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Those of you who have had counselling....

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naswm · 10/05/2006 14:18

...do you get to a point where you can tell it is is working? or that it is starting to help? If so, I obviously have a long way to go :(

TIA

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naswm · 11/05/2006 14:45

frumpygrumpy - all my days are like that at the mo. I'll change my name when they are not. I am :( today. Nothing significant to make me so. Just more of the same. :( :( :( :(

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essbee · 11/05/2006 15:15

I didn't realise either Gawd i'm stupid sometimes!

CHANGE IT!!!

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naswm · 11/05/2006 16:59

What happened? I was so 'up' on this thread last night. I cannot believe it was me. God I hate this bloody illness. :(

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essbee · 11/05/2006 17:10

I hate it too. Just try and hold on the fact you will have another up day again very soon, I often have to remind myself! You might even feel a bit more more up tonight.

I really hope the counselling hopes soon. You mentioned you have one big 'issue', would it help to talk about it here? does your counsellor know what it is?

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naswm · 11/05/2006 17:20

Oh Hi essbee. I know what you say makes sense. I seem to go up and down throughoout the day. It is a nightmare. And I often dont see it coming.

Re the 'issues' there are many. Not one main one. she knows about some. Not all. There are even some things I dont think I know about yet. Becuae I have pushed them so deep down inside. But I know they all have to come out at some point so I can deal with them and move on. But tbh I feel so screwed up trying to deal with the things I have 'reached' so far, I dread to think what state I'll be in if I ever find all my gremlins

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essbee · 11/05/2006 17:26

I think, from my personal experience, that it's probably better to deal with no more than a couple of things at a time. Talk about them, work it through, feel better about them. Then you can look at something else. I know some like the 'let's open the entire can of worms' thing, and whilst i'm sure that probably works you have got to be able to continue with your life whilst your doing it. This is also partly why i'm not told all, having saud that though... I plan to talk about everything as much as I can tomorrow so he can use his experience to know where to start.

PinkKerPlink · 11/05/2006 17:36

naswm, i think we have all felt up and down from one day to the other during the bleaker times

frumpygrumpy · 11/05/2006 17:42

naswm, its so bloody hard. I hit a down spot a couple of weeks back and was lower than I've been in a while. Lasted a week only, thank ...whoever. This week I'm the person I love to be. I have normal energy (not too much, not too little), I have normal patience (still run out but not to the point of shouting toooo loud). It seems so unfair. We can do it though. I just do the minimum and take shelter in the house when I feel really bad. I write a list in the morning of what I really have to do because sometimes even concentration is too hard. I go through it through the day and it gets me through til bed or til MN. I try to sleep early (ha) and eat well (ha) in those times. I'm currently seeing a herbalist again and I don't know if the herbs are helping or if I'm just a little better this week. What are you taking if anything?

Honey, we are right here to help carry you through these times. It will pass and be a little better, hang on and wait for it to come. Dont fight if you've no strength, just do whatever gets you through. Sending you my best from someone who knows......

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naswm · 12/05/2006 17:45

essbee - how d'you get on today? naswm x

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essbee · 12/05/2006 17:50

I'm really not convinced but i'm seeing him again in 10 days, I did manage to tell him quite a lot though which surprised me and.. i cried .

My mood has lifted quite a bit over the afternoon though so maybe it's ok actually! I feeling like I could quite happily walk under the bus, I felt really angry too.. and had to have my music on full volume on the way home to chill a bit!

How about you? how's your mood today?

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naswm · 12/05/2006 17:54

Essbee you sound a bit like me when I get out. All over the place. And you cried? Good on you girl. Did it help? What did he say when you did?

I'm okay today. up and down as usual but not quite so high or quite so low as yesterday. In neeed of a drink tonight, I am ashamed to say.

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essbee · 12/05/2006 17:57

Oh I'm with you there!!!

I do think there should be a chill out area actually, where you can calm down and de-puff (well I go puffy!) before you have to face the world again. There was when I saw the good councellor but it wasn't nhs..

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naswm · 12/05/2006 18:00

I try to have a quick chill out in the car afterwards on the way to collecting the kids. I think that is important. I didn't do that this week because for someone reason I thought I didn't need it. But now it is 3 days on and I haven't consciously thought about any of the things discussed....

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blueteddy · 12/05/2006 18:14

Glad you managed to open up to your counsellor, essbee. Did it feel strange talking through everything with a man?
In the early days of my counselling, I always needed to do something to switch out of the emotinonal state that my head was in. I would often nip into a few shops or something.
I can't do that now, as my sessions fall in my lunch hour, so I have to whizz back to work. Still nothing like a class of 30 year 2 children, to take your mind of things!

blueteddy · 12/05/2006 18:15

Was meant to be a comma after the word still!

frumpygrumpy · 12/05/2006 19:31

essbee, just like me when I came out of mine! I love loud music anyway but I do remember coming out of one session last summer and blasting Blondie very loudly all the way home. Got quite a few stares but I NEEDED it!!

Glad today is a little better NASWM. Its all we can all aim for sometimes. I've had a gin already...... chinese food now and an early night I think. Good luck babes, keep posting.

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naswm · 12/05/2006 20:05

Hi all. Well Friday evening has officially started. Kids are asleep. shopping away and the wine is open.

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blueteddy · 12/05/2006 20:13

Oh, sounds bliss! I have one child asleep & the other watching cartoons, but he is going to bed shortly!
Pour yourself a large glass of wine & relax!

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naswm · 12/05/2006 20:19

I've already done that bt!

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blueteddy · 12/05/2006 20:48

Good on you! I am trying to be good tonight, but not sure how long it will last!

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naswm · 12/05/2006 21:16

good for you bt. I am not being good toinhgt. But at the moment I dont care :)

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maltesers · 12/05/2006 21:23

Just keep going Naswm .. it may not seem to be helping but its so good to have someone to talk to and who is there for you .

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naswm · 12/05/2006 21:28

aww thanks maltesers. I WILl for now. Thanks

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frumpygrumpy · 13/05/2006 15:09

Just saying hi.

Kiwiana · 14/05/2006 10:02

Hi.. how easy is it to get refered to a counsellor? A lot has happened and I feel ever so lonely! Yet when I do get an invite out I turn it down. As time goes on I become more and more reclusive. I encourage my girls to be sociable though so as not to rub my self loathing on to them!
I desperately need to break this cycle.

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