Banishing the winter blues, warming each other up in The Village

[LEMoncehadacatcalledSANTA]

Err, we need a new thread guys - I know this is Vicar's job so i hope you like the name.

This thread is a support group for those with mental health issues and generally feeling crap, some of us are on medication, some of us have help.

So come on in, grab a stool at the pub, the fires warm and the welcome is warmer - stay a while or move right on in!

All welcome

Ha! im not very good at this!

Hi vicar Some people find a general anaesthetic affects their sleep and makes them tired for days/weeks after.

I hope your car is easily fixed. I hope DS finds a flat soon too.

I hope your headache is gone, Khimaira

I'm struggling with the voices at present, I told CPN (she came today), and she's coming on Monday, told me to keep challenging them.

Oh dear Khimaira Big hugs. Surely you can't let someone get ill? I don't think your DH is being very reasonable.

Because I let him consort with other little people. I.e. I took him to a playgroup. I have kept him away from DH, did the baths and bed myself. Think it was appreciated as he is still talking to me. I wonder how much sleep I will get tonight.

Enough of my moaning, I hope you're all having a peaceful evening.

i put the car in for its MOT and it failed.....its going to cost more than £300 but its worth it to keep it running - ive had it since new in 2002.

the electrical glitch was because there was no water in it! i check everything religiously - tyres, oil, petrol, just never had to check coolant.

Khimaira - sounds like you are having a rough time - hope your little one gets better soon.

i think ive been overdoing things a bit - i felt really ill last night and was up until 3am....i felt really sick but i cant actually be sick anymore since the surgery....so that was fun. not.

so another late night and another late morning - i let dh take the car as i was washed out well and truly.
when i did get up i walked the dog, then tidied and cleaned the house from top to bottom.

walked dog again and got piss wet through as it was chucking it down....but came home to a nice hot bath and a magazine. I did pour a glass of wine but couldnt drink it. had a cup of tea instead.

i feel so lethargic and tired. off to bed.....goodnight all. hope you all have a good day tomorrow.

vicar take care not to overdo it. Your day sounds just about what I could cope with at my best, let alone a few weeks after an operation.

Sleep well :)

Oh dear vicar I hope you got some decent sleep, sounds like a busy day.

I'm struggling Nobody to contact at the weekend.

Can you just hide under a duvet, snowy (as I have been doing - don't seem to want to do anything except smoke, which makes me sleepy, so I have a nap - not depressed as such though).

I must try doing something apart from MN at least for 15 min.

Or if nap not an option, what are your best distractions?

hi snowy

sometimes i feel like that when the house is empty and im alone and i start wondering who i can phone....

is there anything you can do just for yourself that you can enjoy? i have started painting my nails again - i know it sounds trivial but when the house is quiet and there is no one to disturb me it feels like a luxury and i enjoy it.

i also really enjoyed a bubble bath with a magazine last night - use the quiet time for something nice just for you to enjoy.

I've put the tv on for background, and have some knitting if I can make myself do it. I don't have a bath unfortunately, shower isn't the same. I'm taking it 10 minutes at a time. Thanks both.

Khim - im sorry, my post was a bit thoughtless. I hope your DS is feeling better x (have asked MN to remove it - i thought about that after i posted it, then RL got in the way and it slipped my miind).

Snowy, i hope you are managing x

My weekend has been, well, shit - found my mother unwell yesterday, laying in her own faeces, cue day at the hospital :( More angry with her than worried as she wouldnt go to the bloody doctor, which could have got her some ABs and prevented a 999 blue lighted trip to the hospital.

LEM - but maybe this may lead to you getting some support with your DM?

Oh no LEM Big hugs, I hope that your DM gets some support now.

(((Hugs to all)))

Not doing great myself :(

Nor me DD32, I'm struggling with voices. Hope you feel better soon.

Hello to anyone who remembers me.....and to those who don't! Snowy so so sorry that you are struggling with those damned voices. Is there not an anti-psychotic drug that can silence them. Yes all you can do is take things 10 mins at a time.

I am struggling too - this month has been the worst since my relapse in 2010 and that's not an impression, as I keep a daily diary and add up my scores of good/bad and mixed days at the end of each month. I've had some horrendous days continuously and suicide has been at the front of my mind.

I am seeing the psychologist I saw before (I quite like her) and she's on the NHS so I don't have to pay but she's ever seen me on a bad day and so talks of "building a bridge" between the good and bad days. Still have my lovely CPN but she's part time and can't always get her. She is going to talk to psychiatrist about the possibility of adding lithium to my ADs - I'll take anything if I think there's a chance of it working.

Hi Nana - I have been thinking about you over the last week or so and was actually going to pm you to see how you were getting on so its great to see you back on the thread. I'm sad to read that you are struggling :( you were doing so well - so i guess that means that you CAN do well again, you got better after 2010 and you can get better again now. I truly believe that, of course you might have to take some of your own sage advice about how to deal with things - none of us are ever very good at that are we! Has anything triggered it do you think or is it a bad case of January Blues? January is my absolute worst month of the year, so many expectations and the tax return on top of it - so i feel alot better once January is out of the way and i can see the light of the summer in the distance. I know, its a bloody cliche but i seem to fit right into that one!

I am shattered, been over the hospital with my mother today, she is much much better thankfully, I really think if i hadn't gone round when i did yesterday it would have been a very different story today. So annoying because i almost feel as if it was self inflicted. I am going to talk to the doctor about trying to get her mental health assessed. I would ask over at the hospital but she is quite fine in herself just now - but she was getting agitated about having to be kept in so if she kicks off tomorrow i will ask about a mental health assesment. I don't hold out much hope for that though.

hello nananina lovely to see you.

though sorry this month has been such a struggle. Its all such a lottery....i hope very much that tinkering again with your meds makes some difference (for the better!)

Hi NanaNina, good to see you here. Thanks for the support, I'm sorry you're suffering so much I hope you psychiatrist is supportive, sounds like you need some help (((( NanaNina ))))

I hope you can get some sleep and rest LEM, sounds like a very stressful situation for you

LEM here in the NE we have mh liaison officers who work in general hospitals, one of the things they do is look out for people, especially older people, like your DM, who have come in with something physical but with a possible ongoing mh thing making it all worse. Maybe they've got them in your area?

Oh and good to see you Nana (though have also seen you elsewhere in the meantime)

It's ok LEM I hope your DM is getting better and you get some support.

Both DC have been ill yesterday. Today they seem better, ok enough to send to nursery but DH has just told me that I know he wanted to take them out in the summer. Oh and by the way, there are also stomach flu bugs going around at the moment. So if I send them today and they do a catch something else (unlikely, I know) he will be livid. But I need a free day! I know that's selfish. Maybe I'll keep them home and send them in tomorrow for their party.

Hope you all had a good night and today is not such a struggle.

Couldn't sleep last night. Shattered. Have made appointment to see my doctor. I cant do it anymore.