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Will having dc3 put me back to being suicidal?

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luckywinner · 28/06/2011 13:57

I just found out I am accidently/unplanned pregnant. I already have 2 dc aged 6 and 4. Last year I suffered a monumental breakdown where I became suicidal. After help from my mum and mum-in-law, a psychiatrist and seeing a therapist, I have managed to get myself to a place where I am beginning to enjoy life. I take pleasure in the little things, I enjoy being with my family, I am not so afraid or anxious. I was even booking myself into a course on upholstery.

But since peeing on that stick, I feel like things have spiralled out of control. I am frozen with fear. I have gone back to being barely able to cook my children's tea. I feel numb. Its like going back six months. I have even made an appointment with BPAS for tomorrow to discuss a termination. I just am so afraid that I won't be able to cope. That this is going to send me back into oblivion. I cannot risk the well being of my mental health, or making my children suffer with a mother who can be so unwell. And my dh will also suffer too. I have fought so hard to get to where I am, I just can't believe it can unravel so easily.

I feel like I cannot make a decision when I am so overwhelmed by fear. Either option feels like a bad decision. I don't know what to do. I am not sure what I want to achieve with this thread. I just wanted to put it all down. I am all over the place. Plus feeling so sick and and tired is really not helping matters. Dh works really long hours and I feel alone with this worry. I really don't have long to decide what to do.

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luckywinner · 10/09/2011 14:15

Hi Imlost. That is so bizarre. I have literally just posted on your thread before I saw this one. Your post really struck a chord with me. I know that feeling of just not knowing what to do. I am now 18 weeks. I am just starting to feel the baby move. I definitely don't regret cancelling the abortion. I really am ok. I still have my bad days. Today is not particularly great. But I haven't sank back into that frightened state. I feel occasionally nervous about what is going to happen in February. It is such a long time since I had a newborn and my dc are so much more independent now. I think that is what frightens me. But I think I will be ok.

What is it do you think that frightens you the most? Please feel free to pm me if you would prefer. The girls on this thread were amazing (thank you all if you are reading this). They really listened to me in my worst state. You are not on your own with this. It is important you voice your worries/fears.

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