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Never felt so alone

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SaveWaterDrinkMalibu · 10/04/2013 23:20

Bear with me - currently in tears

Have depression - have lost friends and OH. Feel like no one cares or wants to know me any more as I'm mentally ill

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fiverabbits · 10/04/2013 23:27

Talk to me I am listening and wishing you well.

Isabeller · 10/04/2013 23:28

I'm here too

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SaveWaterDrinkMalibu · 10/04/2013 23:30

Thanks it means a lot

I really feel like giving up

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Unfortunatelyanxious · 10/04/2013 23:31

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Catmint · 10/04/2013 23:33

Save, I am so sorry you feel alone. Depression is very lonely and the symptoms and behaviours associated with it can just worsen the situation.

But you are not your illness. You are a likeable person and I feel sure that you can get through this difficult time.

If you aren't getting professional, medical help please do.

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SaveWaterDrinkMalibu · 10/04/2013 23:34

I'm finding coping from depression hard enough but then you lose friends and it get harder

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SaveWaterDrinkMalibu · 10/04/2013 23:36

Been to the docs who referred me to some agency who works with people to get a social life back - really not the help I need

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Catmint · 10/04/2013 23:36

I have bouts of depression every few years. I have lost friends. But in a funny way I have come to be better friends with myself. I have made friends as well because depression has changed my perspective, although obv that is hard to do when you are in the middle of it.

Catmint · 10/04/2013 23:38

Is that all the docs did? Sounds a bit odd...what about cut, counselling, drugs?

Unfortunatelyanxious · 10/04/2013 23:39

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Catmint · 10/04/2013 23:39

C b t not cut

Catmint · 10/04/2013 23:40

YY Samaritans.

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SaveWaterDrinkMalibu · 10/04/2013 23:40

Docs said that it doesn't need counselling yet although been back every week practically begging. Now got to the point of I can't help myself if no one will help me

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Isabeller · 10/04/2013 23:43

I have lost friends through MH/depression and also feel embarrassed to see some people because of how I was when really unwell.

You are not alone.

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SaveWaterDrinkMalibu · 10/04/2013 23:43

Have seen the GP I always see ( only one ill talk to). Ended up crying for 15mins whilst talking

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Catmint · 10/04/2013 23:48

It makes me so angry when I hear of people experiencing gp not listening about depression. Perhaps the weird social life referral was as a stop gap because of waiting times for counselling, though.

What about anti d's?

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SaveWaterDrinkMalibu · 10/04/2013 23:50

No anti d's just the social life people even they couldn't work out why I was referred

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Catmint · 10/04/2013 23:58

Me too, I have sleep anxiety Smile and need to go now. I really get quite flustered if I go later than midnight, but didn't want to post and run.

But I agree, see if you have a local mind or similar. They are ace. Also, if you can summon the energy, go back to your gp and ask for anti d's specifically.

Try keeping a diary for a few days, so you can describe how you feel eg cried for this long, could not get out on these days, missed these meals, felt I needed to harm myself at these points etc etc

You're not alone.

whodunnit · 11/04/2013 00:06

Thinking of you but have no advice. hope these messages above have helped. Lots of other MNers have been through this, and you could really learn from their experiences although youa re feleling pretty low now.

Isabeller · 11/04/2013 00:29

Hope you get some sleep, I must now but will come back tomorrow

Catmint · 11/04/2013 10:19

Thinking of you today, Save. Xx

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SaveWaterDrinkMalibu · 11/04/2013 11:24

Currently laid in bed crying - dont want to face the day

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kizzie · 11/04/2013 11:44

One of the most unfair things about depression etc is the fact that often you have to really fight for decent treatment (which of course is the last thing you feel able to do.)
But it is worth it and so are you - so dont give up and keep going back to GP until you get proper help. It might help to write down excatly how you are feeling and just give that to the GP.

In the meantime some of the things Ive done (none of them are miracle cure - but sometimes it helps to think of doing a basketful of different things - with each of them helping a little bit.)

  • Tell yourself that you'll try and help yourself feel 10% better. It feels manageable - and anything is better than you are at the moment. It takes away the pressure of 'ive got to get better'
  • Eat very regularly to keep blood sugar levels even. And reduce sugar.
  • Get some fresh air every day
  • Set a list of easy things to do each day. Nothing too taxing but just to give you a bit of structure.
  • Set a 'worry time' for each day. So eg 5- 5.30. Then if you start to obsess over worries tell yourself 'Im not ignoring this but im not thinking about it now - im going to think about it a lot between 5 and 5.30'
  • Some very easy craft/ reading etc to do to pass the time. Ive even done colouring in in the past - concentrating on staying in the lines - has taken my mind off the depression a little bit Hmm Blush
  • Go to library and get a book on CBT techniques

Take Care