her office were a dolls house with furniture and dolls. He never plays with dolls! So spent the time stuffing the furniture down the chimney Blush. Problem is if he has a label it could cause problems for him applying for health insurance (no NHS here!) in the future etc. and we don't know if a borderline case is worth it or if he would get help in school anyway.

ciq I know what you mean-I find it also easier sometimes when DH is out in the evening!

snowy make that phone call and you can tell your voices I told them to f* off!

How are you nn and dd?

ThatVikRinA22 · 16/04/2014 11:50

Sad im going back to bed. ds had been suspended from work for a mistake he made in the middle of the night when he was on call. the wording of the letter suggests that they are going to dismiss him. they have wanted him out since he told them he has AS (they suspended him when he told them) ive rung ACAS. he has gone ti CAB. I cant cope. he has just signed the lease on a flat following work putting pressure on him to move. im ill. ive got another chest infection. 2nd in 6 weeks. I need my duvet.

SnowyMouse · 16/04/2014 12:45

((( LEM ))) sounds like you have a lot going on Sad I've left the CPN a message, I don't know when she is working though, as they are on shifts now.

It all sounds difficult TUL, big hugs.

Oh vicar Sad that sounds awful, and possibly illegal. I'm sorry you're ill, I hope your duvet time helps.

SnowyMouse · 16/04/2014 13:59

I have been told I can take diazepam. Hmm Sad I hope it helps.

SnowyMouse · 16/04/2014 14:22

She did offer to talk, but I can't see how this would help.