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Banishing the winter blues, warming each other up in The Village

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LEMoncehadacatcalledSANTA · 20/12/2013 21:52

Err, we need a new thread guys - I know this is Vicar's job so i hope you like the name.

This thread is a support group for those with mental health issues and generally feeling crap, some of us are on medication, some of us have help.

So come on in, grab a stool at the pub, the fires warm and the welcome is warmer - stay a while or move right on in!

All welcome

Ha! im not very good at this!

OP posts:
SnowyMouse · 27/01/2014 11:39

(((( LEM ))))

Is your appointment today?

LEMmingaround · 27/01/2014 15:00

Just a nightmare. Drs at hospital believe my mum to be capable. Do no support offered. I cant take anymore

Khimaira · 27/01/2014 15:19

Oh no, that doesn't sound practical. Can you get a second opinion? What does her GP think, could you go and see him/her? When is your appointment? What would happen if you told your GP, could they get some support arranged for your DM?

SnowyMouse · 27/01/2014 15:28

Oh no LEM, I'm so sorry Sad I hope a proper assessment can happen so your DM can get some support.

LEMmingaround · 27/01/2014 15:55

Saw gp this morning. Said much the same. I give up

TheSparklyPussycat · 27/01/2014 16:14

Did you ask if there is mh liaison officer?

LEMmingaround · 27/01/2014 16:33

It went out of my mind. She caught me talking to the doctors and convinced them I was lying:( too late now. I think they just thought she is nasty. It could well be true. Its what dp thinks.

LEMmingaround · 27/01/2014 16:33

It went out of my mind. She caught me talking to the doctors and convinced them I was lying:( too late now. I think they just thought she is nasty. It could well be true. Its what dp thinks.

LEMmingaround · 27/01/2014 16:34

It went out of my mind. She caught me talking to the doctors and convinced them I was lying:( too late now. I think they just thought she is nasty. It could well be true. Its what dp thinks.

LEMmingaround · 27/01/2014 16:34

It went out of my mind. She caught me talking to the doctors and convinced them I was lying:( too late now. I think they just thought she is nasty. It could well be true. Its what dp thinks.

TheSparklyPussycat · 27/01/2014 16:36

The trouble is that they are physical doctors, not trained in geriatric psychiatry. Could you ring the hospital, see if there is one, and ask to speak to them if so?

TheSparklyPussycat · 27/01/2014 16:36

*one= mh l officer

LEMmingaround · 27/01/2014 16:56

She discharged herself :(

TheSparklyPussycat · 27/01/2014 17:37

Nevertheless, I would see if there is one. It could mean you talking things over with someone who understands.

The other route is to ask for a mental health assessment to see whether she needs detaining for her own good. This happens a fair bit with elderly mentally ill, they are usually got back on their feet again, as an inpatient in hospital or nursing home) and (supposedly) not discharged till support is in place. (At least, that's my understanding)

hoochymama1 · 27/01/2014 17:37

Lovely lem, hang on in there, no advice, just sending (((hugs))) your waySmile
Great to see you, nana, my friend is on a tiny bit of lithium and it really helps her.
Been working 3 weeks and it is so hardShock Started to lose sleep, oh noSad
Love to all

LollipopViolet · 27/01/2014 20:01

Hello everyone.

I'm feeling a bit "meh" today. Course was alright, not as bad as I thought. But it's all week, which is a pain.

I found some of my old uni work tonight - gosh I was rubbish at the paperwork side of filmmaking even in my final year! Need to sort that out for this children's centre film, or I'll be drowning by the time 12 months of filming have happened!

LEMmingaround · 27/01/2014 20:23

I am so glad thats over!!! I have never been so embarrased in all my life :( She was calling the nurses "little bits of shit" all day and going on about how "she was lucky i didn't smack her right in the chops" like it was something to be proud of. It made me look bad because I was at the end of my rope this morning having not slept last night, because i KNEW that there would be an issue today, i just knew it. So i probably made things worse. The trouble is, i just think she actually is a nasty old bag, but what can i do, shes my mother. I just find it hard to sympathise when she treats everyone like this. She put her fist to my face telling me i should be sticking up for her and not the bits of shit nurses - but of course no one saw this :( The doctor was right - its her own personal choice not to go to the doctors and they can't force her. Its not going to stop there because it seems that she is on too high a dose of her steroids and they have reduced it so that is going to cause a whole lot of shit for me to contend with. She has just phoned me while i was writing this - apparenty i have been mucking about with her TV while she was in hospital and i have to go and sort ot out now.

ColouringInQueen · 27/01/2014 20:37

((((hugs)))) lem that sounds really tough. What did your gp have to say? My dh went to see his dparents doctor to tell them how bad things were so that the doc was aware at least (in case they ever did try to get an appt....)

Hi everyone else, haven't been around so much recently I guess cos I'm a lot better than this time last year.

((((hugs)))) too to snowy, nana and anyone else who needs them.

I've been ok. Having some interesting conversations in my head, trying to cope with being around a couple of dds friends mums who were, up til a year ago friends, but who have dropped me basically since dd leg incident/my mh illness/stuff at church. Which is interesting. Not easy. I am feeling quite angry and bitching towards them at the moment which need to find ways of expressing! One of them has organised a night out which a group of mums from dds class, which I would have been invited to, but haven't. Only found out about it cos another friend said could I make it, assuming I'd been asked! Gradually letting go and trying not to go down the "I must be rubbish company" road Wink

take care everyone

LEMmingaround · 27/01/2014 20:50

Going to adopt your technique of distraction snowy - have a nice big chinese when DD goes to bed. No wine but i might have to have a wee shot of brandy

LEMmingaround · 27/01/2014 20:57

They sound like bitches CiQ, you don't need folk like that in your life! What happened to your DD's leg? I am sure you are not rubbish company at all, nice to see you back on the thread. I think i am much better than this time last year as well, although it was around this time that it was all coming to a head. Had i had to deal with this from my mother last year i think it would have finished me.

Khimaira · 28/01/2014 09:53

They don't sound like friends CiQ

Hope the brandy was therapeutic LEM! I don't really know how things work, but if you keep a diary of what happens or you or your DP go to her doctor whenever something notable happens would that help? Then they have it recorded for future use.

Today is my last child free day until the middle of 2016 when DD starts preschool. There are 1001 things that I should be doing, but I have just sat down on the sofa, put a film on, eating a bowl of crisps. Is that bad? I know I will feel terribly guilty later...

LEMmingaround · 28/01/2014 12:34

I'm surviving - just Hmm Having to plough through the tax return on top of everything else - bloody closed it without saving this morning and lost half my entries and had to do it again (because DP was yapping in my ear about some old shit that i didn't need to know about). Then my mum rang, confused about her tablets, but is at least willing to see her doctor about it - progress? Maybe. I'll not count my chickens.

The film sounds lovely Khim - i can't watch films unless they are on the TV, if its a DVD then i can't stay awake past the opening credits! But no, its not bad, its good, you need to give your brain some downtime and a film is good because it occupies it just enough to stop you brooding - so whilst you might feel its indulgent, its actually vital therapy! And the crisp - has to be done!

I had a horrible dream last night that i agreed to let SS take my DD because i wasn't coping with my mother. Then it all kicked off because they told me i could only see her once a fortnight - i woke up petrified and shaking :( Doing the tax return actually helped me to ground myself a bit as it was only the number crunching stage and it is looking like we wont have to pay anything this year as he was taxed at source for some of the stuff - its so bloody complicated though, when im OK its a breeze but i am findign typing my name confusing just now Confused

Love to all - sorry for self indulgent post

LEMmingaround · 28/01/2014 12:35

you can probably have more than one crisp though Khim x

ColouringInQueen · 28/01/2014 14:01

khimaria film sounds lovely. Great idea.

horrible dream lem. Wow well done on getting on with the tax return. I am coming round to your way of thinking re: my so called "friends"... it is tho with fragile self-esteem. Met up with another nice friend this morning and am really struggling now not to be paranoid about what she thinks of me. Also thrown - she agreed me with me that DH was really manic at the beginning of last year (when I crashed). I've only had one other person agree with me - but now her who I trust, makes me realise my judgement was still working despite everything. But also I had been taking some comfort in it being "just me". Now its real. Now the decisions about setting up on his own were mad at a time when he was not "of sound mind". All my doubts about his realism have some justification.... likewise my doubts about his potential business success and my recent calm has evaporated. What's real?

TheSparklyPussycat · 28/01/2014 14:18

CIQ it matters not what his state of mind when setting up - it may be he had to be like that to get the oomph - the thing is, is he still looking for work, out there or on the phone making pitches, etc. or, having done 3 in the first wave of enthusiasm, is he sitting back with his fingers crossed?