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Have you known a therapist with issues

82 replies

SoleSource · 02/08/2012 14:28

Of their own of which have hindered your progress

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SoleSource · 02/08/2012 19:14

I do get a sneaky suspicion she needs me. For ages

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SoleSource · 02/08/2012 19:15

I have not seen her for one month and I have searched fir other therapists. psychodynamic I was doing.

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HecateHarshPants · 02/08/2012 19:16

You need to act. You know that, don't you? Don't be concerned with some idea about 'loyalty' or fear about not being 'liked' or crap like that. Do what you need to do for YOU. You are paying someone to help you work out stuff in your life. That's the only thing. And you are in charge of that relationship.

HecateHarshPants · 02/08/2012 19:17

x post. that's good that you are looking around. Do you need to be in contact with her though?

MadBusLady · 02/08/2012 19:22

I don't know anything about psychodynamic therapy but I've only recently become aware that there are quite as many therapy families as there are. This is something a lot of therapists don't seem to tell you, puzzlingly Confused. Maybe this type just wasn't for you.

SoleSource · 02/08/2012 19:27

No I don' t need to be in contact with her. She called me to ask if I was going to see her tomorrow. I have told her three times that when I want to make an appt I will call her. She asked if I could go to her 15 minutes later than our usual time. I told her I am not going and thst her attitude over certain thungs of which I have given an example here makes me uneasy. She disapproves of me wantung another baby then tonight on phone I asjed her why she would disapprove she replied I do not I tpld you it wouldn't be a giod idea right now. I swear on my DS life she dud not say that she sighed and shook her head. Made me feel terrible.

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HecateHarshPants · 02/08/2012 19:29

Oh god, she sounds awful. Please consider dumping her. Clearly dumping her. "I don't wish to have any further sessions with you, please don't contact me again"

She's going to do some damage to you, if you don't get away from her.

MadBusLady · 02/08/2012 19:33

Erm, yes sighing and shaking your head at client's life choices is not on. Blimey, Sole!

SoleSource · 02/08/2012 19:34

I expected to feel different, lower in myself because things get worse before better but the last 16 months have been a bkessing but a nightmare in that I feel my passuon has gone and liw mood. St Johns Wortbseems to be really helping me. She did some good but she is very middle class and I am not

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mathanxiety · 02/08/2012 19:39

SoleSource -
Find another therapist and report this one.

broodyandpoor · 02/08/2012 19:39

sole source have you looked into add symptoms? Its not laziness it's just difficult to focus on one thing for a sustained period of time,Im sorry youre having difficulties.

broodyandpoor · 02/08/2012 19:40

ADD

SoleSource · 02/08/2012 19:49

Hi broody, I have checked the symptom list for ADD and nah I haven't got it. I isolsted myself after abusive relationship and caring for a child wherethe nature of his disabilities make it virtually impossibkevfor a social life together voupled with no money has made me out of a daily routine and very bored. But even with that saud I feel a lot more positive inside.

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SoleSource · 02/08/2012 19:53

I am glad I had this month off from tberapy as without it at first was scary but being away from it thrte has been a change within me.

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SoleSource · 02/08/2012 19:54

My misplaced loyalty stens from no friends or family, I guess.

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broodyandpoor · 02/08/2012 19:57

That's good to read Sole, so your circumstances caused a natural response from you of feeling down, I am trying to live by a simple tool that a friend recently told me with regards to looking after myself properly and it's
H.A.L.T never to let myself become too Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired- it helps me but I understand your situation is different. I do hop you continue to feel well inside, you deserve to.

SoleSource · 02/08/2012 20:00

Thank you. I di deserve better andu I actually believe it. A miracle after 38 years if believung the opposite. HALT is good I will use it.

Thanks to you all Thanks

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MadBusLady · 02/08/2012 20:06

I like HALT too - thanks broody.

Good luck finding a new therapist Sole.

AngryFeet · 02/08/2012 20:14

My therapist is lovely but she says as part of her work she has to have therapy sessions herself. She has a husband with terminal cancer and a dd who spent all her youth in hospital with a heart condition and nearly died several times but she is amazing with my HA.

A good therapist will let you have a free session so you can be sure they are the right person for you.

AngryFeet · 02/08/2012 20:15

Sorry HA being health anxiety

AngryFeet · 02/08/2012 20:17

Oh and I saw a therapist before her who was AWFUL. Really patronising and did not get me at all. I left as soon as I figured it out and she came after me for 4 more sessions worth of money as that was her contract. Bloody nasty about it she was as well.

cardamomginger · 02/08/2012 20:30

Slightly off topic, but one thing that drives me nuts, that I think is totally unacceptable and smacks of arrogance is the practice some schools of therapy have towards cancelled sessions and fees. If you, the client, cancel FOR WHATEVER REASON AND WITH WHATEVER PERIOD OF NOTICE, you still have to pay. In full. But they, the therapist are allowed to cancel with no notice and without giving any reason.

I think that asymmetry shows a complete lack of respect to clients and basically indicates that the therapist's time is more valuable and important that the client's. It's infantalising and patronising.

I appreciate that therapists need to have continuity and predictability of income, but so does very professional who is self-employed in part or in whole, including hair dressers, beauticians, and other private healthcare professionals. But in no other case is there this policy.

I suppose getting it back on topic, I feel that any therapist who believes that this is an appropriate way t treat people has some kind of issue somewhere and I can't ever fully trust someone with my emotions who, as I perceive it, has this lack of regard for me.

Rant over. Sorry Blush.

cardamomginger · 02/08/2012 20:31

every professional not very....

SoleSource · 02/08/2012 20:32

With regards to fees etc my therapist has been fantastic. Above and beyond the call of duty.

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SoleSource · 02/08/2012 20:40

I think she operates a very different system. I have been very fortunate that way too.

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