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we were all in the bed, this is the 2nd thread....roll over! roll over!

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ThatVikRinA22 · 02/02/2013 01:26

so we all rolled over and hellebelles told us to get our arses out of bed......Smile

ive started a new one because there are only a few posts left on the old thread before it gets full.

nana ive described myself on the old thread just for you! Smile

so.

nana hellesbelles mama ed silvery and basset and any one else who posted on the old thread or who relates to our experiences and wants to post on the new one....welcome to the new thread.

old one here

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MechanicalTheatre · 08/02/2013 19:17

Finally had a shower today. Spoke to two of my flatmates. Haven't actually managed to do any work and I have a million things to do, so I'm panicking about that.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 08/02/2013 21:33

MT what do you have to do - make a list and then work through it.....? just focus on what you have to do though.

ed im glad i have a twin.....Smile

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NanaNina · 08/02/2013 21:37

Hello everyone - sorry but I really can't keep up with posts anymore and if I scroll back I still forget who said what! I think this is definitely down to my ageing brain cells. I went out for lunch today with 3 women friends around my age and we spent ages talking about our bad memories. It's definitely an age thing - I heard a bloke on the radio describe his brain as like a collendar and that is exactly how I feel - words just slip away and I am constantly forgetting what I am talking about, but my friends are all the same. Ah the joys of getting old.

Headmonster asleep and hope you are all as "well as can be expected" - I know there is still a lot on here about going to bed (YES I am all for it if that's how you feel and have the time) I'm fed up with medics and therapists telling us we shouldn't go to bed - they've never had crippling depression when sometimes you can't face the world. Also note seeing lots of posts about household chores not getting done - my DP does most of ours but I put off things that I should do. My friend came out with a wonderful phrase today "Procrastination is the name of the Game" - love it!!

Vicar am intrigued by the lash filler - my eyelashes are so small they can hardly be seen but then I don't bother with make up much these days, though loved eye make up when I was at work. You must be feeling so much better to be thinking of such things!

Wish I could remember who said what but I can't so just sending love to everyone.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 08/02/2013 21:39

sending love back nana and glad to hear the HM is snoozing soundly!

yes im a bit embarrassed by the fact im preoccupied with false eyelashes but it must be a good sign....

had an email today to say my application for the NHS job has been acknowledged.

dont worry about addressing anyone in particular.....i struggle with that too!

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MechanicalTheatre · 08/02/2013 21:45

The list of stuff I have to do isn't huge...I'm just scared of starting it. I know that sounds stupid.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 08/02/2013 21:51

mT it truly doesnt sound stupid at all - i can really relate to what you are saying.
sometimes i just want to hide or run away rather than face the stuff to do...no matter what it is.

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TheSilveryPussycat · 08/02/2013 21:58

mt what works for me (sometimes) is a very short list (max 3 items). A further wrinkle is to plan the next hour in 15 min blocks, one task per block plus take a rest at the end for the last block...

MechanicalTheatre · 08/02/2013 22:09

Thanks Vicar. Silvery that sounds like it could work for me. Will try it tomorrow and let you know how I get on.

bassetfeet · 08/02/2013 22:29

Excellent advice here as always from our fellow posters . The 15 minute block idea is the only thing that gets me motivated to do any housework at all.
Love the quote "housework burnout " byMama . Totally bemused how I changed from a cleaning fanatic to the slattern I am now.Blush.

Wishing you all a peaceful ,productive weekend ......no headmonsters or agitation. Good restorative sleeps and no inward blaming ourselves if we need a nap or duvet time .

Hope to get out and go walking by the river tomorrow and soothe . Also go to library and find a lightweight book to kickstart my love of reading once more.
Always had a book in my hand and since last year have been completely unable to concentrate nor had the interest .Lost interest in everything ...but it is creeping back Smile

Bit annoyed at the hate posts re nurses and police .....I know bad eggs are in all workplaces but somehow I have taken these comments far too much to heart .
So maybe just maybe I will get my knitting out /read and clean instead of mumsnet over the weekend .
Doubt it though . take care all . I think of you a lot .Flowers and Brew

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ThatVikRinA22 · 08/02/2013 22:43

i doubt it too basset but i should.

i make very short lists....and DH is brill at helping out with housework and washing etc.

i really need to start reading again - i used to read every day but lately i have trouble even picking up a magazine....

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EdwiniasRevenge · 08/02/2013 22:51

Good evening.

Hope helles has got her stars ready for me :)

:) I didn't go back to bed....at all
:) I had a bath
:) I have 'done' my hair
:) I have eaten despite being home alone

Need to pop another load of washing in before I go to bed

Then I plan a reasonably relaxed weekend with as much sleep as I want. I am going to centre parcs with friends on Monday so there will be a week on the go...being sociable....with no naps, followed by a week with no xp for schools runs and respite.....come the 1 March I will be flat on my back for a week.

Crash and burn is definitely something I have to address....it is a pattern which is noted by my therapist today and something I really need to get on top of.

Mechanical. Personally if I make a list of tasks I set myself up for failure because I inevitably miss at least 1 and then feel like I have failed. What works for me is to have a list of important things so I don't forget them....they can be tasks...they can be packing lists/shopping lists.
In reality I tend to decide that I have to "work" for 15mins when I first get up, before lunch, before a nap....and I spend that 15mins doing something 'functional'...and I am not allowed to make lunch/nap/have a bath until I have spent 15mins being functional. You will be amazed what you cn acheive in 15mins and on a good day.....if I get into something 15mins can turn into 45.... So I will be successful if I decide I am going to do 3 tasks tomorrow, but decide what they are when the time comes. If I tell you I am going to clean the bathroom, do some ironing and vacuum...I just won't do it. And once I decide I am going to do something I can often keep going once I get started.

Hope that makes some sense....but just thought I would add what works for me.

Really pleased that nana is sitting firmly on the HM.

Right....am off to bed. Bit bored this evening....b ut think that is a good sign as it means I will want to find something useful to occupy my time....

HellesBelles396 · 09/02/2013 03:42

productive day for ed Grin - what's Brill is how pleased you are - positive emotions are back Grin Grin Grin

HellesBelles396 · 09/02/2013 03:46

are you a perfectionist mt? I have been trying flylady but my perfectionism gets in the way. I'll keep going til a task is done rather than do the min blocks she talks about.

I divide my list into must (urgent and important) and could (important but not yet urgent).

EdwiniasRevenge · 09/02/2013 11:42

I am definitely learning that every positive deserves a :). And that one negative does not cancel out all thr :).

I am in bed.

It is 2 years to the day that I confirmed my xp was having an affair. ..and tomorrow will be 1 year to the day that my step dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer and we started the very short, very intense journey to the end.

My mum has contacted me on fb to say 'weather a bit different to last year' which is her way of saying this time last year we travelled 80miles in an ambulance to the nearest specialist centre at 3am in temperatures of -8ºC...

I dunno what to say. I am not close yo my mum geographically or emotionally. I don't do empathy very well....I bury my hesd in the sand....

TheSilveryPussycat · 09/02/2013 12:38

Sounds like you do understanding quite well though ed. Suggest you reply something weather or seasonally related, but equally metaphorical - something like 'at last seeing the first signs of spring in the garden'.

MechanicalTheatre · 09/02/2013 12:40

Helles, I am utterly a perfectionist. But the thing is I know nothing I ever do will be perfect - so a lot of the time I just don't bother putting any effort into things.

Very hard to get past.

EdwiniasRevenge · 09/02/2013 12:50

Hmm...

Time for a nap...I will reply later....

HellesBelles396 · 09/02/2013 12:51

MT same here - total procrastinator. In some ways would rather be OCD - I'd be equally miserable but in a clean and tidy house!!

Reading Overcoming Perfectionismat the moment. It makes sense but I can't do the exercises in case I do them wrong Hmm

Ed I think Silvery's right about keeping it light with DM. In some ways today (because of XP link) is a day of freedom. How long had you thought you had a good relationship with someone who was willing to cheat on you? This is the anniversary of the day you were set free from that. possible Smile?

SnowyMouse · 09/02/2013 12:52

Hello everyone. I'm wondering whether anyone would mind if I joined your lovely support thread? I have schizoaffective disorder, basically depression and psychotic symptoms, and have had them for 2-3 years now. I'm going through a bit of a blip at the moment, and I like that people here think (short) naps can be valuable.

HellesBelles396 · 09/02/2013 12:57

Tried to have a Bing Bang Teory Marathon with DS last night but we both fell asleep. I woke up at half ten to a whingy 12 year old (starving) and a disgusting kitchen with no clean dishes or pans...

I've been letting myself down.

This morning, so far, I've done half an hour of washing up, put some washing out, fed both of us, hoovered the lounge, dining room and kitchen. Still at level 1 dress (sans-shower). DS at level 2 and playing out Blush.

I have chosen my dissertation title so just have to get on with it now! But there's a family gathering this afternoon - drinks and nibbles at great-aunts Grin. DM and I not speaking Shock Angry. She'll act like everything's fine though. I just don't care any more Sad. At least DB and DSIL will be there as well as 5 DC's Grin

HellesBelles396 · 09/02/2013 12:58

Hi SnowyMouse I think I'm the only one on ATM (everyone else is napping!!) so welcome. Your condition sounds like it must be quite horrendous for you. Are you currently undergoing any treatment?

SnowyMouse · 09/02/2013 13:07

A BBT marathon sounds like fun Smile You sound like you've done a lot today already, I hope the family get together goes ok.

I take antidepressants and antipsychotics, and at the moment the crisis/home treatment team are coming to see me each day, which I'm not awfully keen on. I find MN'ing helps Smile

TheSilveryPussycat · 09/02/2013 13:14
TheSilveryPussycat · 09/02/2013 13:15

helles one way to tackle perfectionism is to deliberately do things wrong!

HellesBelles396 · 09/02/2013 13:16

I am already VERY good at doing the wrong thing!!