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"putting the SPRING back in our step - village support for depression and anxiety"

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LEMmingaround · 03/03/2014 21:29

Heres the new thread guys. What is this, thread 9?

This is a thread that is situated in a virtual village of support for those suffering from mental health issues, or just those struggling with what life throws at them.

Please feel free to join in.

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Tigglette · 03/04/2014 13:50

I found that with CBT too, very prescriptive - like the counsellor has a set of activities that are the "answer" to whatever it is you take to them. I've done CBT twice, the first time was really quite useful and gave me some strategies to manage my anxiety. The second time was fairly useless - the counsellor seemed more interested in punting his favourite theory about emotional distress and seemed out if his depth dealing with me. It felt like he was pissed of because his theory didn't work for me.

I'm now seeing someone who uses a mixture of approaches, which is working well for me and might help me get to the bottom of things. I felt that CBT helped me function but really just papered over the cracks rather than really resolving anything.

Your chai latte and pastry sound fab, I'm trying and failing to low carb so I'm most jealous.

MissGuineapigs · 03/04/2014 13:54

Updating rather quickly before I forget.

Called PALS first thing, spoke to same woman as last Thursday. She sounded a lot better today, said she'd chased it up on Tuesday, and would chase it up again today.

My head's all over the place today. Just before I called PALS this morning, I found out there's been a death in the family.

TheSilveryPussycat · 03/04/2014 14:00

[hugs] guinea

Tigglette · 03/04/2014 14:19

Sorry for your loss ginea, it's not surprising you feel a bit off kilter.

SnowyMouse · 03/04/2014 14:51

(((( Guinea ))))

ColouringInQueen · 03/04/2014 14:55

so sorry guinnea

packing for a week in the Lakes which should be lovely. Proving to be a lot to do! (But thankfully Not moving).

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LEMmingaround · 03/04/2014 15:06

Tigglett, i am sort of low carbing too - yesterday the craving was unbelievable, ive never had that before!

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SnowyMouse · 03/04/2014 17:19

Enjoy the Lakes, CIQ Smile

I need to get back onto the calorie counting, went to Ask with a friend earlier, oops.

Tigglette · 03/04/2014 18:03

I usually manage really well with low carb LEM and planned to do Bootcamp after the New Year but its been impossible - I crave sugar when I'm stressed. My mental health has truly screwed up my diet, but one thing at a time eh - sort the head out and the arse will follow...

SnowyMouse · 03/04/2014 18:32

I find MH adversely affects my dietting too. It's difficult.

MissGuineapigs · 03/04/2014 19:03

Thanks everyone.

My anxiety's high as I've got to sort out funeral wear. The last time I went to one, I was a size 8. I'm now a size 18. I hate clothes shopping at the best times, and I have to wear something DSis won't bully me for.

TheSilveryPussycat · 03/04/2014 19:24

May I recommend George at Asda? They had a good selection in when I was in earlier this week, and I find it relatively stress-free getting stuff from there. They also go up to size 22. (And remember shoes, too.)

ColouringInQueen · 03/04/2014 19:44

I crave carbs and sugar when I'm low/anxious (a lot of the time!), so dieting is very difficult. I had some success allowing myself some plain choc at the end of the day if I'd not had any cakes or biscuits, but its vvv hard. I'm the heaviest I've ever been but failing to reverse the trend!

thanks snowy it should do me good.

have you seen this story about treating depression with ketamine? Sounds amazing!

here

ColouringInQueen · 03/04/2014 19:49

the video on

www.blackdoginstitute.org.au/public/research/participateinourresearch/ketamineasatreatmentfordepression.cfm here]]

is also encouraging

ColouringInQueen · 03/04/2014 19:53

here

better

MissGuineapigs · 03/04/2014 21:00

TheSilveryPussycat Thanks. No idea how much time I have, it was a sudden death and she's got to have a post mortem. I think I'll be going shopping early next week.

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LEMmingaround · 03/04/2014 22:02

MissGP, so very sorry for your loss. If there is to be a PM, it could be a couple of weeks or even a bit more before the funeral.

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MissGuineapigs · 03/04/2014 22:22

LEM Thanks. I've no experience with these, no idea how long it may take

NanaNina · 04/04/2014 00:21

Me too sorry for your loss MGP - and second what Lem says, in that if there is a PM it could be 2/3 weeks before the funeral, which will hopefully give you more time to get sorted.

TUL I'm really sorry to keep saying this but I am really concerned for you and your children, as your husband does sound like he is emotionally abusing you on some level, and your description of his behaviour really does sound strange. It's almost like you have 3 children and you have to accommodate all his quirks. I do wonder how much all of this is impacting on your mental health, or is indeed the cause of it. You seem so accepting of it all..........which is a bit worrying really because his behaviour does seem to be very unreasonable to say the least. Is he suffering from some form of mental illness. Look if you don't want to talk about it, I won't bring it up again, but we are I think all honest and authentic on this thread and I couldn't just keep this worry for you to myself.

SPC what is this LFWB business! My young niece used this description too about her current boyfriend, who is some 10 years older than her and so feels she is too young to be his girlfriend but he wanted sex with her (she told me all this) and said that he wants to be an LFWB which is the first time I'd ever heard the phrase. Needless to say I told her that no way should she be having sex with him. If she wasn't old enough to be his girlfriend then she wasn't old enough to be having sex with him - this was when she was 16 and I was really worried about her as she's such a sweet kid. Sorry all that not really relevant - it was just you using the phrase that reminded me of my niece.

CIQ sorry you're still low. I think packing for holidays especially with young children is very stressful, but hope once you are there you will be able to relax for some of the time anyway. I love the Lake District, especially Ullswater and we've had many happy holidays there in the past.

Snowy really pleased because you seem to be faring a little better these days - long may it continue.

Hello Tiglette love the name - CBT wasn't much help to me either. My CPN talked to me about it but she had only done a short course, and then I went to see some bloke and paid £70 for one session (!!) I know I must have lost all sense and he was absolutely rubbish. I wish I'd refused to pay but I did write a letter of complaint about him to the organisation to which he was affiliated.

I only have 2 more sessions left with my NHS therapist and I'm really going to miss her. She's the first therapist with whom I've felt comfortable and safe enough to be honest, I just wish she worked on a private basis as I would willingly pay to see her, but she is purely NHS.

Hello Lem glad to know you are ok!

Sorry if I've forgotten anyone.

Tigglette · 04/04/2014 07:35

I know what you mean NanaNina the person I'm seeing just now is really the first therapist I feel has really understood me. She's very careful of me, not pushing me too far but far enough, if you know what I mean. I'm seeing her privately which is proving spendy (not £70/ hour though - what a bloody cheek) but does mean I can start to unpick things knowing she'll be working with me for as long as I need.

It's a shame yours doesn't do private work, I can imagine ending with her will be hard.

Thanks for posting the link CiQ I quite like that animation as a way of explaining the impact mental health problems can have more generally. I totally feel your pain on the diet front. I had a medicinal Chinese takeaway last night followed by very necessary chocolate.

TheSilveryPussycat · 04/04/2014 08:22

NN as you know, FWB is the cool name for a no-strings bonking relationship, and our l-t platonic friendship had just changed to a sexual one a year after I divorced my Ex. At our advanced age, we were hardly girl- and boy-friend, we weren't planning to live together or pool our finances, finding a name for it was just a part of that tricky bit where you stop second-guessing the other person and try to speak about the emotions involved.

You know, the one where you also don't want to frighten them off by saying the wrong thing?

So I suggested the modern term for whatever we were might be FWB. He looked like he thought that wasn't the right term. So I suggested Loving FWB - a term I thought I had just invented! His face lightened :) And that's what we agreed on.

I actually don't think there can be such a thing as FWB - emotions cannot be separated from sex IMHO. I'd be a bit worried about your niece too, but all you can do is be there if it goes wrong.

SnowyMouse · 04/04/2014 19:46

Is anyone up to anything at the weekend?

TheSilveryPussycat · 04/04/2014 20:11

DS is coming tomorrow - not that I'll see much of him, I don't expect!

To my own amazement I started Spring Cleaning today though tis likely to go on till Autumn

SnowyMouse · 04/04/2014 20:43

Congrats on the cleaning, I should do some of that!

Tigglette · 04/04/2014 20:54

I've got and expected houseguest next week, so I too am cleaning - the spare room needs seriously sorted out if someone is going to sleep there. Boring but such is life...