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Banishing the winter blues, warming each other up in The Village

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LEMoncehadacatcalledSANTA · 20/12/2013 21:52

Err, we need a new thread guys - I know this is Vicar's job so i hope you like the name.

This thread is a support group for those with mental health issues and generally feeling crap, some of us are on medication, some of us have help.

So come on in, grab a stool at the pub, the fires warm and the welcome is warmer - stay a while or move right on in!

All welcome

Ha! im not very good at this!

OP posts:
LEMmingaround · 21/01/2014 13:57

Hugs to all . You are having a crap yime. Sorry I am being shite on thread lately. Busy a yet anxious x

SnowyMouse · 21/01/2014 16:27

CPN has cancelled.

DumDum32 · 21/01/2014 17:31

((( snowy )))

LEMmingaround · 21/01/2014 17:48

snowy are they aware of how the voices are just now?

SnowyMouse · 21/01/2014 17:50

No, they are not.

LEMmingaround · 21/01/2014 17:57

How are you feeling now snowy? do you feel safe? if not, maybe you should give them a call?

hoochymama1 · 21/01/2014 19:51

((( Snowy )))

SnowyMouse · 21/01/2014 21:07

I will have to talk to the art therapist tomorrow to apologise for not being there again.

SnowyMouse · 22/01/2014 14:22

I wish I could have gone to art therapy today.

Khimaira · 22/01/2014 20:27

How are you feeling snowy? did you manage to talk to someone today?

I need to ask someone... Have I done something really stupid? I dressed DC2 in her vest with a cute little bear on it. But it also says Merry Christmas on it. I know you're not supposed to have anything to do with Christmas things unless it's Christmas, I don't know what I was thinking when I got her ready for bed (I clearly wasn't thinking). Is something bad going to happen to her tonight? Do I need to change her before I go to bed (and risk waking her up and getting DH angry)? I'd need to take her sleeping bag off, pj's off and vest and then replace them and she clearly won't stay asleep for that. I don't know what to do :(

SnowyMouse · 22/01/2014 20:31

No, I didn't.

Leave DC2 as is, I would. I don't think it will hurt her.

LEMmingaround · 23/01/2014 10:46

Flipping heck Kimaira - are you me??? I have a bit of a phobia type thing about picket fences following a recurrent childhood dream. When DD was a baby we bought her a lovely "gro bag" from mother care. I was just about to put her to bed in it one night and i realised the little embroidered motif was a cottage with a picket fence. I never used it :( DP was Hmm it was £35 but i just couldnt bring myself to use it. I sort of have the same superstitions about christmas things but would have rationalised that to myself fairly easily. Its only January, if she doesn't wear it now, she wont get anymore use out of it and that would be sad. Also, my DD is still doing colouring things etc that she got for christmas so its still "safe" to have christmas things on in January, no worries :)

So even with my weird superstitions and anxieties i would have been ok with it.

Gosh, aren't we daft! But thts what anxiety does, it skews your thinking - Im a 43 year old woman with a PhD in Biochemistry and i STILL walk into the road rather than step on three drains and get upset if i see a single magpie Blush

LEMmingaround · 23/01/2014 10:47

Oh and i wouldn't use DD's christening shoes now because my MIL put them on the table, despite being asked not to Angry

They thought it was really funny :(

Khimaira · 23/01/2014 12:32

She is, predictably, fine! I did however omit to put her a bin on at breakfast so I could justify changing her out of it when I got her dressed for the day Blush. I however, did not sleep well at all. I even fell asleep on the sofa this morning I think. I'm not actually sure. I am so tired at the moment it is untrue, I'm finding it very hard to looks after the DC's. Bad mummy. I have to take them to Playgroup and clean up as we have people viewing tomorrow. I hate having people in to see how bad I am housekeeping...but I suppose it is the only way to move! I would say maybe its something that seeps in whilst you do a phd but that can't be true as I had superstitions about Christmas things before.

DH thought I was crazy the first time he tried to take my shoes off (I had my hands full of sleeping child) and he tried to take off the left one first. I couldn't believe he didn't know you have to put the right one on first and take the right one off first Confused.

Hope everyone is doing ok.

DumDum32 · 23/01/2014 13:53

Days r still dragging :( can't shift this useless feeling!

Sorry not much support for anyone :(

SnowyMouse · 23/01/2014 15:44

Sorry you're struggling, DD32

How's everyone doing?

LollipopViolet · 23/01/2014 16:13

Another really positive meeting at the children's centre today :)

Then finding out I've been put on (NOT offered, mind you!) a course called Skills Support for Redundancy by my Work Programme provider. I wasn't made redundant - although I suppose leaving by mutual agreement might count as that...

Have to be at a place in the next city for 9.30am on Monday and my bus pass isn't valid til after 9.30 so that's £4 in bus fare every day of the course (although hopefully only 2 days and I can claim it back) /

I don't want more qualifications - I want to start my business!

LollipopViolet · 23/01/2014 16:14

Well, I say I don't want qualifications - I'm obviously startling my early years course and then doing my TA training, but that's MY choice. This isn't and I resent that fact.

SnowyMouse · 23/01/2014 17:25

Oh dear Violet, I hope it doesn't prove too onerous. I'm sticking with emailing the samaritans, it helps a little.

SnowyMouse · 23/01/2014 18:05

Chinese takeaway for me tonight, expensive distraction but worth it.

SnowyMouse · 23/01/2014 18:06

What's everyone else having for dinner?

LollipopViolet · 23/01/2014 18:10

Curry, lovingly made by my mum last night - her cooking is awesome but she won't share her recipes as she doesn't use them. Just adds "a bit of this, a bit of that" and it somehow morphs into a tasty dinner :)

SnowyMouse · 23/01/2014 18:14

Sounds yummy :) I'm having chicken satay skewers, broccoli cooked in garlic and red thai style duck.

ThatVikRinA22 · 24/01/2014 01:02

hi everyone
just popping in so i dont lose the thread.....(i thought id lost it earlier and it scared me to death!)

im really really tired at mo and useless at getting up again. worse than ive been for ages but i seem to have gone all nocturnal while off work again....

ive also asked DS to find a flat of his own - we havent fallen out but im finding it very hard coping with him at home again, just his general mess and he creates so much more work.....
he came home in December - he has a good job and i know the travel is getting to him so he would be better living more local to his job. He could come home at weekends or whenever he wants and his job is only 30 miles away....i would never move him on if he wasnt ready but he lived alone in exeter and i know my nagging is getting to him as much as his mess is getting to me!

my car has had a hissy fit and its on the blink....its going to garage tomorrow so i must get up..... am hoping its nothing expensive

hope everyone is ok....

Khimaira · 24/01/2014 06:21

Sounds like a good solution vicar, even if it must be hard to suggest he moves, hope your car isn't too troublesome.
You all sound like you have impressive dinners, much nicer than the bread and cheese we had! I have returned to bed with a splitting headache. The DCs had me up until 230 and then I woke at 515 when DH started to get ready for work. DC1 is watching tv and the number 2 is still asleep (I hope, if I go into check on her she will wake... But I always start to worry once they sleep later than usual).
I hope the course is vaguely useful violet, even if it's a bother to get to it.
DC2 is still alive :) better go and get her.