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is there a post natal depression/anxiety thread?

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MamaLaMoo · 30/11/2011 16:47

looking for this, will create if not, thanks.

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BellaBoo85 · 27/01/2012 10:13

Hmm yeah you may be right! Haha!
Have you called the doctors yet?? How are you feeling today?
I've had times when I've not coped with a bad day well, and shocked myself at my behaviour. I'm not trying to suggest that it's anything like what you're going through, but just remember you got through it and it shows how strong you're being.
Try not to beat yourself up about it too much. Smile
Let us know how you're doing x

fazsaeed · 27/01/2012 10:23

It's nice to hear your feeling better. I know what it's like to be in that position.
I stopped my ads after 6 months. But im doing ok I suppose. Good days and bad days.
X

Loopymumsy · 27/01/2012 18:59

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BellaBoo85 · 27/01/2012 19:07

Oh I am glad that you were able to tell someone. How are you feeling about your counselling appointment?

Got in from taking DD to her swimming lesson and oh has hardly said 2 words to me for the last hour.
I think its going to be a long weekend. There's clearly something I've done but tbh I've not got it in me to make the effort to lighten the mood.
Right now I really feel like giving up x

Loopymumsy · 27/01/2012 19:19

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BellaBoo85 · 27/01/2012 19:38

We're not even close anymore. I find it too much hard work to even try. Yesterday I thought we need some time just us two, thought maybe try to work at it a bit more. But right now I don't even feel bothered.
I feel like I want me to be ok. But I'm not getting the support I need from oh and haven't from the beginning. So why should i reassure him and try to be there for him and make him ok when he can't do anything for me.
And I know how selfish that sounds but I never put me first. Ever. And I think I need to start doing it more.
I have to pretend I'm ok so it doesn't affect him but I'm not ok.
I am horrible to live with (I've been told) I'm probably not even a very nice person. But I have friends offering to do things for me, things like taking the kids out or offering to have them overnight so I can take a sleeping tablet.
It's not even their place to do it.
But he's quite happy to sit in front of sky sports news all weekend and do fuck all.
Because as long as he's happy then that's alright.

Wow I needed that....rant over Confused

Loopymumsy · 27/01/2012 21:24

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BellaBoo85 · 27/01/2012 23:44

It's really good that you can talk to your oh though. And feel ok about spilling the beans. Smile

I see a counsellor every 2 weeks. We talked a little bit about relationship stuff last time. No doubt it'll be on the agenda next week too!

Sorry to rant at you though Blush x

Loopymumsy · 28/01/2012 07:20

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BellaBoo85 · 28/01/2012 08:56

Thanks Smile

Not sure if it is a word tbh but its one I use too!!
Oh just brought me a cuppa...think he's trying to make up for last night.
He's spoken to me and everything!!

You ok today apart from the tiredness?? Xx

Loopymumsy · 28/01/2012 11:24

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BellaBoo85 · 28/01/2012 17:02

How's your day going? I've been keeping busy just so I don't have to think about things.
When you say there's a hole where your feelings should be do you mean there's just nothing there??
Kind of like everything's just gone?? x

Loopymumsy · 28/01/2012 17:48

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BellaBoo85 · 28/01/2012 19:06

It's my oldest who keeps me sane. My HV pointed it out to me. She said the way she sees it is, if I didn't have my eldest daughter I would of given up a long time ago. And she was right.
My mask is always on around her and I can tell when things are bad cos I let it slip.
She is the reason I get up in a morning. ."x

Loopymumsy · 29/01/2012 19:08

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BellaBoo85 · 29/01/2012 22:34

Shit shit shit shit shit!!

Are you ok loopy ?? How are you feeling about tomorrow? Isn't it your first counselling session xx

Loopymumsy · 30/01/2012 09:55

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BellaBoo85 · 30/01/2012 10:31

Long story!

I had to fill in lots of questionnaires too. The counsellor will probably just ask you lots of questions today to find out what kind of therapy you need. Like I have my sessions (I've got one today) but I'm on the waiting list for CBT.
It will be fine though. I hope it goes well. You'll have to let us know how it goes xx

Loopymumsy · 30/01/2012 18:56

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Loopymumsy · 31/01/2012 06:17

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BellaBoo85 · 31/01/2012 11:59

No not quite.
But thanks for wondering!

Sounds like the assessment went well. Its good you were honest and whoever they refer you to will be the best people to help you.
And obviously that is a very good thing Smile

Hoe are you feeling about it today? x

Loopymumsy · 31/01/2012 13:13

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Loopymumsy · 31/01/2012 14:50

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BellaBoo85 · 31/01/2012 21:08

So I guess now you need to wait to hear from them for an appointment. Hope it won't take too long.
Do you feel ok about it?? x

Loopymumsy · 31/01/2012 21:23

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