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we were all in the bed, this is the 2nd thread....roll over! roll over!

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ThatVikRinA22 · 02/02/2013 01:26

so we all rolled over and hellebelles told us to get our arses out of bed......Smile

ive started a new one because there are only a few posts left on the old thread before it gets full.

nana ive described myself on the old thread just for you! Smile

so.

nana hellesbelles mama ed silvery and basset and any one else who posted on the old thread or who relates to our experiences and wants to post on the new one....welcome to the new thread.

old one here

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MechanicalTheatre · 07/02/2013 18:08

Ed I love your levels.

I've been in pyjamas since Saturday, no shower :/

Now going to have a shower and get down to the shop. I HAVE to. There's nothing in the house and I am dying of boredom.

HellesBelles396 · 07/02/2013 18:50

Hi Maggie - glad we could help. it sounds like you've both been having a rough time of it. has dh spoken to his union about being managed out?

it may be useful to you to set times for each task. eg get up by such and such a time or work the dog straight after lunch. I tend to use more of the second time eg get up when I wake up as they work better for me.

ThatVikRinA22 · 07/02/2013 19:01

hi everyone.

loving the levels ed

think im on level 2 today, no bonus points though. however, the garden is well underway - its going to be a completely blank canvas so im now looking at trees and plants and trying to plan how to plant it. We have a new garage, new turf and new patio in the making....nothing in the garden now at all and looks a bit bare. Front will be low maintenance and drive block paved....ive found the telegraph did a page with the best plants by post so im going to have a mosey tonight and get scribbling - i feel quite excited about the new garden and being able to use it, and plant it, it looks huge but so bare....it needs trees. im missing the bushes and trees i had but they were all diseased and out of control...need to replant.

Welcome maggie - im glad you find it useful - i find it very comforting to talk with others who are experiencing or have experienced similar. A bit of solidarity and its nice.

Im planning nothing much again tomorrow but i did manage to clear a large basket of ironing today so i have clothes in my wardrobe for the first time in ages. i even ironed my work wear so i dont have to look at it....

i have walked the dog 3 times.

i know i cannot go back to bed tomorrow as the dog cant go out in the garden so will need walking as soon as DD goes to school, and the builders will be back needing power and water so i have to hang around....still - thats probably a good thing. its forcing me out of bed and im having to stay up.

well. i think i will go and do some research on plants....its quite exciting - im looking at patio sets and bbqs too! cant afford them but im plotting for when i can....!

stevie im sorry you are struggling - when is your DH home? i was told yesterday that when we are down we have a negative filter - so everyday situations that normally we read nothing into we start to find negative slants on everything - it doesnt make it true - its just how you are feeling. hang on to that. Are you on meds?

UA - i did the same in the run up to xmas - i think i was on level 1 for about 2 weeks too - with minus points for no face washing, no hair washing and no housework!

waves to everyone else - old and new. off to google trees.....im starting to think i should have gone for an outdoorsy job - im loving the horses and im excited at the prospect of planting my new garden....

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HellesBelles396 · 07/02/2013 21:09

sounds like you have quite the project ahead of you vicar hope you find everything you need for the garden.

you're soundin so positive ed you really seem to have picked up over the last couple of weeks.

there's so many people I've only been able to remember and reply to the most recent posts. I'll have to post this and go back to the thread to refresh mu memory. hate updating on mobile Angry

HellesBelles396 · 07/02/2013 21:13

mechanical, silvery and unfortunately

I had several level 1's over Christmas and, tbh, would love a couple now. I'm finding being around people difficult right now. roll on half term!

I absolutely agree with the blowdry bonus as I have to be level 3 for work anyway (except trousers not jeans) and I hate wearing makeup so no chance of that bonus. I hope ed allows it!

anyway, so tired now so will wave to anyone who's been on today nut I haven't mentioned and also to any more lurkers. Hello!

EdwiniasRevenge · 07/02/2013 21:27

Quick panicky text.

I should have been keeping a diary for the last 6 week's to hand in tomorrow

I can't find the blank sheet let alone fill it in...

Do yuo reckon I could print this thread instead :o

Runs away panicking ....

HellesBelles396 · 07/02/2013 21:47

I think you defo could ed or copy and paste your bits onto a word doc?

ThatVikRinA22 · 07/02/2013 21:57

actually ed i think i have been more honest on this thread than anywhere else - i would print the thread! or at least do what HB said and put your posts onto a work document and print that.

i would just say that you have not been in the right place to complete the diary but you have put your thoughts on paper.

whats the worst that can happen?

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EdwiniasRevenge · 07/02/2013 23:04

Evening from my bed.

Found my blank diary. I will fill it in tomorrow before I see the therapist...it's not a free text diary but I have each day sectioned out and have to record each activity with an enjoyment and acheivement score. I should be able to do it by tracking back through this thread...which is kind of why I started doing a daily resume. I started it because there was no way I could do it properly with my mum in the house...so planned to do the first 2 weeks using this thread as my guide....and now the resume is my habit :)

So....for today's resume...

Woke up feeling Ermm.....lively to say the least. I felt kind of normal. Well. Like the last 3month's hadn't happened. I was bored sitting doing nothing, but didn't want to do anything...but it was a feeling of I didn't want to do it rather that my body wouldn't let me if that makes sense.

So I put some washing on the airer and played on the Wii after wasting an hour of my life reading the original worra thread.

I then had some lunch (a rare occurrence...I often snack at 4ish then I'm not hungry for tea)...and I wanted a nap...almost more out of boredom and I was tired from disturbed sleep.

When I woke up my mood had shifted. Big style. I was inert. I was still in bed when twins came home. I collected dd3 and got fish send chips which we ate with a friend. Planned packing for next week's centre parcs break....but I feel flat. The chip wrappers are all in the kitchen because ibhad locked up before I scraped plates and couldn't be bothered unlock to put in bin. Yesterday's leftovers are still on side because bin has been at end of drive for collection (yesterday) and I couldn't be bothered to collect it.
I have nitty gritty'd dd3.
I have gone thru a pile paperwork and disposed of some In an effort to find this diary. I am in bed early (but will read).

Overall...I feel flat tho. I am angry at myself for achieving so little considering how positive I felt when I woke up. I am angry for myself for napping when I could have survived without....I only did it because of habit and because I was tired (not exhausted). My kitchen is a tip. I am angry at myself for leaving this diary till last minute.

Am cross because I wake up feeling hideous and I achieve so much... and yet when I wake up hyperactive I achieved spent little :(

But vicar hope you can get your teeth into that project and may be shit you need to keep you away from your bed.

Welcome Maggie and waves at any lurkers. I definitely commend you for trying to maintain a routine. The main foCus of my therapy is to re-estabLish a daily routine starting with a senSible sleep pattern and starting from scratch is paiNstaking

Waves to everyone else vosvwe aren't a new page and can't remember tho hascsaid what.....in fact it seems to have been quiet today other than everyone comparing dress code levels (glad you like it :))....I have probably spent 75% of the last 4 week's on level 1.5 (trackie thrown over the top of pj' s) which was why I was proud of today's level 3.

EdwiniasRevenge · 07/02/2013 23:06

Oh anD my phone keyboard is. Playing up big style so apologies for random capitalisation.

EdwiniasRevenge · 07/02/2013 23:18

Forgot to say goodnight all :)

ThatVikRinA22 · 07/02/2013 23:27

ed - its going back to bed.....it does us no good what so ever.

you did loads and you should take heart from the fact you felt so good earlier.
i am often the same - a big high, then a low. i think sleeping when we should be up defo makes a difference to how we wake and feel. i know it. but the temptation is still there to go crawl back to bed - its only the builders that are shaming me into not going back to bed....

helles is right about bed....i know it wont always stop me though. sometimes its just what i need.

good luck with the diary and goodnight ed

ive been getting into arguments on AIBU so i am winding down....Smile

goodnight everyone else....x

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mamakoula · 08/02/2013 02:34

ed the highs and lows are draining. You did give me a good giggle with your exuberance. I made it to dress level 3 but I rarely use makeup and blowdry my hair maybe twice a year.

I have had a couple of mornings when I have woken up bright eyed and bushy tailed, and it was abreath of fresh air. However the dip down felt so much worse as it was in comparison against happy IYSWIM. I am trying to remind myself this and to use it to help balance out the lows (or at least to try to rationalize why they feel so rough).

Sleep - I have been working on this for a few weeks. Last night I woke up three times :( and was awake by 0530. I avoid napping in the day but do allow myself the indulgence of one semi-duvet day of R&R. I have lowered some of my household standards and am limiting how much I do in a day. Even on days when I feel like I could do more. Again trying to maintain a steady and even flow in my days. Housecleaning burn

mamakoula · 08/02/2013 02:37

Gah. Typing on phone...

Housecleaning burnout if you will.

I guess I am cutting things back, trying to find stability and then slowly build things up.

Very much liked Bassetfeet's Dalai Lama quote. We do need to be happy with ourselves; we need to think about what we want our life to be and what will work for us.

Big wave to all. G'night!

mamakoula · 08/02/2013 02:40

Nananina, hope your grandson is finding balance in his life. In terms of treatment and ADs, I remember your broken leg analogy. You are very sympathetic and have good advice.

mamakoula · 08/02/2013 02:42

I do a Hellesbelles and have a chat on my tod...

Not sure how many of you do anything for lent. You might like this suggestion - I normally try to bring new habits into my life as opposed to taking things out. I do this because I find it more difficult to start things than to stop.

EdwiniasRevenge · 08/02/2013 08:39

Morning all....don't worry mama I am the queen of talking to myself...

I want my bed. I want my bed. And I want it now.

Woke a few times. Didn't want to get up. Dress code 1.5 although I will upgrade that to 3 before I see therapist.

Going to put rubbish out...load dishwasher and my kitchen might look a bit better...then I must do this diary....

vicar you are definitely right about sleep. If I feel awful before I sleep sleep sometimes help cos I can't feel any worse when I wake IYSWIM. I have realised that sleeping when you feel positive is a huge mistake.

I am going to try not to sleep today (mainly cos I want to pop out after therapist which won't leave time)...but we''ll see.

Right time to get on..I need to trawl through these threads to do this diary......couldnmake interesting reading....

Good day to all...

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EdwiniasRevenge · 08/02/2013 08:59

I know what you mean UF. When I am unwell anything that diverts from the perfect path I have planned for my day/week/whatever throws me into a whirlwind that I can't cope easily with....

Hmm lent...I could give up my bed

EdwiniasRevenge · 08/02/2013 10:42

Ooops. ...I've done 4 weeks worth of diary....

My appointment is in 20mins.....I am still on level 1.5 dress code.

Better run....

EdwiniasRevenge · 08/02/2013 11:44

I'm back.

I blagged my way through.

She was so impressed with how well the behaviour activation diaries are working for me that I have to do them for another 4 week's....either that and she saw straight through me and decdied I should have 4 weeks of doing them properly.

She wants me to take my afternoon naps on the sofa....yuk...I neglected to tell her I even downgrade to dresscode 1 for my naps....she would be horrified...

Oh well...what shall I spend my afternoon doing...shopping ....bathing...sleeping or Wii-ing...

EdwiniasRevenge · 08/02/2013 13:59

I'm out of bed.

I'm talking to myself

I'm bored of the Wii.

Can't be bothered to go to shops.

Dunno what yo do with myself to stop myself sleeping...

TheSilveryPussycat · 08/02/2013 14:31

I have played quite a bti of solitaire (vegas rules) to occupy my brain and avoid having a nap.

Am thinking of having a nap soon, though, at level 3 dress code (minus cardi and shoes) but definitely under duvet :)

ThatVikRinA22 · 08/02/2013 15:16

hi all

Is there anything else you can do ed - curl up on the sofa with your book or a good magazine? i love solitaire spc ....that wakes your brain up a bit.

i have had a mixed day. I only got 5 hours sleep last night, so i got up at 6 but didnt get dressed - took dog for a wee in my pjs Blush then when builders arrived i filled their kettle, plugged them in for power and i went back to bed. However, between the builders, my menagerie and my DD texting me - i didnt get back to sleep.
i laid in bed until 11 but then got up and got dressed - dress code 3 with bonus points as i put on make up and brushed hair!

i have walked dog to park, popped out to have eyelashes infilled (how vain?? but i had them done for DHs black tie do and im hooked....i may need to look into permanent ones - i dont have to faff about with mascara and they make such a huge difference to how my eyes look with minimal make up required....) so did that and then went to argos to buy a whirly gig dryer for the garden.

in a mo im going to do some job searching and some garden research, then i might allow myself to find somewhere that does permanent false lashes....

im at the stables tomorrow and sunday.
dress code will be 3 but no bonus points to be gained tomorrow.

i may have lost points today for the late hour i managed to fall out of bed but i feel ive made up for it....i even have lippy on. Grin

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EdwiniasRevenge · 08/02/2013 15:50

I was a good girl...I had a bath :).

I'm going to scrunch my hair rarher than clippibg it back...dunno how it will respond...it desperately needs cutting. I might even manage to moisturise. ..my skin does look dire atm.

Need to pack for dcs to go to xps for the weekend...but they are going away making it harder. Then I am picking them up from x sil on way to centre parcs...lord knows how successful this will all be...

Anyways...no nap yay!

Very tired!

Typical twin day with vicar tho...thinkkng about 'beauty'....

Gahhhh ive updated my phone and mow my predictive text isntcworking at all...

Appologies...