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Challenge from my Psychologist. Write down 3 positive things a day. Join me?

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fuzzpig · 05/09/2013 20:10

Background in brief - history of abuse and lengthy depression, self harm, lots of therapy in teens inc psych ward stay. Now suffering from CFS (also known as ME) and having CBT as part of the treatment.

So, we were talking about low self esteem, negative inner voice etc, and she suggested doing this to gradually build up evidence against these thoughts. I've done similar briefly in the past but having done a lot of psychological 'inner work' this year I feel ready to make it stick and I thought doing a thread on it would make me more likely to bother!

I'm off to watch telly with DH in a mo (Big Bang Theory 6 arrived yesterday :o) so won't be back til tomorrow but if anyone wants to do this with me then jump in! Could be stuff you've achieved, nice things that have happened etc.

Mine are:

  • Had my consultation over the phone for the first time - was worried it'd feel weird but I stuck with it and found it really helpful.
  • Contacted a friend to arrange a meet up while he's visiting home (I hardly ever initiate anything like that)
  • Wrote in my treatment journal the same day as my session, instead of leaving it for weeks!

:)

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iMe · 30/10/2013 21:32
  1. Got all my to do list done in record time this morn.
  2. Friend came to visit.
  3. Loving wearing my new scarf.
ColouringInQueen · 30/10/2013 22:45

hello

  1. did an hours yoga
  2. dcs had a good time and gparents
  3. got some of the books I read as a child.
ColouringInQueen · 31/10/2013 19:16

me again Wink

got a good chunk of gardening done
got on ok with dh at home
had a nice shower this eve with a glass of Wine

fuzzpig · 31/10/2013 19:32

Have been absent for a while... Blush

Made lots of funky Halloween food with/for DCs including some that I came up with myself (body part soup and eyeball cakes : o)

Was brave and took some to neighbour kids with DD

DCs really excited about Halloween :)

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fuzzpig · 31/10/2013 19:36

Welcome 12345!

Colouring I neeeeeed to know, what are these childhood books you've got? I'm considering some Roald Dahl/Enid Blytons for DD this Xmas, and some picture books for DS that I loved.

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iMe · 01/11/2013 07:21

Yesterday:

  1. DH off work for the day.
  2. Had help to get an errand done that had been needing to get done for a very long time.
  3. DH cooked delicious dinner.
NotYoMomma · 01/11/2013 11:18

can I join? hello!

I have anxiety issues that are currently going into overdrive as I am 40+4 pregnant, very worried re health and have a severe needle phobia/ fear of a loss of control which birth can often bring!

my 3 things today are:

  1. dh is finishing work early
  2. my friend is getting married tomorrow and I am giving myself a much needed makeover today
  3. I have taken the day to relax and rest up while dd1 is at Nursery and I am not in pain Smile
ColouringInQueen · 01/11/2013 21:19

hi notyo congrats and good luck...

todays are

  1. Got a bit more gardening done
  2. had a couple of hours to myself at shops
  3. new boots arrived and they're fab!
NotYoMomma · 02/11/2013 04:12
  1. I am spending some time with my little family of 3 today before we become a family of 4
  2. I am not in pain today(I do realise it is only 4am)
  3. my lovely friend is getting married today and I am going to the nightime party (if baby doesnt show up!)
fuzzpig · 02/11/2013 09:21

Hi NYM :)

Mine for yesterday:
Got ranted at by a customer about recent changes we've made (ie not something I'd done), kept my cool and my supervisor said I handled it perfectly.
Finally chose items/got DSDs to choose items for a craft party we are going to (had been procrastinating)
Went to bed at a decent time

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iMe · 02/11/2013 22:42

1 DH got some diy jobs done that I didn't even have to suggest, never mind nag him about. It looks well too.

  1. cooked a dish I haven't made for years in preparation for tomorrow and now I can't wait to eat itGrin
3 had some me time in the bath and pampered myself a little.
iMe · 03/11/2013 20:55
  1. I got a rest while DS slept.
  2. Cooked dinner for friends, had a good chat too.
  3. DCs well behaved (mostly).
  4. My lovely DH made the packed lunches, a job I hate doing.
fuzzpig · 03/11/2013 21:44

Yesterday:
Didn't freak out and panic when DS blocked the toilet!
Put the shopping away myself
Watched another new anime movie, it was great

Today:
No telly on til about 1pm, DCs played really nicely with building blocks
Wrote down proper lists for Xmas presents/food etc
Was snappy with DH but apologised rather than staying grumpy

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ColouringInQueen · 03/11/2013 22:09
  1. Baked a yummy chocolate cake
  2. Tidied up lounge
  3. Didn't get upset by my thread on S&B going a bit stroppy
NotYoMomma · 03/11/2013 22:44
  1. having a lovely bubble bath (right now with my water resistant phone) Grin

  2. DH and me having good banter all day

  3. sucessfully telling my mother I st
    hall be naming my own baby and to back off

NotYoMomma · 03/11/2013 22:45

fuzzpig - what anime movie? I love anime, manga and all that. I go to all the UK conventions

fuzzpig · 03/11/2013 22:55

Journey to Agartha. Quite sad in places though.

Relatively new to anime, mostly watching studio ghibli. DSD really loves naruto so getting a few manga/anime related Xmas pressies for her. :o

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fuzzpig · 03/11/2013 22:56

(She went to comicon last week)

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NotYoMomma · 04/11/2013 08:48
Grin
  1. I had my baby!!!
  2. she arrived in 2 hours
  3. we are both happy and healthy and avoided any needles!
fuzzpig · 04/11/2013 09:53

Eeeeeeeep! Congratulations NYM! Thanks

Definitely the biggest Positive Thing on the thread :o hope you're getting lots of rest, enjoy this special time! x

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ColouringInQueen · 04/11/2013 22:17

Wow NYM that' the ultimate positive thing Grin

me, well,

got some voluntary stuff done for church
got some cleaning done
got out in the sun Smile

notagiraffe · 04/11/2013 23:20

Congratulations NYM

DS1 won a writing contest at school.
DS2 got a special commendation from his RE teacher
Had a nice day, working with old clients I know well and really like and finished early.

NotYoMomma · 05/11/2013 11:35

:D thanks

I'm only going to put one thing today but it is so unbelieveably huge for me I am sitting here crying about how happy I am

I have had a huge and traumatic phobia of needles and anxiety for years and years. ive had therapy and hypnotherapy and have gradually been getting better

im Sat in the hospital by myself having just had ny first ever needle alone. no parents, no dh, no additional support. just me and the midwife.

I took a few minutes, looked at it and her and breathed through it. I didnt even cry. she said well done afterwards and gave me a cuddle and then I had a bit weep with pure relief Grin

its like the end of an era, I can't believe I did it! what a way to cap off the last few days.

go on then I will list 2 more:
2) baby is sleeping and eating well
3) her big sister doesnt seem to be jealous and lots of hugs and kisses