Have you known a therapist with issues

[SoleSource]

Of their own of which have hindered your progress

[AmberLeaf]

I'd be very surprise if it wasn't and a relate counsellor would def have a supervisor.

As I said some relate counsellors will be trainees who are doing their practice hours with relate they'd be 3-4th year students. They would definitely be having counselling as part of that training.

Cleo. Lots of trainees don't make it to the end of the course. They also have peer reviews so if there is someone in your study group who you have serious concerns about your feedback is taken onboard.

[Gigondas]

I didn't think own therapy was necessarily part of relate training in way it is for other types of counselling. And to be fair this was some years ago so things may have changed.

[CleoSmackYa]

I knew somebody who was training to be a counsellor and she was the most fucked up messed up person I've ever met.

Out of all the many professionals I've seen, I've only had one I didn't really click with. I think I've been incredibly lucky!

[AmberLeaf]

Also there have been big changes in the qualifications/training of counsellors over the last 2-3 yrs.

Its really not the 'mickey mouse' type thing that some people make it out to be. Its incredibly expensive to study and hard work. 5 years of study isn't something you do without commitment.

[AmberLeaf]

Some relate counsellors are working with relate to gain their practice hours. Some are doing relate training.

It is hard enough for a fully qualified, accredited with BACP counsellors to get a counselling job. There are very few counselling type jobs for the unqualified.

[Gigondas]

For accredited therapy yes amberbut not for lots of counselling type jobs. I will spare you my relate counsellor story. I known its not the same type of basis but the principle of people being impartial still remains.

[AmberLeaf]

as an aside, this is also the reason whenever I hear someone who would like to be a therapist who isn't happy or prepared to do a lot of therapy themselves

They wouldn't get very far with the training or the job if they weren't prepared to have therapy.

It is an essential part of both.

[SoleSource]

I think she operates a very different system. I have been very fortunate that way too.

[SoleSource]

With regards to fees etc my therapist has been fantastic. Above and beyond the call of duty.

[cardamomginger]

every professional not very....

[cardamomginger]

Slightly off topic, but one thing that drives me nuts, that I think is totally unacceptable and smacks of arrogance is the practice some schools of therapy have towards cancelled sessions and fees. If you, the client, cancel FOR WHATEVER REASON AND WITH WHATEVER PERIOD OF NOTICE, you still have to pay. In full. But they, the therapist are allowed to cancel with no notice and without giving any reason.

I think that asymmetry shows a complete lack of respect to clients and basically indicates that the therapist's time is more valuable and important that the client's. It's infantalising and patronising.

I appreciate that therapists need to have continuity and predictability of income, but so does very professional who is self-employed in part or in whole, including hair dressers, beauticians, and other private healthcare professionals. But in no other case is there this policy.

I suppose getting it back on topic, I feel that any therapist who believes that this is an appropriate way t treat people has some kind of issue somewhere and I can't ever fully trust someone with my emotions who, as I perceive it, has this lack of regard for me.

Rant over. Sorry .

[AngryFeet]

Oh and I saw a therapist before her who was AWFUL. Really patronising and did not get me at all. I left as soon as I figured it out and she came after me for 4 more sessions worth of money as that was her contract. Bloody nasty about it she was as well.

[AngryFeet]

Sorry HA being health anxiety

[AngryFeet]

My therapist is lovely but she says as part of her work she has to have therapy sessions herself. She has a husband with terminal cancer and a dd who spent all her youth in hospital with a heart condition and nearly died several times but she is amazing with my HA.

A good therapist will let you have a free session so you can be sure they are the right person for you.

[MadBusLady]

I like HALT too - thanks broody.

Good luck finding a new therapist Sole.

[SoleSource]

Thank you. I di deserve better andu I actually believe it. A miracle after 38 years if believung the opposite. HALT is good I will use it.

Thanks to you all

[broodyandpoor]

That's good to read Sole, so your circumstances caused a natural response from you of feeling down, I am trying to live by a simple tool that a friend recently told me with regards to looking after myself properly and it's
H.A.L.T never to let myself become too Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired- it helps me but I understand your situation is different. I do hop you continue to feel well inside, you deserve to.

[SoleSource]

My misplaced loyalty stens from no friends or family, I guess.

[SoleSource]

I am glad I had this month off from tberapy as without it at first was scary but being away from it thrte has been a change within me.

[SoleSource]

Hi broody, I have checked the symptom list for ADD and nah I haven't got it. I isolsted myself after abusive relationship and caring for a child wherethe nature of his disabilities make it virtually impossibkevfor a social life together voupled with no money has made me out of a daily routine and very bored. But even with that saud I feel a lot more positive inside.

[broodyandpoor]

ADD

[broodyandpoor]

sole source have you looked into add symptoms? Its not laziness it's just difficult to focus on one thing for a sustained period of time,Im sorry youre having difficulties.

[mathanxiety]

SoleSource -
Find another therapist and report this one.

[SoleSource]

I expected to feel different, lower in myself because things get worse before better but the last 16 months have been a bkessing but a nightmare in that I feel my passuon has gone and liw mood. St Johns Wortbseems to be really helping me. She did some good but she is very middle class and I am not

[MadBusLady]

Erm, yes sighing and shaking your head at client's life choices is not on. Blimey, Sole!