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Has anyone had themselves committed? Suicidal. Please help.

51 replies

UterusUterusGhali · 30/03/2013 15:28

I don't know what to do. I can't face any more. I really can't go on but apparently I shouldn't kill myself.

Can you get yourself committed?
Should I?

I can't think of an alternative. I don't know what to do, but I can't just sit here. Is there anyone I can talk to?

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Sunnywithshowers · 30/03/2013 18:55

Uterus, your mum is totally wrong. Please get some help - you deserve to be helped.

Much love and hugs x

sybilfaulty · 30/03/2013 19:00

Dear Uterus, I can feel the pain in your words and how frightened you are. Please keep talking to us. I think if you are feeling this low, you should either call 999 or go to A and E. The suggestion of writing everything down is a good one.

Your children will not be taken away from you. Even if you were sectioned they could be looked after without being put in care. You are not well and need looking after yourself. Please go to A and E and get someone to look after you.

Thinking of you sweetheart.

CajaDeLaMemoria · 30/03/2013 19:02

They won't take your children if you are committed.

I absolutely, 100 percent promise.

My mum was sectioned multiple times when I was growing up. We were never taken away. It was never even suggested.

Please, please get help. You'll be so glad you did.

Lucyellensmum95 · 30/03/2013 19:08

Please get some help - I was where you are a few weeks ago, what got me thorugh was mnet and my DP saying to me "you go ahead and do it, but just hold the picture in your head of DD crying at your grave" That sort of shocked me into getting help.

I remember your thread and you have been through so much. Who has the children just now? Are they with you, your parents?

You must have a plan to keep yourself safe - I have the number of the local out of hours mental health helpline. The samaritans will listen, they will also direct you to real help (sometimes though, someone to listen is all you need - i posted on here and thats what helped me - seems trivial but its true)

You are really strong - you CAN and you will get through this.

Please call the samaritans 08457 90 90 90 or 999 if you are really scared.

Your children wont be taken away - why would they do that? If you are taken into hospital (voluntarily or otherwise) who would take care of them? The only way they would be taken into TEMPORARY care is if there was no one to take care of them. I would be surprised though if this was to be the outcome, i think you need support NOW, that doesn't necessarily mean hospital. Please please call someone - even if its your mum.

insanityscratching · 30/03/2013 19:23

Uterus I was sectioned 17 years ago, I had four children, my children weren't taken away in fact I have five now and they all still live with me (though I'm encouraging the oldest two to move out Grin) as they always have. Life can and will get better. I've been well for many years now and medication free for more than ten and that time is just a dim and distant memory.
I couldn't see at the time that I needed admitting but it undoubtedly saved my life. You are aware you need help so have more insight than I had. Go to A&E now and ask for it please.

UnChartered · 30/03/2013 19:26

your children will not be taken away if you admit yourself, you might not even be sectioned, if you are able to recognise the fact you need help, you probably won't be right now anyhow

please call someone who will help you, someone who knows

sybilfaulty · 30/03/2013 20:40

How are you feeling, Uterus?

You don't need to be sectioned to receive help. You can present at a and e and ask for urgent assistance fri the psych team, just as you would need urgent assistance if you'd had a heart attack or broken leg.

My dear old dad had several urgent admissions, both as a voluntary patient and under section. You may not need to be admitted but you do need help. We are here for you yo listen and hold your hand but you need medical care darling.

Thinking of you. Let us know how you are doing.

RubyrooUK · 31/03/2013 17:50

Hello Uterus. Just checking in to say a quick hello. I hope so much that you are feeling a bit better today.

lottieandmia · 31/03/2013 17:55

Uterus - I'm sorry you're in a bad place. I have been where you are now. I thought killing myself seemed like a reasonable thing to do and believe me, it is because you are ill. One day you will feel better like I do now and you will be so glad you didn't take your life and you will see all the things you have to live for.

Do you have a psychiatrist?

nenevomito · 31/03/2013 19:17

Uterus - The bit about your children is utter bollocks. They won't be taken from you at all.

Hope you're feeling a bit better. Did you go to A&E for help?

RubyrooUK · 31/03/2013 22:01

Just doing a quick bump of your thread Uterus in case you've missed seeing it.

Just wanted to say again that I've been thinking of you and hoping you've had some help. There is lots of reassurance on this thread about being able to get help without your children being removed so I hope you've seen it.

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UterusUterusGhali · 01/04/2013 20:19

Hi. Thank you.

I did see the advice and I am so grateful.

My dad & sister have come to look after me. I'll try the GP tomorrow. Thank you all. Xxx

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sybilfaulty · 01/04/2013 20:51

Thanks for the update uterus. Hope the GP tomorrow is helpful. We are all thinking if you and jolting your hand. Keep talking to us darling.

Take care and well done for getting some help in. Big hugs my lovely.

sybilfaulty · 01/04/2013 20:52

HOLDING your hand

RubyrooUK · 01/04/2013 21:09

Glad to hear from you. Hope the GP is helpful tomorrow. X

UnChartered · 01/04/2013 21:12

bless you Uterus - well done for letting people in - good luck with GP

{{{hugs}}}

Sunnywithshowers · 01/04/2013 21:21

I'm so glad you're being looked after Uterus, that's great news.

Flowers and hugs xxx

ClementineKelandra · 01/04/2013 21:24

I got a psychiatrist to admit me to a psych unit. It was the best thing I ever did. My children were not taken away from me. I really think it was the start of me getting better.

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sooperdooper · 01/04/2013 21:29

Glad you're getting some help, thinking of you, you can get through this and things will get better, keep talking, on here and in RL

Sorry about my post above Im on my phone

moggiek · 01/04/2013 22:09

Uterus - I've been where you are now, and I'm living proof that things can get better.

ktef · 02/04/2013 18:59

Thinking of you uterus. Really hope your family are are around and looking after you. Keep asking for help, and if it doesn't work keep asking, scream if you have to so people know how bad you are feeling. Things will get better. Xxxx

RubyrooUK · 04/04/2013 03:29

Just a quick check of how you are, Uterus. Hope the GP was able to help. Am still thinking of you. Please let us know how you are when you feel you can. X

summer111 · 04/04/2013 21:37

Uterus, I hope you have been offered the help you need. I'm a mental health clinician and I just wanted to reassure you that under no circumstances would your children be taken into care if you needed support. You would most probably be offered home treatment from your local crisis team so that you could still care for your children. If you were to need an in-patient admission, your family/friends would then step in to care for your children, just as would happen if you needed to be admitted into a general hospital for a physical health condition.
Should you feel unwell in the future, don't hesitate to contact your GP or go to A&E if it's out of hours...both are gatekeepers into mental health services. There will be a psychiatric liaison team at A&E who would assess your needs and refer you to the crisis team if needed. If hospital admission was warranted, this can be on a voluntary basis.
Best of luck x